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It was been a year for Lesbian Life. I want to thank my fans. Thank you so much. I want everyone to be themselves and don't let anyone judge you. If they do, that means, they don't love themselves. -- Aliya Leigh
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Ever since Cher’s daughter Chastity Bono — now Chaz Bono — announced she was beginning the process of becoming a man – many have wondered what exactly a sex change involves.
In order to get that answer, FOXNews.com talked to Dr. Marci Bowers, an internationally renowned surgeon who performs more than 200 gender-related surgeries a year at her clinic in Trinidad, Colo.
“There’s no one way to transition,” Bowers told FOXNews.com. “But generally a patient receives some type of psychological counseling in the beginning. Once they have therapy, they will then undergo a combination of hormone treatments — usually in conjunction with living in their desired gender role full-time for a year.”
Bono, 40, reportedly began taking hormones and living as a man shortly after his birthday in March, which means he still has a long road filled with many decisions ahead of him.
The fact is – female-to-male transition is not cut and dry. There are many options out there, according to Bowers.
“The one procedure that female-to-males usually do is the chest procedure or mastectomy,” she said. “It’s a surgery where their breasts are removed or modified in a way that gives them a male contour.”
Bowers estimates that the vast majority — around 90 percent — of female-to-male patients opt to get the chest surgery.
“And then some of the other surgeries they may choose may be a hysterectomy, and that might be more along the lines of like 50-to-50,” Bowers said. “And then even less commonly, genital surgery of some form is done.”
One procedure is phalloplasty, which involves the creation of a “sizable but largely non-functional” phallus, Bowers said.
“Some people also choose to have testicles implanted. Some choose to remove a part of the vagina, called a vaginectomy and then close the opening. But we’re seeing some people retain those parts and even use them for sexual gratification.”
The bottom-line, Bowers said, is that it’s all about personal choice.
“Like anything, there’s diversity in choices and in how people choose to express their gender,” she said. “So again, this is a choice. Some people want the vagina gone… they want testicles and they want a penis.”
In addition to phalloplasty, there’s an alternative procedure called a metoidioplasty.
“That’s where the clitoris is released and it grows in response to testosterone,” she said. “In essence, it becomes a small penis.”
Pluses and Minuses of Surgery
“I think the difficulty is in some of the surgical aspects,” Bowers said. “Each surgery has its drawbacks – but the surgery from female to male just isn’t perfect.”
On the other hand, Bowers said, female-to-male candidates are more socially acceptable at an early stage because they blend into society at a much quicker pace.
“Testosterone is enormously powerful,” she said. “Patients get chest hair, they get facial hair, they get male pattern hair recession and even balding in some cases. So socially they fit in immediately as men. Their voice drops… sometimes their feet grow… and they’re very much men in a short amount of time – a shockingly short amount of time.”
One message Bowers wants to get out is that the sex-change process goes far beyond surgery.
“Sometimes what people get hung up on is that it’s all about the surgery. And the fact is it’s really all about their gender role and how society perceives them. In fact, it’s estimated that 80 percent of transgender persons never undergo surgery.”
At her practice in Colorado, Bowers said she only sees the “crème de la crème” of people who can actually afford to go under the knife.
“It’s very expensive surgery that is not generally covered by insurance,” she said. “Some surgeries are very simple and can cost as little as $4,000. But I’ve heard of people spending anywhere from $80,000 to $100,000 for all sorts of surgical procedures. It’s highly variable.”
Bowers said she doesn’t think there is such a thing as a perfect candidate for surgery.
“Who are we to judge who is a perfect candidate?” she said. "I think if you feel it in your heart and soul and you feel it’s something you have to do…. then you have to do it.”
The Story of Dr. Marci Bowers
Bowers is not only a leading expert in the field of genital reassignment surgery -- or gender-confirming surgery, as she likes to call it -- but she was also a patient at one time.
“I had a very typical story,” she said. “I felt differently from a very early age and I largely hid things from my parents. I grew up in a small southern Wisconsin town in a very, very traditional family. My parents weren’t really aware until I was literally on the doorstep of transitioning.”
That was in 1996, when Dr. Mark Bowers was an accomplished obstetrician-gynecologist with a career spanning 20 years. He had been married for 11 years — a union that produced three children.
“Well, it was a bumpy road working through those details because it’s just a very awkward, inherently embarrassing disclosure to make,” she said. “It certainly took a lot of — I guess I’d call it careful negotiation.”
To this day, Bowers is still legally married and spends as much time as possible with her two daughters and son, who live in Seattle, Wash.
“We just have an interesting family and its sort of what I’d call it a 21st century family because it certainly is non-traditional,” she said. “But I think the lesson for any family is if you respect each other, find a way to love each other, you can really transcend things like this.”
Her Life in “The Sex Change Capital of the World”
After an extensive career in Washington, Bowers moved to Trinidad, Colo. — known as the sex change capital of the world — in 2003 to work side-by-side with renowned sexual reassignment surgeon Dr. Stanley Biber. Over a 30-year career, Biber, who died in 2006, performed more than 5,000 sex-change operations.
“I had actually been down there to visit him in 2000 because there were some people in Seattle who had worked for him,” Bowers said. “And they just said they had this amazing practice and I got the chance to meet with him and he said “we’re really looking for a surgeon and we’re hoping to recruit someone or have someone come,” and his idea was that I’d do obstetrics and then gradually take over the surgery division.”
Six months after she started working with Biber, Bowers did her first solo surgery, and she hasn’t looked back since. During her time in Trinidad, Bowers has performed more than 550 male-to-female surgeries and does an average of 220 gender-related surgeries every year.
“It just keeps unfolding and it’s been interesting the entire way,” she said. “I certainly don’t have any complaints. I’ve had an interesting life and it keeps getting more interesting, it seems.”
Although Bowers’ main focus is on gender reassignment surgeries, she is also working on several other projects to improve the health of people from all corners of the globe.
“We are the first center in North America actually that’s going be doing female genital mutilation reversal. We’ve now done two sets of patients from Africa — so that’s kind of the latest and greatest thing we’re up to,” she said.
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Megan McCain really wants the Republican party to accept the GLBT community. I'm a Republican and a lesbian, why? Because I do believe in the freedom of this country, small government and fiscal responsibility.
I also feel, the Democratic party doesn't accept the GLBT community, as well. Think about, if the democratic party cared so much for our rights, we would have them by now.
Maine is Democratic and they are voting against gay marriage, so it takes a person not a party to stand up for rights.
Megan McCain is on a mission to accept the GLBT community into the Republican party. Little does she knows, they are already there.
Investigators in New York City raided circulation offices at some of the nation's largest newspapers Tuesday as part of a union corruption probe, a law enforcement official said.
Police officers working with the Manhattan district attorney's office searched circulation offices of The New York Times in Queens, the New York Post and the Daily News in Manhattan, and El Diario in Brooklyn, the official said, speaking to The Associated Press on the condition of anonymity because the investigation is ongoing.
Investigators were seeking paperwork related to the Newspaper and Mail Deliverers Union, which packages and delivers newspapers across the region.
Calls to the union's headquarters were not answered Tuesday. The news deliverers' parent union, the International Brotherhood of Teamsters, referred inquiries to the local union.
The New York Times issued a statement saying that the office of an employee at its plant in Queens' College Point area had been searched but that its news side was not part of the investigation.
Rosana Rosado, publisher of El Diario-La Prensa, also said that the Spanish-language newspaper is not a subject of the investigation and that the search warrant was seeking information into allegations of corruption at the union.
Bob Leonard of Dan Klores Communications, speaking for the Daily News, declined to comment on the raid. A call to the Post was not returned.
The 1,600-member union wields considerable power over news companies that rely on their drivers to deliver hundreds of thousands of papers each day, and allegations of connections to organized crime are not new.
District Attorney Robert Morgenthau charged that the union was under mob control more than a decade ago, after an investigation that also involved a 1992 search of the Post and Daily News offices.
The probe led to criminal charges against union members including then-President Douglas LaChance, who authorities accused of being an associate of the Luchese crime family. He was acquitted in 1995 of strong-arming the Post into switching delivery companies.
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New Face of Psychotic, Twisted, Gory,
Experimental Crafted Horror
Phoenix,
AZ (November 11,
2009)
- Aliya
Leigh,
is a hot sexy lesbian republican scriptwriter,blogger,
podcaster, voice over actress and author; who speaks her mind about
anything. Her
message comes from world events, her heart and life. She will make
you laugh, cry and be in shock. From titles like, “Drink Urine and
Lose Weight”, “We
Need Abortion”, and “Gay McCain”. With
a new film script, she
is the psychotic demented horror writer with a score to settle.
Aliya
Leigh is announcing her first major film script, called “I Love
You”. "I Love You", Brenda Lopez was raised by a mother who sold her to men, but found love when she met Alex. Zack tells his brother Alex his feelings towards Brenda; which starts a psychotic, twisted, graphic, gory experimental game of the mind and physical strength.
Will Brenda and Zack survive?
“People have described the script, as a bad acid trip without the acid,” Aliya Leigh says.
In
addition to writing horror scripts, she is looking to workfor
a film or television production companyor
studio, as a writer or editor, and looking for voice over work.
The
film script, “I Love You”, is ready to be sold to production
companies and studios.
About
Aliya Leigh
Aliya
Leigh is the host of a podcast called, “Lesbian Life”,
(http://aliyaleighlive.libsyn.com).
Since February 2008 to today, her listeners has grown from 500 to
40,000 downloads a day. With the success of “Lesbian Life”, she
started a weekly show based on fairy tales characters with attitude,
teenage problems and
lack of
common
sense called “Wonderland” (http://wonderland.podbean.com).
In “Wonderland”, she perform all the voices for the show, from
simple minded Alice to Deville the Prince of Darkness to Strawberry
Shortcake the Muslim. She is a contributing writer for Carpe Diem
Fashion Magazine. She has written books and treatments for
television. She also produces and workson
indie films around Arizona.
Aliya
Leigh performs community service around her community and a Trustee
on the National Writer’s Union board. She make appearances at
literary award shows, speaks at seminars about copyrighting and other
topics which plagues the writing world, and acts
as a fundraiser for causes.
In
her spare time, she plays video games, hang out with friends, travels
and plays
her violin. She is a member of Log Cabin (Republican group in the
LGBT community), ASCAP, National Writer’s Union and an
active
member of her church.
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Some of the most innovative, interesting, and, well, strange tech has nothing to do with computing monoliths like Google or Microsoft. And it's just around the corner.
Here's our list of the tech trends, products, and innovations that are available today — or coming online shortly — and how they'll affect your life next year.
1. You'll attend an online funeral Sites such as Otrib.com and Tributes.com let you leave a memorial to loved ones who have passed on. But some people are holding the funeral itself online, using webcasting services at sites such as Funeralrecording.com and Funeralone.com. This lets anyone attend, from anywhere.
Why the trend is important: Webcasting a funeral might sound morbid, but it means more people can share in the life of someone without the expense of travel.
2. You'll start life-casting
Given the confluence of ubiquitous cell phone use, high-speed 3G service, and a growing desire to connect with people in more tangible ways, life-casting has finally arrived. Services such as Qik.com let you stream a live video from your cell to the world without the usual video hiccups and complex setup.
Why the trend is important: YouTube videos are static. They capture a fleeting moment, but not as it happens in real-time. Life-casting is the true expression of our own self-worth (ahem).
3. Your body will control video games
Microsoft is championing a new Xbox controller: you. The technology, called Project Natal, lets you perform dance movies or kick a ball, while a camera tracks your movements using infrared and shows the results on screen. A microphone can also capture voice commands. Meanwhile, Sony has announced the PlayStation Motion Controller, a wand that helps accomplish the same you-as-the-controller goal.
Why the trend is important: It's about time someone invented a better way to shoot bad guys than the same joysticks and gamepads we've used for the last few decades.
4. You'll leave your tape measure at home
A new service called GeoEstimator uses satellites and aerial photographs to make roof measurements that are just as accurate as making the measurements in person. The service can help contractors, insurance companies, and estimators avoid crawling up on roofs.
Why the trend is important: Virtual measurements save time, sure, but they also pave the way for the further integration of satellite data in our lives, such as determining exact property boundaries.
5. You'll (finally) use a content aggregator
You probably already know about Digg.com and other services that help you find interesting stories and pictures. And plenty of sites — such as YouTube.com — let you share goofy videos. Toobla.com is different: It's an aggregator for videos, photos, documents and Web sites, so you can not only store videos and photos but share them online. It's also more visual than a storage service such as Box.net.
Why the trend is important: We're all inundated with too many digital files, and Toobla does a good job of making the storage more interesting and accessible for your friends and family members.
6. You'll burn your business cards
Salespeople hand them out at trade shows and they might help you win a free lunch. That's right: business cards just won't die. Several iPhone apps – such as Beezcard and SnapDat – allow you to share contact details, but not everyone has an iPhone. A Swiss company has made the PokenZoo, a cute, inexpensive device you touch to another Poken to swap contacts.
Why the trend is important: Saves paper, but also finally alleviates business workers from having to carry these annoying cards around whether they go.
7. You'll chat with faceless minions
One new trend regurgitates an age-old concept: On sites such as Omegle.com, you can chat with complete strangers. AOL has provided this capability for eons (isn't that what chat boards are all about?), but Omegle.com puts a random spin on it, pairing you safely and anonymously with an arbitrary total stranger. You can chat with some dude in Norway or Japan in less than 5 seconds.
Why the trend is important: Other than the fun factor, Omegle indicates the final piece in the globalization puzzle.
8. Your gadgets will have gadgets
Cell-phone boosters have become popular in the past few years, purporting to improve coverage and signal quality. Most have added, oh, one bar at most. The zBoost ONE (www.wi-ex.com) can boost your connection up three bars. The device is so innovative, it won a Consumer Electronics Association (CEA) award recently.
Why the trend is important: People in rural areas and deep within office complexes often can't participate in the mobile revolution. A booster makes high-speed access viable for everyone.
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Gay activists were frustrated that Obama, who insists he staunchly supports their overall civil rights agenda, didn't speak out forcefully in defense of Maine's marriage law before Tuesday's referendum.
SAN FRANCISCO - Stunned and angry, national gay rights leaders Wednesday blamed scare-mongering ads — and President Barack Obama's lack of engagement — for a bitter election setback in Maine that could alter the dynamics for both sides in the gay-marriage debate.
Conservatives, in contrast, celebrated Maine voters' rejection of a law that would have allowed gay couples to wed, depicting it as a warning shot that should deter politicians in other states from pushing for same-sex marriage.
"Every time the citizens have voted on marriage, they have always sided with natural marriage," said Mathew Staver, founder of Liberty Counsel, a Florida-based Christian legal group. "Maine dramatically illustrates the will of the people, and politicians should wake up and listen."
Gay activists were frustrated that Obama, who insists he staunchly supports their overall civil rights agenda, didn't speak out forcefully in defense of Maine's marriage law before Tuesday's referendum. The law was repealed in a vote of 53 percent to 47 percent.
"President Obama missed an opportunity to state his position against these discriminatory attacks with the clarity and moral imperative that would have helped in this close fight," said Evan Wolfson of the national advocacy group Freedom to Marry. "The anti-gay forces are throwing millions of dollars into various unsubtle ads aimed at scaring people, so subtle statements from the White House are not enough."
The White House, asked about the criticism, had no immediate comment.
The marriage debate is simmering in at least a half-dozen states where a same-sex marriage bill is pending or where a court ruling or existing law is being eyed by conservatives for possible challenge.
Had Maine's law been upheld by voters, it would have become the sixth state to legalize gay marriage — and the first to affirm it by popular vote. In Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Iowa, gay marriage resulted from court decisions or legislation.
California is sure to be a major battleground over the next several years. Last year, conservatives succeeded in winning public approval of Proposition 8, which overturned a state court ruling allowing gay marriage. Gay rights groups want to take the issue back to the voters but are divided on a timetable.
In the aftermath of the Maine vote, some California activists appealed to their supporters for money to help them put a measure on the 2010 ballot. Other activist leaders want to wait until 2012.
"It's never too early to go back to right a fundamental wrong," said Chaz Lowe of Yes! on Equality, who favors shooting for 2010. "A lot of people are angry, a lot of people are upset. It at least has the potential to be a mobilization for the grass roots."
Some California activists said the outcome in Maine strengthened their belief that it will fall to the U.S. Supreme Court — not the voters — to make gay marriage legal. A federal lawsuit challenging Prop. 8 is scheduled to go to trial in January, the first step in a legal journey that is expected to reach the high court in a few years.
"The results in Maine underscore exactly why we are challenging California's same-sex marriage ban," said Chad Griffin, president of the American Foundation for Equal Rights, the Los Angeles group spearheading the lawsuit. "The U.S. Constitution guarantees equal rights to every American, and when those rights are violated, it is the role of our courts to protect us, regardless of what the polls say."
The situation elsewhere:
_ In New Jersey, the election Tuesday of Republican Chris Christie as governor puts extra pressure on gay rights supporters to win passage of a pending same-sex marriage bill before the legislative session ends in January. Christie says he would veto such a bill, while lame-duck Gov. Jon Corzine, a Democrat, says he would sign it.
_ In Iowa, where the state Supreme Court legalized gay marriage last April, conservatives have no quick way to overturn the ruling. Their only option would be to amend the state constitution through a ballot measure — in 2014 at the earliest — and that effort would need approval from a legislature whose current Democratic leaders don't even want to debate the issue.
_ In New Hampshire, conservatives have filed legislation to repeal the state's new gay-marriage law and amend the constitution to ban such unions. Kevin Smith, executive director of the conservative Cornerstone Policy Research, said he doubts the measures will pass, but hopes the vote in Maine will give gay-marriage opponents ammunition for the 2010 elections.
"It gives us more fodder to go back to people and say, 'Look, they aren't letting you vote on it,'" Smith said.
_ In Washington, D.C., conservatives are trying to force a popular vote on a bill headed toward City Council approval that would legalize gay marriage. Michael Crawford, one of the leaders of the local pro-gay marriage campaign, said the result in Maine increased his determination to avoid a ballot measure.
"The same cabal of anti-gay groups who stripped away marriage equality from our families in California and Maine now have their sights on D.C.," he said.
Crawford was among numerous gay rights leaders complaining about the campaign tactics of the groups that opposed same-sex marriage in Maine and California.
In both states, California-based political strategist Frank Schubert oversaw an advertising campaign warning that "homosexual marriage" would be taught in public schools.
The campaign to defend gay marriage countered that Maine's state curriculum guidelines contain no reference to marriage, and the state's Democratic attorney general, Janet Mills, issued an opinion backing that up. But the ads continued.
"It is infuriating to see that the same fear-mongering ads that were used to pass Prop. 8 a year ago have triumphed again at the expense of so many," said Joe Solmonese of the Human Rights Campaign, the largest national gay rights group.
Tony Perkins, president of the conservative Family Research Council, came away with a different message.
"Over and over again, the American people have affirmed marriage at the ballot box and turned aside the demands of a movement that remains largely driven by Hollywood, some extreme activists and a few activist judges," he said. "We hope the message sent by Maine's voters will be heard in Washington and state capitals around the nation."
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Despite the collective outings of Ellen DeGeneres, Elton John, Rosie
O'Donnell and Olympic diver Greg Louganis, homophobia is alive and well
-- especially in the small towns of the Deep South. Focusing on the
day-to-day struggles of two Mississippi gay bars and the grateful
patrons who often travel hundreds of miles to find them, filmmaker Malcolm Ingram reveals a surprisingly close community that treats its residents like family members.
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Spirit Journeys: Mystics & Muses
Friday & Saturday: December 11 & 12, 2009, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
Sunday, December 13, 2009, 4:00pm Church of the Epiphany 2222 S. Price Road, Tempe
Join
us as we honor and celebrate the winter holidays of Chanukah,
Christmas, Kwanzaa and Winter Solstice. Our Spirit Journeys, both as a
society and individuals, often contain a dual nature: the more serious
spiritual element circumscribed in mystery and expressed through a
mystical nature, and the lighter side of the holidays, found in the
creative "imp.” Along with a performance of pieces from Benjamin
Brittain's Ceremony of Carols, we will also bring you an
arrangement of Silver Bells and a piece entitled Deck the Halls in 7/8,
which is a rhythmic version of the holiday classic.
**Faith Lutheran does not have accessible bathroom.
Exquisite Journey: Fierce Beauty
Friday & Saturday, March 12 & 13, 2010, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
The
March concert is presented in honor of Women"s History Month and will
examine the journey of fear, chaos and even joy that comes with a life
threatening illness. Our desire is to present the intensity and
fierceness that the human spirit displays during these times. The
centerpiece of the concert will be Diane Benjamin’s Where I Live: A Breast Cancer Oratorio.
This sublime work brings together strings, percussion, choir, soloist
and narrator in a stunning musical/spoken word offering that leads us
through the uncertain journey of illness and recovery. The second half
of the concert offers music that will be a celebration of the
determination and resiliency of the human spirit. Plan now to be part
of this very moving event.
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Passionate Journeys: Passionate Kisses!
Friday & Saturday, June 11 & 12, 2010, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
We
will close our season with our traditional concert about love and
relationships. With music that covers a multitude of genres, we will
present songs of love and relationships and the often ensuing chaos
each one brings. We
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Empire Talent and Model Agency, I think, is fine for modeling because I do not have the knowledge on how they treat their models.
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My film script "I Love You", will be given to the highest bidder.
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WASHINGTON (AP) - Forget Sarah Palin. The maverick female of the Republican Party is Maine Sen. Olympia Snowe.
The 62-year-old, moderate Maine lawmaker announced Tuesday she will vote for a Democratic health care bill, breaking with her party and giving a major boost to President Barack Obama's goal of expanding coverage.
"When history calls, history calls," Snowe told her colleagues on the Senate Finance Committee, several hours into the debate.
Snowe had kept virtually all of Washington guessing how she would vote. She had not even let Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, D-Nev., in on her secret.
Then she captured all of Washington's attention.
"The status quo approach has produced one glaring common denominator, that is that we have a problem that is growing worse not better," she said in explaining her support for the bill.
While she described the legislation as flawed, she said it bolsters what works in the nation's health care system as well as trying to rein in the rising costs of health care.
Democrats, aware that Snowe could be the only Republican in Congress to vote for their health care overhaul, have spent months addressing her concerns about making it affordable and how to pay for it. Obama has sought her vote in phone calls and meetings.
Snowe made clear to her Democratic colleagues that her support could be a one-shot deal.
"My vote today is my vote today. It does not forecast my vote tomorrow," she said.
With her support, however, Democrats might have the 60th vote required to overcome Republican objections to the bill. Snowe's support would mean that the final version of the bill could _ technically _ be called bipartisan, a key tenet of Obama's agenda.
Snowe has broken with her party on several occasions.
Earlier this year, she was one of three Republicans who crossed party lines to vote for Obama's $787 billion economic stimulus bill. Before that, she defied then-President George W. Bush and voted for legislation he eventually vetoed _ but that later passed under Obama _ providing health care to millions of children.
Snowe also was one of the "Gang of 14" Democratic and Republican senators who resolved a standoff over judicial nominations.
In Maine, former Gov. Angus King, a political independent, compared Snowe's decision to the late Republican Sen. Margaret Chase Smith's "Declaration of Conscience" speech in which she called for the nation _ and her own party _ to reject McCarthyism.
"This is a vote of conscience and a vote of concern for her constituents and concern for the country. And I think it took plenty of courage. I don't think it's possible for any of us to fully appreciate the pressure she's under and has been under to vote with her Republican colleagues," King said. "The fact that she was willing to split with them, I think, is a real testament to her integrity."
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Associated Press writer David Sharp in Portland, Maine contributed to this report.
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PHOENIX - State employees in Arizona can take advantage of domestic-partner benefits for the next 12 months even though the Legislature's last budget took them away.
The Department of Administration says the benefit will be available until October 2010, because cutting it before then might put the state in violation of contract laws.
The benefit was to be cut off when the state's insurance plan began Oct. 1, but the budget won't take effect until nearly two months into the contract period.
An opinion by the Attorney General's Office concluded the benefit's elimination during this fiscal year would conflict with employees' expectations.
The administration of former Gov. Janet Napolitano created the benefit through a policy change and won its approval from a board.
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NEW YORK — New York City police say a 49-year-old gay man leaving a corner deli near his home was beaten by two men in an apparent hate crime.
Jack Price remains in a medically induced coma. He is in serious but stable condition.
Police say the two suspects taunted Price and yelled anti-gay slurs while he was in the store early Friday. They attacked him outside, not far from his home in the middle-class Queens neighborhood of College Point.
Twenty-six-year-old Daniel Aleman was arrested Sunday and charged with assault and aggravated assault as a hate crime. The name of his attorney was not on record.
A second suspect is being sought. The police department's Hate Crimes Task Force is investigating.
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Since 1901, the Nobel Prize has been
honoring men and women from all corners of the globe
for outstanding achievements in physics, chemistry, medicine,
literature, and for work in peace.
The foundations for the prize were laid in 1895 when Alfred Nobel
wrote his last will, leaving much of his wealth to the establishment
of the Nobel Prize. But who was Alfred Nobel? Articles, photographs,
a slide show and poetry written by Nobel himself are presented here
to give a glimpse of a man whose varied interests are reflected in
the prize he established. Meet Alfred Nobel - scientist, inventor,
entrepreneur, author and pacifist.
Qualified Nominators
The right to submit proposals for the
Nobel Peace Prize shall, by statute, be enjoyed by:
1.
Members of national
assemblies and governments of states;
2.
Members of international
courts;
3.
University rectors;
professors of social sciences, history, philosophy, law and
theology; directors of peace research institutes and foreign
policy institutes;
4.
Persons who have been
awarded the Nobel Peace Prize;
5.
Board members of
organizations who have been awarded the Nobel Peace
Prize;
6.
Active and former members
of the Norwegian Nobel Committee; (proposals by members of
the Committee to be submitted no later than at the first
meeting of the Committee after February 1) and
7.
Former advisers appointed
by the Norwegian Nobel Institute.
The Nobel Peace Prize may also be awarded
to institutions and associations.
Source: http://nobelprize.org
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1 and 1o Youth Services is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving and assisting lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (lgbt) youth. We provide youth with a tools to improve self-esteem and acceptance of who they are,
The youth we work with range in age from 14 to 22. We create a safe space, mentally and physically, for youth of all socio-economic and cultural backgrounds. Our weekly discussion groups cover a wide range of social, educational, health, and community issues. Youth with particular needs have the option to speak with peers or volunteers one-on-one, in a supervised setting. We offer resources for healthy living and making healthy choices, as well as social networking opportunities appropriate for developing leadership skills and having fun.
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HCG
is an acronym for the hormone Human Chorio Gonadotropin, which is found
in both men and women, though pregnant women have the highest levels of
HCG in their bodies. HCG injections or supplements are typically given
to women who need help ovulating and to men who want to increase their
sperm count. A daily HCG injection is also one component of the
controversial HCG diet plan.
The HCG hormone can be made synthetically or extracted from a
pregnant woman's urine and then processed for use by other humans. The
HCG diet shots are said to benefit both men and women similarly, though
experts don't recommend that women get the injections if they are
already pregnant or nursing, and thus already have elevated HCG levels.
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Advocates
of the HCG diet believe that, by adhering to the diet plan and taking
daily injections of HCG, participants can successfully reach their
targeted weight. They say that dieters following the HCG diet should
expect to lose somewhere between a half pound and 3 pounds (.23 to 1.36
kilograms) each day on the low-calorie, high-fiber plan [source: HCG Diet Info].
The diet has its fair share of believers. After all, any eating plan
that consists of a mere 500 calories will most likely result in weight
loss. But, at the same time, some people have found that the injections
made no difference [source: Sylvester]. And the drug lacks substantial research, so exposing your body to such a restrictive diet may not be in your best interests.
To know if the HCG diet is right for you, be sure to read about
the specifics of the plan and the possible dangers. Check out the next
page for information on the day-to-day dieting plan.
HCG Diet Plan
Long Time Coming
HCG diet ideas have been around since the early 1950s, which is when
Dr. ATW Simeons presented the diet plan to the public [source: HCG Weight Loss].
Shifting
into the HCG diet is likely to be quite a lifestyle change.
Participants are required to cut their caloric intake to roughly 500
calories and take a daily injection of HCG hormones. More water,
vegetables and fiber in the daily meal plan is said to accelerate the
weight loss [source: HCG Weight Loss].
There is no established exercise regimen, and the duration of the diet
is up to the individual, as the plan dictates that the rules be
followed until the target goal is reached.
The original HCG diet plan is quite restrictive and particular. For
breakfast, you can have only tea or coffee without sugar. The diet puts
a one-tablespoon limit on how much milk you can consume each day, so if
you require milk with your coffee and tea, you'll want to keep this in
mind. For lunch and dinner, you can cook 100 grams (.22 pounds) of lean
meat or seafood and pair it with one vegetable from this list of 13:
asparagus, beet greens, cabbage, celery, chard, chicory, cucumbers,
fennel, green salad, onions, red radishes, spinach and tomatoes. For
lunch and dinner, you can eat one toast cracker and an orange, apple,
half a grapefruit or strawberries [source: Goldsmith].
Advocates of the HCG Diet say that combining the extremely
low-calorie diet with the HCG hormone injections will lead to immediate
weight loss without the common side effects of many restrictive diets,
such as hunger pains, headaches and nausea. They believe that because
the HCG injections burn fat, the hormone provides the body with
necessary energy while reducing hunger and keeping the body out of
starvation mode [source: Derma Health Institute].
Read the next page to explore the other component of this diet, the HGC hormone injections.
HCG Diet Injections
Don't Try to Dodge the HCG Shots
The diet plan that is recommended for those who are entering the HCG
diet is quite strict. It limits you to 500 calories per day, which is
far below the recommended daily value. Proponents of the HCG diet
suggest that this kind of low-calorie diet is not safe unless combined
with the HCG injections. Don't attempt a 500-calorie diet plan without
the injections and certainly not without talking to your doctor first
[source: Brennan].
The HCG diet's success rests on its namesake -- the HCG hormone.
Before starting, it's in your best interest to understand how the
hormone is administered and what it does. Administration is usually
through two methods -- either an oral supplement or a liquid injection.
An injection for weight loss contains somewhere between 125 IU and 200
IU [source: HCG Weight Loss].
The best places for HCG injections are just beneath the skin or
straight into a muscle. For your safety and comfort, you may want to
ask your doctor to demonstrate the correct injection technique before
trying it on yourself [source: Drugs].
You also need to understand what the hypothalamus
is. This gland is responsible for regulating your body's fat storage
and metabolism. The HCG shots are said to command your hypothalamus to
release fat from storage, which triggers your body to combine that fat
and your 500 calories as energy. Then the shots should help your body
get rid of excess fat by burning it daily [source: HCG Diet Info].
After dedicating yourself to the daily 500-calorie diet and the HCG
injections, advocates say you'll have better eating habits for the rest
of your life. Once you've achieved your target weight, it's a good idea
to leave the drastic diet but maintain a sustainable, healthy lifestyle
[source: HCG Diet Info].
After all, you can't count on your body to maintain your goal weight if
you immediately fall back into your old eating habits.
Click to the next page to find out what dangers exist if you decide to go on the HCG diet.
HCG Diet Dangers
Take Caution before Taking HCG
Before using HCG injections for dieting purposes, be sure to check with
your doctor and review your medical history. Certain health conditions,
such as early puberty or any cancer that affects hormone levels, will
likely mean your body isn't fit for HCG. In these cases, professionals
will likely advise you to skip the injections [source: Drugs].
The
FDA has approved HCG injections for use in fertility issues, but not in
dieting. There haven't been enough comprehensive studies to test and
ensure its capabilities. While advocates claim that lower doses of the
hormone are used for dieting, the scientific and medical communities
still lack substantial evidence that the HCG shots are safe over an
extended period of time [source: Goldsmith].
There are a few dangers that come with injecting HCG into your body.
First of all, you want to make sure the medication hasn't gone bad,
either by changing color or accumulating particles. As with any
injected medication, the potential for blood clots exists. Some women
who have injected HCG have experienced a serious condition called ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome
(OHSS). OHSS can be deadly, so you should take note of symptoms like
pelvic pain and stomach, arm or leg swelling. Other less serious side
effects might be headaches and depression. Young boys taking HCG might
experience premature puberty [source: Drugs]. Pregnant or nursing women could cause harm to their babies if the hormone is passed on [source: HCG Diet Info].
And although advocates claim that HCG keeps the body functioning
properly, a diet of 500 calories is below virtually any healthy amount
recommended by most doctors. Weight loss is almost guaranteed when
you're eating so much less than the recommended daily allowance, but
you may risk your health. And although the HCG is supposed to help with
side effects, in one study the HCG injections showed no different
feelings or results than a placebo injection [source: Sylvester].
The HCG diet has the potential for incredible results, but not
without the risk of significant side effects. As with any diet, you
should always talk to your doctor before implementing any significant
change. To learn more, visit the links on the following page.
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Have Faith and you will have the perfect life and the perfect friends.
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Hello, everyone. Please check out Booty Call Love. It talks about one of my booty calls who I have not talked to in a while, made me think about life, love and my future. Check it out. Plus, I will be podcasting tonight. So, be ready and willing to view my crazy life.
I emailed a girl who I cared about, deeply and I will shared that with you. Plus, the drama in the AZ.
OH LORD.
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* Seek first the kingdom in your heart and everything else will follow
* The kingdom is within yourself. Do whatever makes you happy.
* Do whatever lifts your spirts in life.
* You choose if you want to live happy or sad. It's your life, you live it how you want.
* How do you feel about yourself? If you like yourself continue doing what you are doing. If you dislike yourself, then change for the better.
* BE BALANCE
* BE AWARE
* BE RESPONISBLE
Love yourself
Aliya Leigh!!!
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Sometimes a booty call can teach you more about yourself and can be a gift from God. Just kill your ego and apply the advice. I learned so much.
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President Obama will speak to a gathering of gay rights activists this weekend, a day before thousands of people are expected to march on Washington in a demonstration calling for greater legal protections for gays, lesbians and transgendered Americans.
Many gay rights activists have become increasingly vocal about their frustration over what they see as tepid support from Mr. Obama. While the president has professed support for overturning the ban on gays in the military and called the law that precludes federal recognition of same-sex marriages discriminatory, he has not engaged on gay rights issues as actively as some had hoped.
The Justice Department is defending the federal marriage law, known as Defense of Marriage Act, much to the dismay of many gay rights advocates. And Mr. Obama has been noncommittal about when he will move to end the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. In June, he acknowledged their irritations at the slow pace of change at a gathering of about 250 gay rights leaders who had been invited to the White House.
While it remains to be seen what Mr. Obama’s appearance at the dinner will do to his standing in the eyes of gay rights activists, his speech may mollify some of their concerns.
His appearance will mark only the second time a sitting president has spoken to the Human Rights Campaign. The first time was in 1997 when Bill Clinton spoke to the group. That was the first time a sitting president had ever addressed a gay rights organization.
A person with knowledge of Mr. Obama’s plans confirmed his appearance at the dinner. But this person spoke on the condition of anonymity because a formal announcement is expected later today.
The White House had no comment. A spokesman for the Human Rights Campaign did not immediately respond to a request seeking comment.
Mr. Obama’s speech will coincide with the National Equality March, which is taking place on Sunday and is expected to draw thousands of gay rights supporters to the National Mall.
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What to keep that special? It takes work, believe me.
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Went to the Rainbow fest and people asked me about Pussy Care. So here it is!!!!
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Support the GLBT family. I am having problems. Soon I will be hiring staff and I am still STRESS.
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Yesterday, I realized, people don't know what respect means and how to apply it to their lives.
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Sorry about the blog. Something came up. Talk later about it and it deals with ABUSE!
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To have a great relationship, both parties need to:
1) RESPECT! 2) NO ABUSE!!! 3) NO CHEATING!
This is important to remember and to understand, but sooo hard to do!
See,
we as humans are not happy all the time, we have emotions. So we can be angry,
sad, depress, happy or sexual. If you follow me on twitter, you have
witness all of my emotions.
To me, when my partner follows
the three rules, I feel safe and secure to be around them. I know there
will be no judging, hitting, abuse and no STDs.
What does respect means (from http://www.m-w.com):
A relation or reference to a particular thing or situation <remarks having respect to an earlier plan> 2 : an act of giving particular attention : consideration 3 a : high or special regard : esteem b : the quality or state of being esteemed c plural : expressions of respect or deference <paid our respects> 4 : particular, detail <a good plan in some respects>
So,
respect is having a high regard for your partner or date. When both
parties have respect for one another, then you have open communcation,
trust, love, honor and security. Everyone from the big hairy guy,
little guy, fairy, drag queen, drag king, butch, femme, straight women,
straight men, trans and bi's want to be respected and secure.
It takes both parties to respect each other; which can build or destroy a relationship.
For
example, the girl who I was speaking to told me, "The best good looking
black girls are in Altana, Georgia." Now, she's try to dating me and
she told me that. How would you feel, if a person YOU were dating or
YOUR partner told you this statement?
You'll feel hurt because now you see they don't see as good looking as the girls in Altana, Georgia.
Another
example, my ex-love Sharon told me, "I love working out at the
Scottsdale gym because I see good looking women." Again, she didn't see
me in high regard.
After Sharon, I told myself, the next time
I fall in love with person, they need to respect me. I won't take
anything less. Another example, my sugra momma, always told me, "Hi,
beautiful. You're so beautiful." See, that's respect and I respect her
the same way, but we saw the future in different eyes, but this is
proof, you can have respect in a relationship, even if, it's a booty
call.
So, please respect yourself and your date or partner because it does wonders in the bedroom.
Also
with respect, if your partner goes to a strip club, you don't have to
worry. If your partner goes on a long trip, you don't have to worry.
If your partner, see a person who looks good, you don't have to worry.
Respect, will always allow you to keep a sound mind and a joyful heart.
Tomorrow, I'll talk about NO ABUSE!!!!!
I
did speak to the girl today, it didn't end good. See, I got two free
passes to see "Fame". "Fame" (the series), impacted a big part of my
life because it went into detail about living life for a dream, so I
wanted to go. I asked the girl to if she wanted to go, but she was
busy. Ok, no problem. So I took my cousin. Her husband is a Army
Officer, who's station in Iraq.
Today, I spoke to the girl
and she was upset with me because she couldn't go. I had to tell her,
it wasn't a big deal and I took someone else and I didn't have time to
tell her, it was my cousin.
The confusing part is, we are NOT
together. I have tried to see her and do activities with her, but she
wants to be with her friends. I don't care, if she wants to hang out
with her friends; I just want to know her more. So, I put in the
effort to arrange dates, but no show. What else, can a girl do?
I did text her because, seriously, I don't think she was mad at me, she was mad at something else.
If she doesn't want to talk me, fine. I just want her to find the right partner for her because no one should ever be alone.
I may go the Mercury game tomorrow night. If you see me, say "Hi".
Love you guys and remember, respect yourself and others.
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Most of our straight friends and family, wished they never heard those words. But, it happens.
I was at the home office today, because I was sick. You know when you walk to your kitchen from your bedroom and you don't know how you got there?
I was watching the Tara Banks show and they're going to have show tomorrow about how to cure gay people. But, do we need to be cured? Why are we gay? And is something wrong with us?
These are good questions and they have great answers. Gay people were born gay. I can prove it. My father's sister and my first cousins are gay, plus my mother admitted she thought about being gay when she was younger. So, there's a gay gene. But, unfortunately, people who are not part of the GLBT community look down on us, if we were freaks of the year; which is not cool.
I knew I was gay for a long time and I didn't want to admitted because of family and religion, but when I came clean to myself, then I became a whole people.
It's funny, when you're in the closet, you feel so confined as if you're in a prison cell. When you except yourself as you are, then you feel a release of mind, body and soul.
One thing, I can't stand is people putting God into hating something or someone. If God talked to us on earth, we will be shocked to hear, "I love everyone." It's Godlike to tell someone, "God Hates YOU!!!", when you're not being Godlike yourself?
The bottom line is, YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT YOURSELF.
Without accepting yourself as whatever you are, you're not doing yourself justice.
When I was at the end of grade and Jr.High, I didn't love myself. I tried to kill myself several times because I knew I was different and God didn't want me to be different. I figure, if I ended my life, I will no longer embarrass my family. But, acceptance helped me to heal and love myself. Unfortunately, society had brain damaged us to think a certain way, instead of thinking for ourselves.
If you are gay and you don't want have relationship with the same sex, that's fine, but accept the fact, you are gay. Some people refuse to have sex or a relationship with the same sex because of religion and/or family. There's a lot of people doing this and they are STILL HAPPY.
For me, you know where I stand. I love being with a person of my own sex.
I wish the world was different, but everyone has opinions. Opinions is what makes this country great, but we need to respect each other for their differences; which makes life great.
People may hate, love and just deal with us, but the main thing is to respect each other with love and understanding. It sounds simple, but it's difficult to do, when our own egos get in the way.
When I first met Nitara, the film director, she was married to a man and had a son. When I first shook her hand, I knew she was gay. She was so deep into the closet, she was like those old clothes you saved, but couldn't wear in years. She looked confined and so confused, like a lost child in a mega mall. I felt sorry for her and her husband. And yes, I did speak to the husband, but never told him, "Your wife is gay."
A year later, I saw her at a gay club. She's out of the closet and so happy. Her creativity is much stronger then ever, she is more open and less stress. Because she accepted herself, she became a whole person.
But, sadly some decides they need to kill themselves to be happy. It's not true. If you believe killing yourself is the answer, please get help.
Remember, "God loves everyone and you are special to him or her because YOU are a gift from God."
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This is the oldest riddle in life. When something is in front of us, we do want it. But, when we can't have it, we want it more.
Why?
I don't know, but it's true. I remember when I first met Kathleen. It was at the Older Lesbian Single party. She was cute and there was something about her. You know when you have a feeling about someone who you can't understand. That's Kathleen, she's a mystery. She has curly long red hair, tan skin and acts like she is high society, but down to earth. Meeting her, you wouldn't think she was a published wealth lesbian author. She's kind and wonderful, but takes control. I love her to death, but remember I said, when we can't have it we want it more.
Kathleen was head over heels in lust (not love) for a woman name W. I knew W very well. W was my ex-love, Sharon good friend. The true was, I hated W for a while. I couldn't stand her. My ex-love told me, she was in love with W and I was her last choice, since W had a girlfriend. Through, I ex-love, W gave her some crazy advice about my relationship with Sharon.
So, think about this, Katleen wants to go out with W and I can't stand W. How can I be around W, since I can't stand her. Looking at her made me sick, but I was hurting too.
Lesbians are known for talking, just like the women on The View. We talk about each other and other people, but we are still family.
W found out how I felt about her. She talked to me and found out, Sharon lied. It just goes to show, you need to go to the source of the information instead of the hear say.
Anyway, Kathleen wanted W in the worst way, but W was dating K. K is a wonderful person with life and crazy mixed in. She reminds me of a person who would go to a Buddhism temple to chant, search for the meaning of life, start a company and go to party. I can see her having business meetings at The Cash, while conducting important business. W is more structured and I can totally understand.
So, Kathleen wanted her, but couldn't have her; which made W more desirable. Me and W, we're good friends. Sharon is history.
Anyway, it's happening to me. All this time, the girl didn't want to see me and bring me anywhere, but since she had to leave for business, I'm on her mind. Crazy.
Why do we torture ourselves this way? I don't get it, but we still do it. Why can't we desire the thing want in the moment, until it's gone. It just proves we need to live in the moment and desire the things we have. I know I have a problem with regret. When I have something, I wonder if there is something better on the other side. I have learned to stop it and just be happy with what you got. Because you will be search for the next high and never be content for the important things of life.
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Today was crazy. Busy, busy, busy. I hope my agent got me a job or several. I have to take my pictures. Nude pics this time. Ok, what happen today. Crazy. Crazy. Crazy.
The girl called me several times today, but I couldn't get to the phone. This morning, I was coughing and sneezing. She called me in the morning. She called me in the afternoon, but I didn't have my phone on me. I had to go to the post office a second time to renew my passport. The first time, I mailed it, it didn't get to passport office because an employee mis weighed the package. Then I need to deposit some checks and because I didn't take the card out of the ATM in time, the machine ate me card. Ok, so I had a crazy day. Ok. So what.
Anyway, I got voicemail messages from the girl. It was insane. It was like she was forcing me to call her or else. I was in shocked. The only person that told me that was Sharon, ex love. But, we were together.
With this girl, I never had sex with her or even kissed her. All we did was talk and hug. That's it!!!!
So, I called her back and told her that I didn't listen to the messages.
Well, the bottom line is that she is gone. She had to go out of town today. I wanted to see me before she left; which is amazing.
So, when I want to see her, she's always with her friends. But, if she wants to see me, I have to drop everything to see her. Hell no. Please.
Women are so much drama to point that it doesn't make sense that God made lesbians, but he/she did.
I still think of God being a dude.
But, today, something did happen. I felt appreciated. I have a straight big wig boss. He knows, I'm gay. He has a bitch of a girlfriend. If she was gay, she would get a big dike butch. She's so mean, I think of Blair from Gossip Girl or the BITCH from Melrose place. One look from her eyes, will make the biggest baddest Butch cry like a little scared child.
My boss told me, I help him alot. That makes me feel good. I wanted to said something witty, but I left it alone. Sometimes, you should say, "Thank you" and walk away. That's what I did.
Knowing that people do care about your work, makes you feel so happy.
I try to treat my employees with happiness and love. I love each and everyone of them. I didn't even sleep with any of them. Ha Ha.
Life is crazy and we need to live it crazy. Take a drive, see a movie by yourself, hug a friend, love yourself and smile. Life is so short, why waste it on stupidity.
My friend Nitara is a film director. Very good. She has a girlfriend now. I heard she is HOT!!!!. My friend Jackie saw her. Jackie description her - I though she was talking about the goddess Venus. I can't wait to meet her.
Tomorrow, I canceled my violin lesson and I'm getting ready for the Mercury game. Playoff baby.
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How to break up with a person? That's a good question?
Amy broke up with me because she that her month was over. She told me that I was speaking to her through my blog. I have to admit, that was a great break up line.
As humans, we all suffer through a break up, more so than others. It's crazy, we spend so much time with a person and then we don't see them anymore.
But, with Amy, we dated and now we are good friends. Crazy. Right.
In the Lesbian World, breakups can be so dramatic and emotional. It can be liken to a depress lesbian on the edge of a cliff wanting to jump off into an abyss of darkness.
Tomorrow, I was planning to spend time with the girl, but I don't want too. After we met, things went down hill. The only thing, I can think of, is that my car was dirty inside. But, anyway I know we are not good together.
Almost every woman wants a excellent leader in their lives, like me. I don't want to take the lead. I don't have the energy or will too. I want a good lead to lead me through life, but not a mother.
One woman older who I was with was more like my mother then someone to date. She would treat me like a child. Who wants to be treat like child, when you own a house?
But, breakup is a part of life. Here are my breakup line; which I have use:
1) I want to get marry and have children. (My favorite, Said it) 2) I'm moving out of Arizona. (Said it) 3) It's the end of the world and I need to get right with God. (My favorite, Said it) 4) My cat doesn't like you. (Never used this one) 5) I'm so busy, I don't have time to pee.(Said it) 6) I go insane during PMS. (Never used this one) 7) You can find someone better than me. (My favorite, Said it) 8) I'm the hoe of Phoenix, I have done almost everyone here at the club.(My favorite Said it,) 9) I'm needing. (Never used this one) 10) My job is writing about my life and you. (My favorite, Said it) 11) I travel alot . (My favorite, Said it) 12) I love porn Japanese cartoons. (Amine) (My favorite, Said it) 13) I'm cheap. (My favorite, Said it) 14) I'm into threesomes. (My favorite, Said it) 15) (pointing at a woman) I couldn't date her, so I'm stuck with you. (A friend said this to her date.) 16) It's not you. It's me. (My favorite, Said it) 17) I don't want to hold you down because I want you to succeed in life. 18) I'm into choking.(My favorite, Said it) 19) I don't like dating out of my race. (A white girl told this to me after we had sex) 20) I'm shallow. I need someone like me. (Never used this one) 21) I'm a Republican. TEAM MCCAIN. (My favorite) 22) I see dead people.(Never used this one) 23) You are going to cheat on me anyway.(One ex said this to me) 24) I shouldn't have to work during sex. 25) You live too far. (Said it) 26) I'm into animal sex. (Never used this one) 27) I'm a good digger. (Never used this one) 28) People live inside of me. (Never used this one) 29) You don't like organic food, so I can't be with you. (A girl said this to me) 30) My wife told me to stop cheating on her. (Never used this one) 31) I believe Glenn Beck is the Christ.(Never used this one) 32) I believe, stalking my girlfriend is the same of loving my girlfriend. (Never used this one) 33) I'm not gay anymore. I love having sex with men. (One ex said this to me) 34) You're just with me because you feel sorry for me. (Never used this one) 35) I know, we just met last week. I believe, we have a strong connection. I want you to move in with me, today. (Never used this one)
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I spoke to my editor today, Rheah today. She's such a good friend and a wonderful editor. Love you to pieces.
Now, I twittered about this; What is a relationship killer?
Twitter is mess-up right now, so I can't give you answers from other people, but let me tell you this.
I spoke to the girl this morning, but let me set it up.
I woke up this morning, tried. My cat, Sheba, was jumping all over me as if I was a bouncing castle. I rolled out of bed, alone. No, no, no booty call last night. I didn't even play with myself. By the way, I brought this pleasure-enhancing tingling lubricant. It doesn't work, just burns as if I have a bad STD. Thank god for toys. Anyway, I got up and got dress. Wet my hair and put it up.
When I am out and about, I just wear whatever, but at functions, I look good because I have more time to get dress.
Well, I called the girl who I am seeing. Here are some relationships killers:
1) I need to go to Atlanta, GA because they have some good looking black females there.
2) I may go to The Cash one day
3) (After talking about my birthday party at The Cash), "My birthday party, I was so trash. It lasted for a week."
So, after the phone call, I did some work, went the gym and thought. I called Rheah and she gave me some good advice.
One thing is, I can have sex with anyone and proved it. But, this girl is not worth my time, unfortunately, I already gave her a playoff ticket to the Mercury game. BUMMER.
I have to find the girl for me. Kathleen always finds the girl for her and she is a pro. That's why I love her as a friend of course. To me, it seems she is more emotionally attached to her novels then to a girl.
I used to be that, but the word "relationship" got into my world. It seems that I lost myself and who I am.
It's funny. I love to have sex, have money, have respect for myself even though it seems that I don't.
I have to get my body ready for my photo shoot soon because I want to do some nude shots.
I broke it off with the Latina. God bless her and I hope she always follow her dreams.
PEACE OUT.
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Peace, Love and Harmony. I will be more positive in the future.
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The Latina, who's moving to Florida. I let her go. We were txting back and forth about this. But, I had to let her go, even though I don't want too. She needs to pursit her dreams and I will just be in the way.
But, stay tuned for more drama in the AZ!
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This morning, I talked with the girl who I'm talking too; which I felt sad about. But, I'm going to write about it. Because this is one big mistake people make if they want to get close or have sex with a person. My booty call thing is coming out and the relationship person, in dying inside.
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Women and weight is like a marriage made in hell. Women will spend money or do anything in order to lose weight that they need to lose or lose weight they don't have.
Why is weight so important? I don't know. And when you lose the weight, do you began to love yourself?
Today, I was sitting at my desk in front of a big sandwich, cookies and salad. I felt so hot and bothered by it, like it was a beautiful sexy half naked woman begging me to have sex with her in the worst way. Now, granted I have not had sex in a month, so I'm going through withdrawals.
My mouth began to water, my lips wanted to touch the sweet roasted beef and my tongue wanted to taste the juices. I stared at the sandwich as if it was a desired object for my own sexual desires.
I ate sandwich, I ate four large chocolate chips cookies and the salad. After eating over my full, I wanted to throw up. I thought about it, but I didn't; which is a win for me.
Since the sixth grade, all of jr. high school and the beginning of high school, I was bulimic. Meaning, I would eat and then throw up. I always had a tooth brush and tooth paste with me because after you throw up, you have to brush your teeth. See, your stomach has acid and you throw up the food and the acid. If the acid stays on your teeth, it can erode the enamel.
My point was, if you are thin, you look good and people with love you. That was my crazy thinking.
I can remember back in jr. high, a black teacher told the class; "Black girls don't have eating disorders." So, in my mind, I didn't have a eating disorder. When I think back, I did.
In society, it seems we as people always have to live to a standard that someone put into motion. But, who? I don't know, but it seems fashion decides how you should look and feel. The celebrities, also decides the standard of how we should live. But, did you know, celebrities have problems in their own lives. So, why should we follow after people who have problems with reality?
Celebrities and fashion models are paid to look good because that's their job. If you are a teacher, you need to prepare a lesson plan and practice how to teach the plan in front of your class. The same goes for celebrities and fashion models. If you really saw them for real, some of them are butt ugly.
So, if you are skinny and wear all the high class fashion, will you love yourself even more? NO! You have to love yourself for yourself, not for other people. I have to learned that.
In grade school and jr. high school, I can teased alot, plus I had to deal with my own demons. Believe it or not, my nickname was "Monkey" and I was ugly. I was like the ugly girl in the class, who you don't want to be friends with. During lunch time, if the school had banana day, I will get all the bananas. Down to this day, I can't eat bananas or anything with bananas in it. Bananas make me sick.
I had to learn to love myself and I'm still learning, everyday. It doesn't matter how heavy you are, thin you are, your friends, your clothes or status in life. It's matter on your insides and how you treat people.
For example, I go to The Cash; which is voted the best Lesbian Club in the valley; there are some celebrities are regulars there. For example, one of the Biggest Losers winners. As I understand, she was 300 pounds, now she's thin. She has a line of protein drinks and other merchandising. To me, it seems she is so stuck up, it's not even funny. I said hello to her once and she answered back, but it was because she was someone. To me, she just won a contest and that's why she gets notice. So what? I don't care, who you are just be friendly for once. She has to remember that she is a lesbian, and the crazy church leaders and others believe that she's going to hell, regardless of her fame.
Losing weight doesn't make you happy because I know. I lost alot weight without throwing up and I still have problems with myself, but my have friends to make me snap out of it. When you love yourself, almost everyone loves you.
But, what makes me love myself even more. Taking my clothes off in front of people and going to a nudist resort. Around, Lesbians have seen me in the nude, so what. I feel this way, if I am in the nude in front of people, they see me as I am. If I feel comfortable around people naked, I'll feel more comfortable around people with clothes on. Plus, being nice to people helps out alot, too. One thing two, is going to the gym. The gym helps me to focus on myself and helps me to be sexy. It makes me happy and wonderful inside. It's like my drug. Be a bitch, you be alone, plain and simple. Plus, be yourself. Not everyone is going to love you, if that was the case; we will be robots. I know, I had to learn to love life and don't care about people or my family. I know, it's hard but you have force yourself.
On Sunday, I was taking home my script editor named Rheah from The Cash. She talked about her weight because she's full figure. She wants to lose weight, but can't stand people trying to help her lose weight. She's trying out this Hoodia Gum to control her cravings for sugar. One thing for sure, she gets more sex then me.
So, just loving yourself makes you the center of attention. I still learning to love myself fully. I love my life sometimes, but it can also be a pain in the neck.
It goes to show, everyone has problems even if your admit it or not. But, try not lose yourself in it. Just scream as loud as you can, cry, laugh and get the pain out of your system. Yeah, those same feelings may come back because you are human. Scream, cry, laugh and live another day.
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When your new love meet your friends, this in the most critical time in a new relationship. It telling your new love, you want to graduate to the next level in your relationship because your circle of friends is so important to you. Why? Because you can you let loose with them without judgment.
In a new relationship, we tend to put on an academy award winning performance for your new love because of our need to impress. We need to say and do the right things in the relationship that we tend to create a character, who is the opposite of our real self. It's like you are confined in a small box and you locked it. For example, I was watching South Park and people were exploding because they didn't want to break wind in their date, so the mayor made farting fashionable; even though farting is a normal human function. We just tend not let your new love see the best of us and hid the worst of us.
So when should the new love meet your friends? I don't know. To me, it's an important step because that's when the worlds unite into one world. It's like saying, "I am so serious about this person that she/he is the most important person in my life". It's like co-living with the new love because the new love is weaving deeper into your life. They are now invited to see the true you around your friends and to see what you and your friends are all about.
So date tend to judge the person who you are dating based on friends because they believe, "Birds of a feather flock together." So when you let the new love meet your friends, it should not be taken lightly.
The girl, who I'm dating now was planning to meet my friends at The Cash on Saturday night. Seriously, I didn't want her meet them because I'm not ready to have the two worlds unite. I feel when she meets my friends, she is part of my life and I'm force to commit to a person who I'm not sure about.
See, let me explain. If I let the new girl meet my friends, then they become her friends; she's in my circle of friends. She will know all my secrets, desires and see my wild side up close. Plus, if we break up, I still have to see her because she's in my circle of friends.
Now, do you see how important the meeting of friends is. It's an important step in a relationship, so don't take it lightly. If he or she likes your friends, who you nothing to worry about because your are full stream ahead into a long term relationship.
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Hello everyone.How are you doing today?I’m so so.Why?Because today in Sept 11. You may or may not know this, but I am a proud New Yorker.I grew up in Rosedale, NY (Queens) and was raised there.
In High School, I did a year of internship at Smith Barney as a computer programmer.The building was located in downtown Manhattan; which was a few blocks from the Twins Towers.
Sometimes, I had to run errands at the Twins Towers a lot, but I didn’t care.It was cool being out of the office. In the Twins Towers, you had the New York and New Jersey train systems, an underground mall and offices.So I did window shopping in the Twin Towers and I got to see my friends.
In my circle of friends, it was a honor working in the Twin Towers because it meant you were making good money and had a steady job.It was just cool saying, “I work in the World Trade Center” aka “I wok in the World Trade Centa” (in New York language).
Before I left New York City to move to a backward country place called Arizona,I was offered a job at ILX in the World Trade Center.I didn’t take it and moved to Arizona.Now, thinking back, I could have died on Sept 11, 2001.13 of my friends died on that day, my uncle was buried alive but found and my brother had to see a therapist because he saw the planes go into the buildings and the damage it caused.
But, as New Yorkers do, we survive, but it’s hard to forget.I never went to my friends memorials because how can someone died like that, it only happens in the movies.But, it did happen.
From a New Yorker point of view, New York has changed.There is more security in the streets.You have to ask a cop if you can take a picture of a landmark. When I go to ground zero, there is dead silence.New York has become a military country, within the US.It’s sad.
When I went back to NYC after Sept 11, I had to get used to the new New York City and now when I visit, I got used to the security which is sad and heart breaking because I miss my old New York and the mindset.I miss the rudeness, busy life, running to work,no security cameras following you and no metal detectors and searches before you go into the Empire State Building.
When I was young and before Sept 11, I would watch New York City getting blown up and damaged in the movies and on TV because I knew it will never happen in real life.But it did.
The movie Cloverfield, will be a movie I will never forget and should get award for giving us a reality check.Before Cloverfield, I could watch New York getting destroy and laughing about because who would think New York City would suffer a terrorist attack and when Sept 11 made us change our thinking.With Cloverfield, it made me enjoy seeing New York City getting damage on the big screen.Crazy monsters like Godzilla destroying New York, that’s funny and not real.
Sept 11, made me change myself.It told me, breathing air and living is not a right, but a privilege you should not take likely. Live life and enjoy it.Hug your friends and be open about your feelings.Tell your friends, lovers, families and spouses how much they mean to you in your life because you made not see them again.
For example, I was a bride’s maid in a wedding, in New York City.The bride was a real bitch.After the $30,000 wedding in Garden City, she piss off the whole wedding party. One of the bride’s maids, named Vicki was a good friend who used to take me to parties and functions.I was a geek at the time and she was the popular girl.She helped me to become popular, like all those teenage movies.
After the reception, I told her goodbye and she needs to visit me in Arizona.She said, “I will, because I need to see the Grand Canyon.”She never called me because she died in the World Trade Center; two months later.The bride never got the chance to say, “I’m so sorry, I was a bitch.”Now, the bride has a son, divorce and living with her mother.I never spoke to the bride again after the wedding because I don’t need craziness in my life.
For Vicki, she left behind a husband and young 1 year old child. Now, her husband moved to the South, got remarried and the child is doing well.
So, we need this day to reflect on our lives and thank God that you are blessed. Sometimes I forget, but I have Sept 11 and my friends to remind me.
So, be determine to live life to the fullest and enjoy it because tomorrow you may day.I want to die with a smile on my face because I know I have done everything to that point in my life and enjoyed it.
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Day after day, it seems to me we follow the same ritual. We get up, go to work, go home, party, spend time with family or a lover and then we die. Some of us have children and some don't. But, in all we still follow the same MO with our lives.
On my facebook, I saw pictures of a boy I went to school with. Now, he is a man with a girlfriend. He works and it seems he has a child. When I look back on my childhood, I never that about working, owning a house, owning a car, having a girlfriend or anything of that sort because I was kid. Now, with time passing by, I'm now an adult.
But, what makes you into an adult? Family, kids, age, career or other. I don't know. I still feel like a kid with responsibilities.
It's just so funny to see people you went to school with and now they have families and responsibilities of their own, as if we are now becoming our parents.
We have to worry about a mortgage, bills, work and other things, instead of finding the new Metallica cd, getting a computer, the latest video game, doing good in school and does he or she likes me.
Back in the 80's and 90's, life for a kid was so simple and innocent. Now, a child have to go through so much drama just to get out of the bed in the morning.
What happen to the simple times? Will they return? I don't think so. I don't have any kids, but I would like one. My parents think differently since I'm gay. But, I would love to have a child, a wife and a happy home. But, when I think of my life as a kid, I ask myself "Where have the time gone? How did I get here?"
It's so funny. And that's life. Live life without any regrets. And just be happy. You only live once so live it right.
Looking at people who I went to High School with, is amazing to see because we are now adults and have our own lives. We may have done things differently, but we are still striving to live the best way we can.
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The Latina date texted me today. She wanted to know if I was busy tomorrow. I have not answered her yet. Why? Well, I like her and told her, but the response was, "I'm moving, but I like you too."
To me, it was like she was moving next week or so, but she's still here. Why? I don't know.
I want love without the BS, you know. With a booty call, I can kiss a girl and I know not to trust her, even though it's ok to do her. The reason for my thinking is, when it's a booty, you are not thinking about commitment, speaking to the person again or anything else. You don't care about the future only the moment for the real raw sexual escape journey you will have with that person.
You are so wrapped up in the moment, you don't care about that person. You only care about your needs being met.
After you are done, when you move on without any feelings.
When you are in a relationship or just dating that person. You want to get to know them. See what makes them be who they are and planning a future with them. In a relationship, feelings and emotions are involve; which makes the sex much better.
In a relationship, you must put your guard down. I know this is hard because I have trouble with this too. I hate letting person into my little world because I don't want to get hurt anymore. I just breakdown because when I allow people into my little world of Aliya Leigh, it means that I can trust you and I understand you. As I tell people,"I can't trust my own mother, so it will be hard to trust you."
Trust is so important in a relationship. When you can't trust that person you are with, you have to use that extra energy to out think them, meaning you always have to see where they are coming from and what they are truly thinking.
I already over think too much, so I hate to think with the girl who I am with. When you are with someone, they are suppose to make you feel safe and comfort, not trying to second guess a person.
I just want to feel safe in a person's arms, give them sweet kisses and F*&k hard.
Just thinking about it makes wet. Kissing, touching, fondling, whispering sweet nothings in my lover's ear and just feeling alive, like a new born baby.
I don't know what to tell her, but I have to tell her soon.
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Hi. This holiday weekend, I drove to Utah. It was a six hour trip. I drove from Phoenix to the edge of Northern Arizona. It was an amazing drive. I got to see the Navajo Indians and the landscape of this great state. But, I also got to think about my life.
Since I have been dating and relying on my girlfriends to take me out or to arrange a date, I have lost myself.
Before, the series of dating so many people, I would do everything I wanted to do, but I still had friends to talk too. I used to take road trips all the time by myself to think and to clear my mind.
So, on this road trip, I got to clear my mind and understand where I am headed.
I have lost myself. People have been making so many decisions for me and all I do is said "yes".
I love my life and the people who are in it, but I lost myself in the mix and what I am all about.
I remember when I was young, my family wanted me to act a certain way. I was never myself. When I moved to Arizona, I saw freedom to express myself, but then it got lost.
It's true, people just loose themselves and then they wake up and see a strange life that they lived. It's crazy but true.
We need to take control of ourselves and figure out what we want to do with it.
I have been searching and searching for the next big thing in life and forgot about what I want in life.
Slowly, I am coming back to my senses and loving it. I'm talking to this girl over the phone. She seems to be cool but I don't know. I am just going live and see where life takes me.
I have some control over my life and I'm so happy. Sometimes, it good to take a road trip by yourself to think and to clear your mind because you never know who you will meet and what thoughts will pop into your mind.
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I can't believe this. I'm in another car accident. WTF? I don't get it. But, anyway. I was suppose to go out on a date yesterday. It was your normal movie date.
I wanted to see Public Enemy with Johnny Depp. I love that man. He can be my child's father all I need is the sperm. But, the girl could not go on the date, she had to work late. Totally understand, but got me to think about my life.
Since I have been dating, I lost myself. What do I mean? Before, I was seriously dating, I used to do things on my own without anyone. Monday, I went home and relaxed. Tuesday's was always movie night, when I treat myself to a movie and dinner. The rest of the week, I would go to the gym or do anything I want.
Since, I have been dating, I got into the habit of asking first and then do. If the date or girlfriend was not able to make it, then what should I do?
Yesterday, I went to the movie without her. I enjoyed myself. I didn't think about anything or any person. It was me, only me.
I forgot how to have fun by yourself. Just you, thinking about life, love and you as a person. I was at the movies, writing in my book, dreaming about have Johnny Depp's child and my future.
I don't know what the future holds for me. I don't care about relationships or being alone. I have friends and I'm working. I'm happy.
My friends are all in this relationship crap. As I was talking to friend, I was ok being the hoe of Phoenix. Just having sex with different women. The game does get tried, so you relax and then start again.
Being the hoe, I didn't have to deal with emotions, feelings or anything like that. Just be safe and happy.
I'm going to cancel my membership with www.match.com and just go with www.tangowire.com.
I just want to be happy and alive. I just got a poster with the help of God. The poster is New York City with the Twins. I remember always going into the Twin Towers. Before moving to Arizona, I was supposed to work for ILX in the Twin Towers, but I moved to Cowboy Country instead.
I was suppose to died in Twins, I don't know. My friends did and I do get sad about that. But, it taught me to live life to the fullest and be happy. Just to live life.
How
do you want the date to end, is the real question. Now, the date
depends on you, not your friends, family or a magazine because they
are not you. I can't stand how people judge me about be
dating. For example, some people just want the booty call, while
others are looking for that special someone. So, before you go the
first date with someone new, you need to ask yourself, "How do I
want the date to end?”
You
can end the date in different ways, for example, “the hook up”,
“just friends”, “no way”, “booty call”
and “you're so special, I like you”.
The
hook up date, is my favorite and specialty date. It has my name
all over it. So, what is “the hook up” date? It's a date where
you just want to have sex after a dinner or any type of function. The
mistake people have with “the hook up”, is that after the hook
up, you have a relationship; which is not true. Sometimes, the hook
up doesn't turn into a long lasting relationship. On a hook up date,
you prepare yourself and your body, meaning you know you look hot and
you feel hot to the point that everyone will stare at you and wish
you were with them. During the date, you feel the mood. Think with
your gut not your head. If the date is going well, then you have
nothing to worry about, just be yourself. When you start making out
in the car, you know it's on. Now, at this point you can control the
situation. You can just make out or go all the way, but you need to
remember, you may not have a second date and to always have
protection.
The
just friends date, is OK. I had a few myself. It's a date you or
the other person want to establish a date, but at the end you become
friends. Again, you need to trust your gut and to give hints to see
what direction the date is going. When you became friends it's cool
because more friends and more people to talk too, plus sometimes
friends become lovers. So, if the date turns into friends, don't
worry about it. There are millions of fish in the sea.
The
no way date, is easy to spot. During the date, if the person you
are with or you yourself starts talking on the phone with a friend or
texting, then this is a no way date, meaning that basically you are
just wasting time and money on something you don't care about. When
it is a no way date, just end it. You can be the ass or let the other
person be the ass. For example, I was on a date and the person was
just texting friends while we were eating. When you know, it's a no
way date, just end it and throw away the number because wasting time
is not good. Now, if you just want the date to be a booty call, then
talk about it and if each party agrees to the terms; during sex DON'T
TALK, JUST DO.
The
booty call date is easy. If each party agrees to the terms then
just have fun. Just be safe and stick with the terms. With a booty
call, don't let feelings get into the way because it's just physical
relationship. When emotions get involve, talk to the other person and
let the relationship go, if you can't handle it anymore. It's better
to leave then to stay in a relationship and the other party doesn't
feel the same way.
The
you're so special date is the best. So I save the best for last.
It's a date when the two parties feel a connection to point they can
say, “I want you”, meaning you two belong with each other.
Sometimes the relationship will blossom in the moment you meet or at
the end of the date. Remember to trust your gut. You will know, when
the right person comes along. Romance novels ideas come from real
life relationships, so your love story will happen, just be patience
and keep your options open.
Dating
is dating. How you act on the date is your business, not your friends
or a magazine. I hate it when people base your lives for a romance
novels, movies and their own friends. Novels and movies are loosely
based on real life. Your friends may seem happy when you see them,
but you don't know the drama in their house. So base your love life
on yourself and gut. Remember, cause and effect. What you cause has
an effect, so whatever you put out into the universes will come back
to you.
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I told the girl who I was out with on Sunday, how I felt about her. You should always be upfront with someone, so nothing is not guessing game. The answer may be favorable or not, but you have to take that chance.
I did. I don't know if she feels the same way, but I told her.
After September 11, when the Twins went down, I learned, to live in the moment and just tell that special someone how you are feeling at that time.
Why because you may never see that person again.
For example, I was a brides maid in a wedding with some other friends. The bride was bitch and after the wedding, we never talked to her again. Before the wedding, the bride was able to piss everyone. One brides maid, worked in the twins towers and died in Sept 11th attacks. She was on the floor where the plane made contact with the building.
The bride never told anyone how sorry she acted and then it was too late for the sorry.
Always tell your friends how you feel about them and also the person you love, in the moment you are thinking about it.
Life is short, so live it with value, happiness and love. Never take time for granted.
Hello everyone. The script is almost ready for the agent. Tomorrow is d day. I am sorry, I have not written on the blog or have done a podcast. I felt I needed to take some time for myself. I do blog on twitter: @Lesbianlife, so check me out.
Anyway, as you may know, I am in the dating again. This time, I'm on www.match.com.
The funny thing about dating (and I don't care if you are straight or gay); but when we are dating, we are still looking for this next best thing, even though, it's not there.
As humans, it's natural to always be looking and not being satisfied with what you have in front of you.
I met this girl on match.com; well she found me. She emailed me and I gave her my number because I don't like txting. We had a first date and yes, I was a dork, but we hit it off. We went on a date today. It was cool.
But, that's not the end of it.
Another girl called me from match.com. Now, I really like the first girl, but again, as humans we are never satisfied. I spoke to second girl and she is a doctor. My parents always wanted me to married a doctor. But, the problem is, she is fem like me.
For straight people, what I am about to tell you will be weird. "Women with Women can't be in a serious relationship." For Lesbians, you understand what I am saying.
For straight people, Female type, like the girly girl type is a woman, in the Lesbian world. I am fem and proud to be fem. I love wear skirts, dresses, heels and make-up. Butches or Fe-Butches are not like that. They are more manly and they mostly take the lead in the relationship.
The doctor seems so nice and she can be a good friend, but I can't see a future with her because Fems don't take the lead. I need to be lead.
At that moment, I realizes that people search and search for that one person to love, but not realizes that the person God give them is right under their nose.
We are always searching for the most perfect mate in our lives. We search for the image in our minds and try to find that one person. But, sadly, when can't find that on person, we tend to settle for anything; which is wrong and sad.
When we get settle for a person who we don't care about, we hurt ourselves and the person we are with.
We need to date blind. I'm not talking about wearing blindfold and taking out your eyeballs, but date blind.
Don't worry about status and how they look because at the mostly crazy times of your life that person may save you from the drama and pain.
I went on a date with a girl. She was cool. I wasn't dress perfect. I had a Foo Fighters t-shirt, hat, jeans and sneakers. She didn't like the way I looked. She didn't want me and I was ok with that. But, the point is, she could have gain friend, but since she's high and mighty, she will never know.
We need to judge people from the inside not the outside. Another example is, my ex-love was so hot, Latina hot.I loved her so much and I still do, but inside she is ugly.
The bottom line is, we tend to look and look and look, when the person is right standing next to you. Don't settle and be real. Reality is not a fairy tale.
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The sugar mama likes this new girl who lives in London. Believe it or not, they talk everyday. The phone bills must be high. So, I talked to the sugar mama at the gym, today. ON THE PHONE! We talked about the new London girl. Believe me, I'm happy for her. We had our fun, but I want something solid and real, you know. I want a steady relationship with someone who will love me and I can love them. Plus, someone who acts young but it practical and understand responsibilities. It is so hard to find someone like that. But, I'm on eharmony and match.com to find the one woman for me.
But, while talking to the sugar mama, I asked her, "You need to get something special to impress her." She said, "I don't need to impress anyone." See that is THE FIRST MISTAKE.
Smart people, (I will tell you why I said smart people) what to be special. They want to be treated like princess, like they are important in life. Like they matter in your life. When someone believes they are important to you, they will do anything for you. That is caring, not love but caring. Meaning that you care for that person. Love is a deeper meaning and should not be taken lightly.
So, listen to the person and understand them, like why they like this or that. Feel their emotion about objects, places or songs. Sometimes the cheapest gifts are the most valuable.
For example, I love this Hello Kitty pencil sharper. It's a star shape and green with glitter. It cost around 1.00, but that sharper followed me from Jr.High, High School, College and my jobs. It was my computer programmer sharper.
When I program in any computer language I know, like C, SQL, Perl, Java and JavaScript (I'm old school), I have to write out code with a pencil and paper before I typed it on the computer. That sharper helped me through my tough times of debugging code.
See how something so meaningless, means the world to someone else.
So remember that.
Oh, remember the smart people comment. My ex is Jewish and she was having a bad week, so in the Jewish religion, if you get a Kosher pray box for a person; it gives them good luck. Now, she told me this several times.
Now, it was during passover and Jewish people are not suppose to work. I search for a Jewish temple and found someone who were willing to talk to me during the passover. Hard as hell. I found someone, I had to pay them extra, plus the pray box that needed to be bless by a Rabbi on passover, then the pray paper in the pray box need to be bless and Kosher by a Rabbi. It was a four day process and I work several jobs.
I give it her and she like it, but I was not a diamond ring. Now, we only dated for 6 months, I'm NOT buying her a diamond ring. But, after we broke up and I don't care about her, the pray box has given her luck. Good things do happen.
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I worked today and I just zoned out the drama of the office. Sometimes you have to do it and you will go crazy.
In the office, it like High School all over again. You have the popular people, the geeks, the weirdos, the ones who think they are important but not and the teacher's pets.
I don't get it. I loved High School. I had so much fun. In High School, I wrote for the school paper, two friends and I started a Zine which lasted a semester and I was part of several clubs. But, it was High School.
Now, I'm not saying the proper job is working in a office, but after High School you have responsibilities as a grown adult. With this thought in mind, you grow up.
After High School and College, I knew I had to grow up, so I needed to move away from New York. Moving to Arizona, forced me to grow up and I am so happy for it. If I had to, I would do it all again.
I was forced to pay rent, get my own job instead of calling in a favor, my furniture and make new friends.
It taught me, so much of myself and who I really am as person. I learned about my weakness and my strengths. I learned who Aliya Leigh is.
Remember, don't take people and your situation for granted. There is reason for everything in life, you can beat it or let it suck the life out of you. Everyone in life will help you learn a lesson in life, you just go with the flow and file it in your brain.
Like today, I spoke to one of my cousins. His mother's husband killed her. Before she die, she was known to be a mentally strong person because of all she had to go through.
For example, she was from Denmark, you know, white with blond hair and blue eyes. She married into my family and had two sons who both look black. The first marriage didn't last and she had to move to Florida with two young black boys, crazy picture, huh. She got married a second time, but it didn't last. She and the boys move to Denmark to be with her family. She had to work full-time and teach her children Danish and the Danish way of life. She move back to America with two teenage boys and got married again, but this time the husband killed her.
I still think about her and all she dealt with in life, which I use as an example guiding me in my life. She was strong so I have to be stronger. She was beautiful so I have to be more beautiful. She was determined so I have to be more determined. She made mistakes so I don't make her mistakes.
Life is funny. It teaches, helps, loves, understands and make sure we have fun.
So, when you are around your friends and just people, see how you can learn a positive thing for them because life is about learning, until that last moment of life you smile because you did everything in life you wanted to do with no regrets.
I love my life. I try to look at my life as if I was a third person. They women I have been with, women I loved and lost and my job. I look at it and say, " I live a pretty good life."
Everyone's life has its ups and downs, I don't care how famous or rich or poor or alone you are. It's life.
As beings, we create our own life. So, go out there in the world and create. Because we only have one life, so make the best out of it.
The American Psychological Association declared Wednesday that mental health professionals should not tell gay clients they can become straight through therapy or other treatments.
In a resolution adopted by the APA's governing council, and in an accompanying report, the association issued its most comprehensive repudiation of "reparative therapy" — a concept espoused by a small but persistent group of therapists, often allied with religious conservatives, who maintain gays can change.
No solid evidence exists that such change is likely, says the resolution, adopted by a 125-4 vote. The APA said some research suggests that efforts to produce change could be harmful, inducing depression and suicidal tendencies.
Instead of seeking such change, the APA urged therapists to consider multiple options — that could range from celibacy to switching churches — for helping clients live spiritually rewarding lives in instances where their sexual orientation and religious faith conflict.
The APA had criticized reparative therapy in the past, but a six-member task force added weight to this position by examining 83 studies on sexual orientation change conducted since 1960. Its report was endorsed by the APA's governing council in Toronto, where the 150,000-member association's annual meeting is being held this weekend.
The report breaks new ground in its detailed and nuanced assessment of how therapists should deal with gay clients struggling to remain loyal to a religious faith that disapproves of homosexuality.
Judith Glassgold, a Highland Park, New Jersey, psychologist who chaired the task force, said she hoped the document could help calm the polarized debate between religious conservatives who believe in the possibility of changing sexual orientation and the many mental health professionals who reject that option.
"Both sides have to educate themselves better," Glassgold said in an interview. "The religious psychotherapists have to open up their eyes to the potential positive aspects of being gay or lesbian. Secular therapists have to recognize that some people will choose their faith over their sexuality."
In dealing with gay clients from conservative faiths, says the report, therapists should be "very cautious" about suggesting treatments aimed at altering their same-sex attractions.
"Practitioners can assist clients through therapies that do not attempt to change sexual orientation, but rather involve acceptance, support and identity exploration and development without imposing a specific identity outcome," the report says.
"We have to challenge people to be creative," said Glassgold.
She suggested that devout clients could focus on overarching aspects of religion such as hope and forgiveness to transcend negative beliefs about homosexuality, and either remain part of their original faith within its limits — for example, by embracing celibacy — or find a faith that welcomes gays.
"There's no evidence to say that change therapies work, but these vulnerable people are tempted to try them, and when they don't work, they feel doubly terrified," Glassgold said. "You should be honest with people and say, 'This is not likely to change your sexual orientation, but we can help explore what options you have."'
One of the largest organizations promoting the possibility of changing sexual orientation is Exodus International, a network of ministries whose core message is "Freedom from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ."
Its president, Alan Chambers, describes himself as someone who "overcame unwanted same-sex attraction." He and other evangelicals met with APA representatives after the task force formed in 2007, and he expressed satisfaction with parts of the report that emerged.
"It's a positive step — simply respecting someone's faith is a huge leap in the right direction," Chambers said. "But I'd go further. Don't deny the possibility that someone's feelings might change."
An evangelical psychologist, Mark Yarhouse of Regent University, praised the APA report for urging a creative approach to gay clients' religious beliefs but — like Chambers — disagreed with its skepticism about changing sexual orientation.
Yarhouse and a colleague, Professor Stanton Jones of Wheaton College, will be releasing findings at the APA meeting Friday from their six-year study of people who went through Exodus programs. More than half of 61 subjects either converted to heterosexuality or "disidentified" with homosexuality while embracing chastity, their study said.
To Jones and Yarhouse, their findings prove change is possible for some people, and on average the attempt to change will not be harmful.
The APA task force took as a starting point the belief that homosexuality is a normal variant of human sexuality, not a disorder, and that it nonetheless remains stigmatized in ways that can have negative consequences.
The report said the subgroup of gays interested in changing their sexual orientation has evolved over the decades and now is comprised mostly of well-educated white men whose religion is an important part of their lives and who participate in conservative faiths that frown on homosexuality.
"Religious faith and psychology do not have to be seen as being opposed to each other," the report says, endorsing approaches "that integrate concepts from the psychology of religion and the modern psychology of sexual orientation."
Perry Halkitis, a New York University psychologist who chairs the APA committee dealing with gay and lesbian issues, praised the report for its balance.
"Anyone who makes decisions based on good science will be satisfied," he said. "As a clinician, you have to deal with the whole person, and for some people, faith is a very important aspect of who they are."
The report also addressed the issue of whether adolescents should be subjected to therapy aimed at altering their sexual orientation. Any such approach should "maximize self-determination" and be undertaken only with the youth's consent, the report said.
Wayne Besen, a gay-rights activist who has sought to discredit the so-called "ex-gay" movement, welcomed the APA findings.
"Ex-gay therapy is a profound travesty that has led to pointless tragedies, and we are pleased that the APA has addressed this psychological scourge," Besen said.
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Hi. Two weekends ago, I went to a religious thing down in Tucson, Arizona. I did it for my parents, so we can have something to talk about. I stay at the religious thing from Saturday to Sunday. Just goes to show you, I love my parents.
I saw so old friends and met new ones. But, one thing, I learned from the whole thing was REGRETS.
If you listen to my podcasts, you would know, I'm a once a month girl. I date a girl for only a month. I didn't know why, until I thought about it. I have a problem with commitments. My friends know about this bad problem I have.
My ex-love who was hot and juicy was the only one that made me commit and I have happy about it. She just went crazy and started hating Blacks and Hispanics. "Hello, I'm BLACK".
I thought about it, I was happy to be with her and to be part of her life, but I was thinking about the future too much instead of think about today. That was the key.
My ex-love mess-up me and I had to deal with it. So, now, when I date a woman, I think about when she's going to leave me, she's so old and I may have to change her Depends, or maybe I can find someone better. Than I also feel, I couldn't have came out of the closet.
Now, I was thinking about this during the religious thing. When we broke for lunch, I walked to Subway. I met a guy who talked to me about the bible and life. I told him, I could not join the religion because of my lifestyle. He thought, I was into drugs and crime, you know. The bad things people go to jail for and find God. I told him, "I'm a lesbian". He was shocked.
One thing I CANT STAND IS WHEN I STRAIGHT PERSON SAYS "You choose to be gay."
WTF? I didn't choose this and then regret enter into my mind. I thought about it. I told him, "This is who I am. And as God is my witness, I am NOT going back into the closet."
I spent too many good years in the closet. Now, I'm more free then before. I'm so happy.
I'm whole and I don't have any regrets about it. I am who I am. But, I need to slow down. I know it. I'm going to make commitments. My profile is on Match.com.
Remember, my sugar mama, she went to Europe and found the love of her life in London, after three weeks. I'm so happy for her. She will be going back to London soon to see the woman. I'm happy for her, but I don't think it's going to last. My opinion. But opinions are like aholes, everyone has one.
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This weekend was crazy. My brother called me and said that the world is ending and Obama banned religion. When he called me, I was half sleep. He kept talking on and on about how the world is ending and I need to listen to the news more often. I just blew it off. He talked to my mother the same day and made her cry. So, of course, I talked to her today.
My mother and I talked for three hours about being gay. She mention that being gay is a choice. But, I could hear in voice that she also leaned to the gay life, but lives straight. She loves my father too much. She's straight, but it's funny that she thought about being gay.
My mom accepts me, but wish I was straight. She doesn't want me to practice being gay. But, you don't have to have sex to be gay.
It's like when a black man will do anything to be white. It can't happen. The same way, a true gay person tries to be straight.
This weekend, I when to a straight swinger party because I bi girl was telling me about it. I never been to one, so I decided to check it out. I felt so out of place. I was the only Lesbian and guys wanted to have sex with me. I felt so uncomfortable and so uneasy, I just watched and looked. I when home to sleep. It also made me see, I want a long-term relationship, instead playing the field. I did fool around with one girl, but it I didn't have sex with her. It was crazy and weird. It just proves that GLBT people don't choose, but they are.
Talking to my mother and understanding her point of view, I love her. She loves to be Queen Bitch, but she's making efforts to understand my feelings and thoughts about my life.
For the first time, she told me that God loves me and that means alot from her. My mom will not be joining PFLAG anytime soon.
I still have not been on a date yet, but still looking.
I went out drinking with some co-workers and friends. My friends were the lesbian and her partner and a gay guy who I work with. My friend the lesbian has been with her partner for 20 years. Wow. That's a long time, but it can happen.
I want to date, but I am so afraid because I don't want to get hurt again. See, if you date random women, you can't get hurt because you don't feel anything, just sex. You don't care about them and they don't care about you. So, it is perfect.
But, I do want that special person in my life, but I'm a just guard my heart. I hate to feel this way, but it is so true. I am looking for that person who can break down my walls and make me whole.
My last true love did a number on me, but I feel sorry for her. I just want her to tell me, "I am truly sorry. I wish, I could make things better and I learned for my mistakes."
That's all I want for her. Also, I want her to feel great about herself. She is so beautiful, sexy and hot. Thinking about her, make me wet, but when she opens her mouth, I just want to throw up.
I just pray, she will love herself and know that she is a wonderful and loving person when she wants to be. That is why, I feel in love with her because she had a good heart, but for some reason her heart turned into a big black ice cube.
So, I am going to fight my fear like a butch woman and find the woman for me, who love me for me. I am looking for friend who I can tell anything too. I'm looking for comfort and love. Because I will love her the same.
Hi, Guys. What's up with you? I'm ok. I decided to join a dating service. The site is www.compatible.com. It's suppose to be the Eharmony for the gays. Well, I will be on there.
I need to have steady girlfriend. The chasing after different girls is getting old. It one girl after the next. The same old same old. You meet, have sex and they leave. Maybe you will talk a few times or you don't, I never cared. I would talk about them anyway.
With some girls, the sex is exciting, dull, down right boring, weird and sick. I have done it all and had my fill.
Now, I'm ready to settle down and have a family. But, I need to find the right girl first. I know she is out there, but where?
You may not get very many opportunities to get it on for extended periods of time with a lover, but when you do get the chance you don’t want to lose out by not knowing how to keep up your side of the bargain.
There are several ways to keep yourself in good form should the occasion arise. Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it. It could go all night.
However, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate. It’s a good idea to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated — sweating and exercise uses your body’s stores of water quickly.
Here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon.
Don’t Orgasm
You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation — because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. In saying this, most positions that enter from behind provide lots of stimulation. Change positions if you feel like you’re losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Keeping yourself near orgasm can be risky (you might release by mistake), but it ensures you will stay hard, and the passion won’t abate too much during your sex marathon. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn’t the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.
If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest doesn’t have to be totally sexual in nature, and it’s just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways — or invent new ways of lovin’. There are many ways to be intimate. Just don’t fall asleep!
Don’t Drink Too Much
Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man’s ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time (which may sound good, but it can weaken your erection so much that it’s no fun). Alcohol also has sedative effects — it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behavior (such as not using condoms). Enduring a sex marathon will not be helped by drinking too much alcohol.
Sex is a broad term and is used for just about anything that tickles your fancy — it doesn’t just include intercourse or oral sex. While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure; ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Choose flavors you both like. Get creative — you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects. Don’t stick to the same old; use your imagination.
Keep Lube Handy
Sex play for hours is taxing on the body’s resources. This is understandable, but you do need to be aware of the potential pitfalls of sex play for long periods. One of the main problems could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. If you’re unsure of what kind to buy, do your homework and purchase a couple of different types (silicone-based, water-based) as well as different brands to find one that you both like. And don’t scrimp on lube! Enduring a sex marathon requires a lot of moisture. If you are using condoms, lube is going to be essential to help prevent breakage and to stop the friction heat and dryness that can occur.A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth.
Go, Go Gadget
Remember — enduring a sex marathon takes a little time and lots of patience. However, in the end, you and your lover will be satisfyingly happy (and probably a bit worn out too) and more knowledgeable for future sessions.
NEW YORK (AP) - HBO scored highest among 15 networks for its representation of gay characters last season, according to a report released Monday.
In its third annual Network Responsibility Index, the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation found that of HBO's 14 original prime-time series, 10 included content reflecting the lives of gay, bisexual and transgender people. That totaled 42 percent of the network's programming hours, in series such as "True Blood," "Entourage" and "The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency."
By contrast, on NBC and CBS only 8 percent and 5 percent, respectively, of prime-time hours included them, the report said.
For the report, GLAAD reviewed all prime-time programming, totaling 4,901 hours, for inclusion of such characters or issues on the five major networks (ABC, CBS, NBC, Fox and the CW) from June 1, 2008, to May 31, 2009. The study also examined all original prime-time programming, 1,213 hours, on 10 prominent cable networks. The programming included dramas, comedies, unscripted fare and newsmagazines.
Cable's Showtime ranked second, with 26 percent of its programming hours featuring gay characters or themes. Series included "The L Word," "Weeds" and "The United States of Tara," a new comedy about a family whose teenage son is gay.
ABC got the highest ranking of the five broadcast networks, with 24 percent. It was the second year in a row that ABC led the broadcasters.
Among ABC series, the report cited newlyweds Kevin and Scotty on "Brothers & Sisters," the engagement of Andrew to Dr. Alex Cominis on "Desperate Housewives" and bisexual Dr. Callie Torres on "Grey's Anatomy."
The CW logged 20 percent, and the Fox network 11 percent, the report said.
Among the sampling of cable networks evaluated, TNT showed the largest growth, jumping to 19 percent last season from 1 percent the year before. This was largely thanks to its new drama series, "Raising the Bar," which features gay law clerk Charlie Sagansky as a regular character, GLAAD said.
"Television shows that weave our stories into the fabric of the series present richer, more diverse representations," said Rashad Robinson, GLAAD's senior director of media programs.
In September, GLAAD will release its annual report evaluating gay, bisexual and transgender inclusion, and other diversity, among scripted characters scheduled to appear during the 2009-10 season. Monday's report said TV characters in general are predominantly white, regardless of sexual orientation.
PHOENIX - Four boys ages 9 to 14 are in custody after Phoenix
police say they lured an 8-year-old girl to an empty storage shed, held
her down and sexually assaulted her.
Sgt. Andy Hill said Wednesday the boys face kidnapping and sexual assault charges.
"This is probably one of the worst crimes we've come across for many, many years in the city of Phoenix," Hill said.
Police allege the boys - ages 9, 10, 13 and 14 - lured the girl
to the shed July 16 under the pretense of offering her chewing gum.
They then restrained and sexually assaulted her over the course of
10-15 minutes, police said.
"She was in fact restrained by some suspects while one was
committing one of the crimes, and they took turns. So, it was a brutal
offense," Hill said.
Officers responding to an emergency call found the girl partially clothed and the suspects running from the scene.
Police say the girl and all but one of the boys live in the
same Phoenix apartment complex and one of the suspects is believed to
be her cousin.
The boys are being held in juvenile corrections, but the
14-year-old will be charged as an adult. Investigators said he appears
to have been the ring leader.
It was unknown Wednesday whether the 14-year-old had an attorney.
Authorities said the boys were interviewed by investigators with consent from family and admitted involvement in the crime.
"I mean, these little boys, the 9- and 10-year-old, they're very
young looking. I mean, these are young children," said Hill. "The 13-
and 14-year-old, you know, they look a little older, but these are
children."
Child Protective Services has taken custody of the girl after police said her parents blamed her for the assault.
"[CPS] did take custody of the victim, primarily because, as you
can see what I wrote, that the parents felt they had been shamed or
embarrassed by their child and that's not acceptable," Hill said.
The victim's family told News/Talk 92.3 KTAR reporter Jennifer Parks
the girl didn't listen to them on the night of the attack, and that she
wanted to go to a party. They said they're not mad at the boys, but
they just want their daughter back.
"She's not listening," said the victim's older sister. "I told
her to get inside but she not listen to me and she went out. She went
out, she said she was very emphatic. So I don't know who to blame. I
don't know, she or the boys, I don't know who to blame."
(Washington)
Judy Rickard took an early retirement and a reduced pension so she
could be assured of more time with her partner, a British citizen whose
stays in the U.S. are limited to six months.
Rickard, 61, would have preferred to keep working at San Jose State
University and sponsor her partner, Karin Bogliolo, for residency in
the United States, just as heterosexual couples can. But U.S. law does
not allow for that.
"If you're going to have a system that"s designed to keep families
together, it should focus on keeping families together,” Rickard said.
That could soon change, as more than 100 lawmakers in the House and
about 20 in the Senate have signed onto bills that would add the United
States to the 19 countries that already recognize same-sex couples for
immigration purposes.
Gay rights groups are encouraged that President Barack Obama has
signaled that he would like to include couples like Rickard and
Bogliolo in the bills.
"In many ways, the stars are aligning to move this forward as part
of a comprehensive bill,” said Steve Ralls, communications director for
the advocacy group Immigration Equality. “That's an opportunity we
didn"t have years ago.”
The provisions concerning same-sex couples are part of legislation
that would increase the number of visas provided to family members of
people already in the United States legally.
The long-standing fight over the country’s estimated 36,000 same sex
couples of two nationalities is a small but emotional part of the
debate over immigration reform. But including same-sex couples in the
mix could make it harder to pass an immigration overhaul.
A key ally in past immigration fights, the U.S. Conference of
Catholic Bishops, said it would not support a measure that has a
same-sex provision.
Writing to Rep. Mike Honda, D-Calif., the organization said the
provision would “erode the institution of marriage and family by
according marriage-like immigration benefits to same sex relationships.”
Other groups say that it is often difficult to verify the validity
of same-sex relationships if one of the partners comes from a country
that does not recognize or document same-sex unions.
Honda, lead author of the “Reuniting Families Act,” credited
Rickard, one of his constituents, for bringing the issue to his
attention. Honda said his Japanese heritage contributed to his taking a
closer look at protecting same-sex couples through an overhaul of the
nation’s immigration law.
Japanese-Americans were sent to internment camps during the fallout
from Pearl Harbor and redefined as persons of enemy alien ancestry,
Honda said.
“The lack of political leadership played a big part in what happened
to us,” Honda said. “And that’s true in almost every civil rights case.”
Another California resident, Shirley Tan, testified before the
Senate Judiciary Committee last month in favor of a comparable bill.
Tan has been in California since arriving on a visitor’s visa in
1989. She applied for asylum in 1995 because she was afraid of a cousin
in the Philippines who had killed her mother and sister and critically
wounded her.
She was unaware the petition had been denied until federal agents
took her away in handcuffs at the end of January. Democratic Sen.
Dianne Feinstein of California has since sponsored a bill that allows
Tan to stay in the U.S. until the current session of Congress ends in
late 2010.
“I have a partner who is a U.S. citizen, and two beautiful children
who are also U.S. citizens, but not one of them can petition for me to
remain in the United States with them,” Tan said.
The NAACP and the American Bar Association also spoke in favor of
including “permanent partners” as part of an immigration bill, saying
that current law amounts to discrimination.
Permanent partner is defined in proposed legislation as an
individual 18 or older who is “in a committed, intimate relationship
with another individual 18 or older in which both individuals intend a
lifelong commitment.”
Sen. Jeff Sessions, R-Ala., said he doubted the legislation would
pass this Congress. He said it amounts to a redefinition of marriage
and would give people more opportunities to come into the United States
fraudulently.
“It seems we would be creating a special preference and benefit for
a category of immigrants based on a relationship that’s not recognized
by federal law and overwhelmingly by most states,” Sessions said.
Rickard said she may reluctantly move to Great Britain or another
country when her partner’s current travel visa expires in November.
Bogliolo, however, said she would prefer to live in the U.S. for her
partner’s sake.
“Judy has elderly parents and family here and she’s also lived here
all her life whereas I’ve lived in many different countries,” Bogliolo
said. “I think Judy would find it very difficult after a whole life in
San Jose to move over to Europe, so I decided if at all possible that I
would move over here.”
(Kingston,
Jamaica) Even now, about three years after a near-fatal gay bashing,
Sherman gets jittery at dusk. On bad days, his blood quickens, his eyes
dart, and he seeks refuge indoors.
A group of men kicked him and slashed him with knives for being a
"batty boy” - a slang term for gay men - after he left a party before
dawn in October 2006. They sliced his throat, torso, and back, hissed
anti-gay epithets, and left him for dead on a Kingston corner.
"It gets like five, six o'clock, my heart begins to race. I just
need to go home, I start to get nervous,” said the 36-year-old outside
the secret office of Jamaica"s sole gay rights group. Like many other
gays, Sherman won't give his full name for fear of retribution.
Despite the easygoing image propagated by tourist boards, gays and
their advocates agree that Jamaica is by far the most hostile island
toward homosexuals in the already conservative Caribbean. They say
gays, especially those in poor communities, suffer frequent abuse. But
they have little recourse because of rampant anti-gay stigma and a
sodomy law banning sex between men in Jamaica and 10 other former
British colonies in the Caribbean.
It is impossible to say just how common gay bashing attacks like the
one against Sherman are in Jamaica - their tormentors are sometimes the
police themselves. But many homosexuals in Jamaica say homophobia is
pervasive across the sun-soaked island, from the pulpit to the floor of
the Parliament.
Hostility toward gays has reached such a level that four months ago,
gay advocates in New York City launched a short-lived boycott against
Jamaica at the site of the Stonewall Inn, where demonstrations launched
the gay-rights movement in 1969. In its 2008 report, the U.S. State
Department also notes that gays have faced death and arson threats, and
are hesitant to report incidents against them because of fear.
For gays, the reality of this enduring hostility is loneliness and fear, and sometimes even murder.
Andrew, a 36-year-old volunteer for an AIDS education program, said
he was driven from the island after his ex-lover was killed for being
gay - which police said was just a robbery gone wrong. He moved to the
U.K. for several years, but returned to Jamaica in 2008 for personal
reasons he declined to disclose.
“I"m living in fear on a day-to-day basis,” he said softly during a
recent interview in Kingston. “In the community where my ex-lover was
killed, people will say to me when I’m passing on the street, they will
make remarks like 'boom-boom-boom’ or 'batty boy fi dead.’ I don’t feel
free walking on the streets.”
Many in this highly Christian nation perceive homosexuality as a
sin, and insist violence against gays is blown out of proportion by gay
activists. Some say Jamaica tolerates homosexuality as long as it is
not advertised - a tropical version of former President Bill Clinton’s
“don’t ask, don’t tell” policy for the U.S. military.
Jamaica’s most prominent evangelical pastor, Bishop Herro Blair,
said he sympathizes with those who face intolerance, but that
homosexuals themselves are actually behind most of the attacks reported
against them.
“Among themselves, homosexuals are extremely jealous,” said Blair
during a recent interview. “But some of them do cause a reaction by
their own behaviors, for, in many people’s opinions, homosexuality is
distasteful.”
Other church leaders have accused gays of flaunting their behavior
to “recruit” youngsters, or called for them to undergo “redemptive
work” to break free of their sexual orientation.
Perhaps playing to anti-gay constituents, politicians routinely rail
against homosexuals. During a parliamentary session in February,
lawmaker Ernest Smith of the ruling Jamaica Labor Party stressed that
gays were “brazen,” “abusive,” and “violent,” and expressed anxiety
that the police force was “overrun by homosexuals.”
A few weeks later, Prime Minister Bruce Golding described gay
advocates as “perhaps the most organized lobby in the world” and vowed
to keep Jamaica’s “buggery law” - punishable by 10 years - on the
books. During a BBC interview last year, Golding vowed to never allow
gays in his Cabinet.
The dread of homosexuality is so all-encompassing that many Jamaican
men refuse to get digital rectal examinations for prostate cancer, even
those whose disease is advanced, said Dr. Trevor Tulloch of St. Andrews
Hospital.
“Because it is a homophobic society, there’s such a fear of the
sexual implications of having the exam that men won’t seek out help,”
said Tulloch, adding Jamaica has a soaring rate of prostate cancer
because men won’t be screened.
The anti-gay sentiment on this island of 2.8 million has perhaps
become best known through Jamaican “dancehall,” a rap-reggae music
hybrid that often has raunchy, violent themes. Some reggae rappers,
including Bounty Killer and Elephant Man, depend on gay-bashing songs
to rouse concert-goers.
“It stirs up the crowd to a degree that many performers feel they
have to come up with an anti-gay song to incite the audience,” said
Barry Chevannes, a professor of social anthropology at the University
of the West Indies.
Brooklyn-based writer Staceyann Chin, a lesbian who fled her
Caribbean homeland for New York more than a decade ago, stressed that
violence in Jamaica is high - there were 1,611 killings last year,
about 10 times more than the U.S. rate relative to population - but
that it is “extraordinarily” high against gays.
“The macho ideal is celebrated, praised in Jamaica, while
homosexuality is paralleled with pedophilia, rapists,” Chin said.
“Markers that other people perceive as gay - they walk a certain way,
wear tight pants, or are overly friendly with a male friend - make them
targets. It’s a little pressure cooker waiting to pop.”
In 1996, when she was 20, Chin came out as lesbian on the Kingston
UWI campus. She said she was ostracized by her peers, and one day was
herded into a campus bathroom by a group of male students, who ripped
off her clothes and sexually assaulted her.
“They told me what God wanted from me, that God made women to enjoy
sex with men,” recalled Chin, a poet, performer and lecturer who closes
her just-published memoir “The Other Side of Paradise” with her searing
account of the attack.
Even in New York City, anti-gay Jamaican bigots sent her hate-filled
e-mails after a 2007 appearance on Oprah Winfrey’s TV talk show to
discuss homosexuality.
Chin said she doesn’t know if she would have the courage to come out now as a lesbian in Jamaica.
“The tensions are higher now. People are feeling very much that they have to declare camps,” she said.
Jamaican nationalism has always been tied in deeply with bugbears
about masculinity, making for a “potent brew” where those who violate
accepted standards of manliness are easy targets, said Scott Long of
Human Rights Watch.
Long, head of a gay rights program at the New York-based group,
pointed out that most other English-speaking islands in the region have
tiny populations, where gays don’t come out and visible activism is
limited.
“(But) what stands out about Jamaica is how absolutely,
head-in-the-sand unwilling the authorities have been for years to
acknowledge or address homophobic violence,” he said. “Most notably,
three successive governments have completely, utterly, publicly refused
even to talk about changing the buggery law - which expressly consigns
gay people to second-class citizens and paints targets on their backs.”
Prominent Jamaican political activist Yvonne McCalla Sobers noted
that social standing still protects gay islanders, especially in
Kingston, where a quest for privacy and the fear of crime has driven
many to live behind gated walls with key pad entry systems, 24-hour
security and closed-circuit television monitoring. People with power
and money who are not obviously gay are often protected, she said.
“My thought is there are far more men having sex with men in this country than you would ever think is happening,” Sobers said.
Many gays from poorer areas in Jamaica say they congregate in
private to find safety and companionship. Once a month, they have
underground church services at revolving locations across the island.
Sherman, meanwhile, is simply trying to move on with his life. But
he said he will always remember how, after his attack, patrolmen
roughly lifted his bloodied body out of their squad car when a man
admonished them for aiding a “batty boy.” A woman shamed them into
driving him to a hospital; they stuffed him in the car’s trunk.
“Being gay in Jamaica, it’s like, don’t tell anybody. Just keep it to yourself,” he said evenly, with a half smile.
The Episcopal Church, casting aside warnings about further alienating conservatives within its ranks, on Tuesday lifted a de facto ban on the ordination of gay bishops and is continuing to weigh a measure that would sanction blessings for same-sex couples.
Bishops, clergy and lay leaders voted overwhelmingly at the denomination's General Convention in Anaheim to open "any ordained ministry" to gays and lesbians.
The liberalized policy represents a reversal from guidelines adopted by the church at its last convention in 2006 that effectively prohibited the consecration of bishops whose "manner of life" would strain relations with the 77-million member Anglican Communion. The Episcopal Church is the U.S. branch of the communion.
The new approach is likely to deepen theological fissures that led some traditionalist Episcopal congregations and dioceses last month to form a rival church. And it is almost certain to trigger a backlash among conservative Anglican leaders who have urged the U.S. church to refrain from relaxing ordination and marriage standards.
But progressives in the 2.1-million member denomination said the move toward inclusion reflects the reality of a church that is home to many partnered gays and lesbians who belong to parishes that encourage their involvement and already bless their unions.
"Being an Episcopalian means you can disagree and still worship together," said the Rt. Rev. J. Jon Bruno, bishop of the Diocese of Los Angeles. "We're going to leave the door open for all those who disagree with us to find a place here and peace here."
Tensions have been mounting since 2003, when a partnered gay priest, V. Gene Robinson, was consecrated as bishop of New Hampshire. Several conservative Anglican leaders, especially in Africa, cut ties to the U.S. church after his election.
The spiritual leader of the Anglican Communion, Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams, had expressed apprehension during a brief visit to the conference last week about decisions "that could push us further apart."
On Tuesday, an elated Robinson celebrated the lopsided vote in the church's two legislative bodies -- the House of Bishops and the House of Deputies, composed of clergy and laity.
"I'm simply delighted at the possibility that another diocese will recognize the gifts of a gay or lesbian clergy person," he said. "I long for the day when someone who shares my experience as an openly gay bishop joins me in the House of Bishops. It has been lonely."
But a bishop who left the church last year predicted that the decisions made in Anaheim would increase strains with disaffected conservatives.
"Clearly the activists have done a good job promoting their agenda," said the Rt. Rev. Martyn Minns, a founding bishop of the newly formed Anglican Church in North America, which hopes to gain recognition from the Anglican Communion as a rival province to the Episcopal Church.
"The generosity shown by the rest of the communion has been astonishing and has been thrown back in their face," Minns said. "There will have to be a renegotiation of how the Episcopal Church fits into the family."
The measure to consecrate gay bishops won the support of more than two-thirds of the denomination's two legislative houses. The church's presiding bishop, the Most. Rev. Katharine Jefferts Schori, also supported it.
The resolution seeks to reassure Anglican leaders about the U.S. church's loyalty, saying that the convention reaffirms its "abiding commitment" and financial support for the communion.
But the measure also affirms that "God has called" gays and lesbians in partnered relationships to "any ordained ministry in the Episcopal Church," adding that the call "is a mystery which the church attempts to discern for all people."
Church leaders said the new policy does not repeal the 3-year-old moratorium but instead calls for Episcopal officials to abide by church canons, which prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation.
Debate on a separate measure concerning blessings for same-sex unions is expected today in the House of Bishops, which postponed a vote Tuesday after members asked for more time to discuss the issue.
The measure would allow bishops to "provide generous pastoral response" to gay and lesbian couples, but it would not require those who object to deliver the blessings. Several bishops and lay leaders said they expected a compromise that would permit blessings.
The Rev. Susan Russell, president of Integrity USA, a group that represents gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people in the church, said the Anaheim convention would send a message to the global communion that the church is "committed to both honesty and unity."
But Russell acknowledged the potential for continued conflict.
"There are absolutely challenges," she said. "There is no attempting to skirt the fact that what we are doing is stepping beyond where many in the communion would prefer we go."
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Thus, Hustler magazine's parody of Jerry Falwell was deemed to be within the law, leading to a reversal of the jury verdict in favor of Falwell, who had previously been awarded $150,000 in damages by a lower court.
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Hi guys! I have a friend who is Bi. I still love her and don't care
that she is Bi, but why can't Bi and Straight can't understand why
Lesbians don't like men. I love men, but I could never have sex with
them because they are not my type. But, trying to explain that a
person doesn't like the opposite sex is crazy and I will be talking
about it today.
Question: Do you have to explain to Bi or/and Straight people why you are gay?
I want to know who you dealt with the questions or comments. Write your comments here.
PHOENIX - A day after Arizona Governor Jan Brewer signed a bill putting
restrictions on abortions, Planned Parenthood is taking action.
The new bill requires women to wait 24 hours before getting an
abortion, puts tougher parental controls on teens wanting to end
pregnancy and gives the ability for health care providers to deny
emergency contraception on religious or moral grounds.
Carol Bafaloukos, with Planned Parenthood, says they're fighting back.
"We're still strategizing with our Planned Parenthood Federation
of America," Bafaloukos told KTAR. "But, we are very dedicated to
assisting women."
She went on to say this bill is frustrating and puts up barriers for women.
"It really takes us backwards," Bafaloukos said. "Women are
confronted with very difficult decisions very often and to further put
up barriers for them to make their own decisions is very frustrating."
____________________________
Should This Person Be A Mom:
Woman Found in Home With Bodies of 4 Kids Faces Murder Charges
Thursday , January 10, 2008
Fox News
WASHINGTON —
A woman found in her
home with the decomposing bodies of four girls faces murder charges,
and authorities believe she is their mother, officials said Thursday.
Banita Jacks, 33, was expected to appear Thursday in D.C. Superior Court, where the charges will be presented, prosecutors said.
"We are working on the assumption that these are her four children," police Chief Cathy Lanier said at a news conference.
The bodies of the girls — ages 5, 6, 11 and 17 — were found
Wednesday when deputy U.S. marshals served an eviction notice at the
apartment. Medical examiner Dr. Marie-Lydie Pierre-Louis said the
bodies were likely there more than 15 days, "based on the insects that
were found there."
Jacks, who faces four counts of felony murder, could receive a maximum sentence of life in prison if convicted.
"I don't think anyone in the city can remember a case involving this
many young people who have died in such a tragic way," Mayor Adrian M.
Fenty said.
How the girls died remained under investigation, but Pierre-Louis
said it appeared the oldest child might have been stabbed in the
abdomen. The other three children might have been poisoned or
asphyxiated, she said. The medical examiner's office was trying to
identify the girls using dental records or DNA.
Lloyd Nolan Jr., an attorney listed at the courthouse for Jacks, did
not immediately return a telephone call from The Associated Press
seeking comment.
The home where the bodies were found is in one of the city's
poorest, most violent neighborhoods. The block is lined by virtually
identical apartment houses near Bolling Air Force Base. About one-third
of the city's homicides last year occurred in the area, according to
preliminary police statistics.
City officials were scrambling to understand how four children could
have been dead for at least two weeks without anyone knowing.
The mayor said Thursday that officials were working to determine what other contacts city agencies had with the family.
"We are going to investigate every single contact that this family
has had with the government, with people who are paid to look out for
the welfare of children, and we will come back with a full report,"
Fenty said.
Mindy Good, a spokeswoman for the D.C. Child and Family Services
agency, said Wednesday that the agency had received one report about a
family at that address in April through the city's child abuse and
neglect reporting hot line.
"We made several attempts to make contact with these people. We were
unable to have any face-to-face contact with them," Good said. "On the
last attempt (in early May), it appeared they were no longer living at
the address."
Good said investigators later found a new address for the family in
Maryland and alerted county authorities there of the report on the
family. She would not say where the family was believed to be living.
Nona Richardson, a spokeswoman for the D.C. Public Charter School
Board, said Jacks' three younger daughters attended the Meridian Public
Charter School consistently until March 2, 2007.
When they stopped showing up, Richardson said the school immediately
tried to contact the mother by mail and telephone. Officials finally
went to the woman's home and the woman told a school official that she
wanted to withdraw the children and home-school them. They were
withdrawn on March 15, 2007.
None of the children thought to be living in the home was enrolled
in the public school system, said D.C. schools spokeswoman Mafara
Hobson. One child at that address had attended Stuart-Hobson Elementary
School but withdrew in 2006 as a fifth-grader, she said.
Fenty said Thursday that besides at least one contact with child
welfare officials, the family had at least one brush with D.C. police.
According to court records, Jacks was charged in January 2007 with
driving an unregistered vehicle. In February, she paid a $175 fine and
the case was dismissed.
Larry Jones, who lives next door, said a woman and two or three
children lived at the home but he had not seen them since the summer.
He said the children appeared healthy at the time.
Jones added that in recent months he has noticed a "strange odor"
coming through his vent. "We thought it was probably dead mice in the
vent or something," he said.
Resident Rowand Simpkins said her neighbors tend to keep to themselves and that she never saw the woman or children.
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BOSTON (Reuters) - Massachusetts' attorney general filed a lawsuit on Wednesday against the U.S. government that seeks federal marriage benefits for about 16,000 gay and lesbian couples who have legally wed in Massachusetts.
The state is challenging the constitutionality of the federal 1996 Defense of Marriage Act, saying the law denies "essential rights and protections" to same-sex couples who have married since Massachusetts became the first state in the nation to legalize gay weddings in 2004.
The federal law interferes with the state's "sovereign authority to define and regulate marriage," according to the suit filed in federal court in Boston. It calls the law "overreaching and discriminatory."
The suit is the latest skirmish over gay marriage in the U.S. federal court system after handful of political filmmakers led by a Democratic consultant crafted a gay rights challenge in May that they hope will reach the U.S. Supreme Court.
It also follows a separate lawsuit filed by a group of married gay couples in Massachusetts in March that also challenged the same portion of the Defense of Marriage Act that defines marriage as a legal union between a man and a woman.
Although Massachusetts and five other U.S. states have authorized gay marriage, same-sex couples who are legally married in those states cannot access the federal protections and programs granted to straight married couples.
The Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, denies gay and lesbian couples access to more than 1,000 federal programs and legal protections, gay rights advocates say.
Massachusetts Attorney General Martha Coakley, who filed the suit, cited several benefits denied gay couples, including federal income tax credits, employment and retirement benefits, health insurance coverage, and Social Security payments.
"We view all married persons equally," Coakley told a news conference.
Before 1996, states had the right to define marital status under state sovereignty, the suit said. Massachusetts wants the right to "define marriage within its own boundaries," it added, noting that this would not affect other states.
"In enacting DOMA, Congress overstepped its authority, undermined states' efforts to recognize marriages between same-sex couples, and codified an animus toward gay and lesbian people," the state's 32-page complaint said.
Forty-two U.S. states have laws explicitly prohibiting such marriages, including 29 with constitutional amendments restricting marriage to one man and one woman, according to the Human Rights Campaign, a gay rights advocacy group.
A lesbian couple who were harassed by colleagues over their sexuality have won £22,000 in compensation.
Beth Moules and Sharleen Amos, who both worked as saleswomen at
Soundwell-based firm Aquatech Rainsoft, told an employment tribunal in
Bristol they had been ridiculed and humiliated by comments from
colleagues over their relationship.
Yesterday, they were awarded more than £22,000.
Moules won £7,142.30 for unfair dismissal, while Amos was awarded
£5,000 for unfair dismissal in line with an out-of-court settlement.
Each woman also won £5,000 for hurt feelings for discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation.
They alleged that one colleague, Peter Thoburn, had told staff they had
performed a threesome with sales manager Stephen Rosenthal, adding he
was "the meat sandwich between them".
It was also claimed that Mr Thoburn had said to another colleague: "I
don't know how they can do it … it's disgusting, I don't agree with it."
The tribunal heard that the couple's boss, Stephen Baker-Joy, had told
them to stop complaining because "lesbians had never and would never
suffer in the way that Jews had".
Days after they complained, Amos was fired and Moules resigned, claiming constructive dismissal. They have since split up.
A law allowing the recognition of gay marriages performed in other states came into effect in Washington DC on Tuesday.
It means that same-sex couples in the district who married in the
handful of US states which do allow the practice can now receive more
than 200 rights, benefits, and obligations associated with marriage
under DC law.
The law came into effect at 12.01am today, when a 30-day Congressional review ended.
It will recognise gay marriages that are conducted within Iowa,
Vermont, Connecticut and Massachusetts. Gay marriages have been banned
in California following the voter initiated Proposition 8 during the
Presidential election.
However, as with states in which gay marriage is legal, couples will
not be able to enjoy many of the 1,100 federal rights and benefits
given to straight married couples, due to the Defence of Marriage Act
(DOMA).
Enacted in 1996, DOMA allows states to reject gay marriages performed
in other states and bars gay couples from accessing federal benefits.
In June, President Barack Obama signed a memorandum to extend federal
benefits for partners to same-sex couples but critics have said the
move will not be permanent, won't include healthcare and will not be
applied to those serving in the military.
Tell your spouse, your children, your neighbors, your parents your Dr's office, the check-out girl at the market, everyone you run across.
Put
your car keys beside your bed at night. If you hear a noise outside
your home or someone trying to get in your house, just press the panic
button for your car. The alarm will be set off, and the horn will
continue to sound until either you turn it off or the car battery dies.
This
tip came from a neighborhood watch coordinator. Next time you come home
for the night and you start to put your keys away, think of this:
It's
a security alarm system that you probably already have and requires no
installation. Test it.. It will go off from most everywhere inside your
house and will keep honking until your battery runs down or until you
reset it with the button on the key fob chain. It works if you park in
your driveway or garage If your car alarm goes off when someone is
trying to break into your house, odds are the burglar rapist won't
stick around. After a few seconds all the neighbors will be looking out
their windows to see who is out there and sure enough the criminal
won't want that. And remember to carry your keys while walking to your
car in a parking lot. The alarm can work the same way there ...... This
is something that should really be shared with everyone. Maybe it could
save a life or a sexual abuse crime.
P.S.
I am sending this to everyone I know because I think it is fantastic.
Would also be useful for any emergency, such as a heart attack, where
you can't reach a phone. My Mom has suggested to my Dad that he carry
his car keys with him in case he falls outside and she doesn't hear
him. He can activate the car alarm and then she'll know there's a
problem.
I
have also read that it is a good idea to plug your cell phone in beside
your bed each night so it is in close proximity. I used to recharge it
on the kitchen counter. I never could have reached it in an
emergency! Worth thinking about. JH
JERUSALEM (Reuters) - A gay pride parade in Jerusalem ended peacefully on Thursday but the planned opening of a municipal parking lot on the Jewish sabbath will test the delicate balance between religious and secular Jews in the city.
The annual parade has touched off anti-gay protests by ultra-Orthodox Jews in the holy city in the past. But this year they limited their protest to holding street prayers wearing brown sacks in line with a biblical mourning tradition.
Police deployed some 1,500 officers -- albeit far fewer than in recent years -- along the route, which avoided neighborhoods where traditionally black-garbed ultra-Orthodox Jews live.
Many devout Jews, Muslims and Christians view homosexuality as an abomination. In 2005, an ultra-Orthodox Jew stabbed and wounded three participants in the gay march. He is serving a 12-year sentence.
Amit Lev, a spokesman for the gay rights group behind the parade, said organizers had negotiated with ultra-Orthodox leaders in Jerusalem after "long years of silence" between the two communities.
"We've agreed that violence doesn't serve any of us or any of our goals," he said.
But tensions have been stirred in the city over plans by Jerusalem's Israeli mayor, Nir Barkat, to reopen a public parking lot on Saturday, a move that could draw more traffic into the city on the Jewish sabbath.
Jewish religious law bans travel on the sabbath, and Jerusalem's ultra-Orthodox community has negotiated with city authorities arrangements that limit or ban traffic in their neighborhoods on Saturdays.
Ultra-Orthodox Jews held stone-throwing protests three weeks ago when the municipal parking lot was last opened on a Saturday and authorities fear a repeat of the violence this weekend.
(Additional reporting by Erika Solomon, Writing by Jeffrey Heller, Editing by Michael Roddy)
BUDDHIST GROUP HOSTS GAY/HUMAN RIGHTS EVENT
Free Documentary/Panel Discussion Highlight Coming Out in the Developing World
Phoenix - Dangerous Living: Coming Out in the Developing
World, a documentary that explores the lives of gay and lesbian people
in non-western cultures and their struggle for basic human rights in
the face of severe oppression, will be shown from 12:00 p.m. to 2:30
p.m., Saturday, June 27 at the SGI Phoenix Culture Center, 1930 E.
Myrtle St. in Phoenix.
A panel discussion will follow the showing of the one-hour film.
Panelists will share their experience and knowledge of what it means
to live in a culture of daily oppression because of their sexual
orientation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning
(LGBTQ).
"In the United States we are focused on gay marriage rights, but
in countries such as Egypt, Honduras, Kenya and Thailand, the LGBTQ
community faces severe oppression such as imprisonment or even
execution,” said Beth Tucker, coordinator of the event. “As we strive
for our own rights, it's vital to educate ourselves on the struggles
our brothers and sisters in other countries. This documentary will be
an eye-opener, and hopefully a call to action to raise awareness of
this horrendous discrimination and cruelty.”
Dangerous Living is part of the Human Rights Watch Selects series.
Admission to the event is free, but seating is limited. To register,
call 602-547-8470. For more information about the film go to www.afterstonewall.com. For more information on SGI-USA, visit www.sgi-usa.org
Abercrombie & Fitch Co. said Wednesday that it will shut all of its Ruehl stores by the end of the fiscal year, as the recession has proved too much for the brand to bear.
The retailer said the pullback in consumer spending that was prompted by the economic downturn weighed on its 29 Ruehl stores and the brand's direct-to-consumer operations. The stores were aimed at older shoppers than its namesake teen apparel chain.
"Given the current economic environment, we believe it is in the best interests of the Company to focus its efforts and resources on the growth opportunities afforded by our other brands, particularly internationally," Chief Executive and Chairman Mike Jeffries said in a statement.
Abercrombie & Fitch's strategic review of Ruehl led to first-quarter impairment charges of about $51 million. The brand's closing will result in an additional $65 million in charges, that will occur through the remainder of fiscal 2009.
The retailer said it has amended its existing credit facility so that it can exclude from the minimum coverage and maximum leverage ratios up to $61 million of the approximately $65 million in anticipated Ruehl-related charges. The charges will also be excluded from ratio calculations.
Abercrombie & Fitch also agreed to lower the facility's credit line to $350 million from $450 million.
Aside from Ruehl, the company has 350 namesake stores, 210 abercrombie stores, 507 Hollister Co. stores and 16 Gilly Hicks stores in the U.S. It also runs three Abercrombie & Fitch stores, three abercrombie stores and five Hollister Co. stores in Canada, and one Abercrombie & Fitch store and four Hollister Co. stores in the U.K.
Shares of Abercrombie & Fitch added 16 cents to $25.96 in morning trading.
President Obama will sign a presidential memorandum on Wednesday to extend benefits to same-sex partners of federal employees, administration officials said Tuesday evening, but he will stop short of pledging full health insurance coverage.
Mr. Obama, in an Oval Office announcement, is expected to offer details about which benefits will be provided. It is the most significant statement he has made on gay issues, and it comes as he faces intense criticism from several gay rights leaders over what they suggest has been a failure to live up to campaign promises in the first months of his presidency.
Mr. Obama will be weighing in for the first time on one of the most delicate social and political issues of the day: whether the government must provide benefits to same-sex partners of federal employees. While he will announce a list of benefits, officials said, they are not expected to include broad health insurance coverage, which could require legislation to achieve.
The initial reaction from some gay rights advocates was mixed.
"Extending benefits to partners of gay federal employees is terrific, but at this point he is under enormous pressure from the gay civil rights community for having promised the moon and done nothing so far,” Richard Socarides, an adviser to the Clinton administration on gay issues, said Tuesday evening. “So more important now is what he says tomorrow about the future for gay people during his presidency.”
The breadth and scope of the memorandum to be signed by Mr. Obama was being completed Tuesday evening, said administration officials, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to avoid upstaging the president's announcement on Wednesday.
As a presidential candidate, Mr. Obama vowed to “fight hard” for the rights of gay couples. As a senator, he sponsored legislation that would have provided health benefits to same-sex partners of federal employees.
But President Obama and his advisers have been reluctant to wade deeply into divisive issues like overturning a ban on openly gay military members or extending benefits to partners of government employees, fearful that such moves could overtake the administration"s broader agenda.
He has sent private assurances, several activists have said, that he intends to do more in coming years. But some gay groups have grown impatient with the wary stance of the White House, particularly as a growing number of state legislatures have taken up the question of same-sex marriage and other issues important to gay men and lesbians.
In considering whether to extend health benefits to same-sex partners, Mr. Obama confronted divided legal opinions.
In California, two federal appeals court judges said that employees of their court were entitled to health benefits for their same-sex partners under the program that insures millions of federal workers. But the federal Office of Personnel Management has instructed insurers not to provide the benefits ordered by the judges, citing a 1996 law, the Defense of Marriage Act.
Joe Solmonese, the president of the Human Rights Campaign, wrote an angry letterto the White House on Monday about a decision by the administration to file a legal brief supporting the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act.
“As an American, a civil rights advocate, and a human being, I hold this administration to a higher standard than this brief,” Mr. Solmonese wrote. “In the course of your campaign, I became convinced — and I still want to believe — that you do, too.”
The brief, filed in federal court last week, was in response to a lawsuit arguing that the marriage act is unconstitutional.
A White House spokesman said that it was standard practice for the administration to back laws that are challenged in court — even those it does not agree with — and that the president “wants to see a legislative repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act.” Mr. Obama repeatedly backed repealing the act during his presidential campaign.
With the administration’s decision to stop short of extending full health insurance benefits or calling for legislation to do so, it remained an open question how significant the presidential announcement would be, Mr. Socarides said.
But administration officials said the timing of the announcement was intended to help contain the growing furor among gay rights groups. Several gay donors withdrew their sponsorship of a Democratic National Committee fund-raising event next week, where Vice President Joseph R. Biden Jr. is scheduled to speak.
Kate Phillips and Bernie Becker contributed reporting from Washington.
First Photo of Chaz Bono Surfaces Since Sex-Change Process Began
Tuesday , June 16, 2009
The first photos of Chaz Bono have surfaced since the daughter of legendary singing duo Sonny and Cher began hormonal treatment in preparation for a sex change.
According to a report from RadarOnline, Bono began taking hormones some time within the last two weeks.
While the transgender offspring of the two pop icons has not changed much in terms of physical appearance, sources close to the author/musician say she may have to lose weight in order to proceed with the surgery.
Cher has yet to make a statement on her daughter’s decision to become a man.
Last week, Bono's publicist made the announcement that the operation process began shortly after her 40th birthday.
"Chaz, after many years of consideration, has made the courageous decision to honor his true identity," Bono's publicist, Howard Bragman, told TMZ.
"He is proud of his decision and grateful for the support and respect that has already been shown by his loved ones," Bragman said. "It is Chaz's hope that his choice to transition will open the hearts and minds of the public regarding this issue, just as his 'coming out' did nearly 20 years ago."
Suozzi explains change of view on same-sex marriage
BY WILLIAM MURPHY
william.murphy@newsday.com
11:03 PM EDT, June 14, 2009
There was no epiphany, no defining moment, Nassau County Executive Thomas Suozzi said, when he realized that gay marriage should be legal in New York State.
"It was just something I had been thinking about. I know a lot of gay and lesbian people and it's something that keeps coming up," he said Sunday in explaining why he had changed his position.
When Suozzi ran for governor in 2006, he had favored civil unions and did not endorse marriage for gays and lesbians.
Suozzi outlined his new position in an op-ed article that appeared in The New York Times on Saturday and said in it, of his earlier position, "I was wrong."
"I now support same-sex marriage," he wrote. "This is a subject of great debate before the New York State Legislature (although the legislators there are a little distracted right now), and I hope that same-sex marriage will be approved within the month."
Suozzi wrote, "Any change in the New York law can, and must, balance equality while making sure that religious institutions remain free to choose whether to marry same-sex couples."
A spokesman for Suffolk County Executive Steve Levy, asked for his position Sunday on gay marriage, said: "Steve's position is that he has no problem with gay marriage on the civil side, but he does not believe it should be imposed on religious institutions."
Suffolk Democratic chairman Richard Schaffer said at the county convention in May that he backed the state gay marriage bill, and cited Legis. Jon Cooper (D-Lloyd Harbor) getting married in Old Greenwich, Conn., as evidence that same-sex marriages should be legalized in New York.
Cooper said Sunday that a groundswell of public support for same-sex marriage has influenced some elected officials to change their position and back legislation guaranteeing civil marriage for gay couples.
"If there wasn't a feeling that the water is safe, there's a number of legislators who wouldn't feel comfortable doing what their heart dictates," Cooper said while marching in the Long Island Pride Parade in Huntington with four of his children. "They've got to take that leap."
The James W. Von Brunn, accused Holocaust museum gunman who allegedly shot and killed a black security guard had been growing more angry, hateful and desperate in recent weeks, according to those who know him.
One of my ex-friends who was HOT HOT HOT. I mean Hot. She was Michelle Rodriguez, Megan Fox and Angie Jolie in all one hot %7*)($ body, but hate killed her.
I didn't know that I can't make a right hand turn on a red light. When did this law change?
This is a letter I sent to Mayor Gordon, Honorable Jan Brewer, Senators: Jon Kyl and John McCain, and news stations.
Can you believe this?
Dear:
Hello. My name is Aliya Leigh.
I was served a traffic ticket at my home by a process server. The camera took a picture of my license plate and my picture.But, the problem is, the violation description is: Failure to stop/remain stopped for red light making a right hand turn; in Phoenix on W/B Northern Aveand 19th Ave.
As I understand, I can make right hand turns on a red light in the state of Arizona.I have been making right hand turns on a red light in this state for 11 years.I know our state needs money, but I believe the lawmakers of this state should not just make up rules on a wimp, for example - if you are not showing the “Arizona” on a license plate, you will get fined $150.00.I did go to driving school because I do admit that I have a problem with speeding, but in driving school they never mention this rule about, Failure to stop/remain stopped for red light making a right hand turn.
My case number is: 39XXXXX and my notice number is: 03XXXXXXXXXXX, with pin# XXXX.I don’t care that we have cameras in this state, but this charge is sad.I spoke to someone at the court and they told me that, I have to stop count to a number and then make a right turn on a red light.First, I never heard of this rule and who does the camera know I counted before making a right turn.
If I was wrong, I would pay the ticket, but the law states that I can make a right turn on a red light.When have this changed?Please look into this.Your help is highly appreciated.
Gay marriage bill signed into law in New Hampshire
By NORMA LOVE – 26 minutes ago
CONCORD, N.H. (AP) — New Hampshire became the sixth state to legalize gay marriage after the Senate and House passed key language on religious rights and Gov. John Lynch — who personally opposes gay marriage — signed the legislation Wednesday afternoon.
After rallies outside the Statehouse by both sides in the morning, the last of three bills in the package went to the Senate, which approved it 14-10 Wednesday afternoon.
Cheers from the gallery greeted the key vote in the House, which passed it 198-176. Surrounded by gay marriage supporters, Lynch signed the bill about an hour later.
"Today, we are standing up for the liberties of same-sex couples by making clear that they will receive the same rights, responsibilities — and respect — under New Hampshire law," Lynch said.
Lynch, a Democrat, had promised a veto if the law didn't clearly spell out that churches and religious groups would not be forced to officiate at gay marriages or provide other services. Legislators made the changes.
Massachusetts, Connecticut, Maine, Vermont and Iowa already allow gay marriage, though opponents hope to overturn Maine's law with a public vote.
California briefly allowed gay marriage before a public vote banned it; a court ruling grandfathered in couples who were already married.
The New Hampshire law will take effect Jan. 1, exactly two years after the state began recognizing civil unions.
The Rt. Rev. V. Gene Robinson, elected in New Hampshire in 2003 as the first openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church, was among those celebrating the new law.
"It's about being recognized as whole people and whole citizens," Robinson said.
"There are a lot of people standing here who when we grew up could not have imagined this," he said. "You can't imagine something that is simply impossible. It's happened, in our lifetimes."
Opponents, mainly Republicans, objected on grounds including the fragmented process.
"It is no surprise that the Legislature finally passed the last piece to the gay marriage bill today. After all, when you take 12 votes on five iterations of the same issue, you're bound to get it passed sooner or later," said Kevin Smith, executive director of gay marriage opponent Cornerstone Policy Research.
The revised bill added a sentence specifying that all religious organizations, associations or societies have exclusive control over their religious doctrines, policies, teachings and beliefs on marriage.
It also clarified that church-related organizations that serve charitable or educational purposes are exempt from having to provide insurance and other benefits to same-sex spouses of employees.
The House rejected the language Lynch suggested two weeks ago by two votes. Wednesday's vote was on a revised bill negotiated with the Senate.
Supporters had considered Wednesday their last chance to pass a bill this year.
The law will establish civil and religious marriage licenses and allow each party to the marriage to be identified as bride, groom or spouse. Same-sex couples already in civil unions will automatically be assumed to have a "civil marriage."
Churches will be able to decide whether to conduct religious marriages for same-sex couples. Civil marriages would be available to both heterosexual and same-sex couples.
New Hampshire's decision leaves Rhode Island as the only New England state not to allow same-sex marriages. A bill there is expected to fail this year, as similar ones have in previous years.
Associated Press Writer David Tirrell-Wysocki in Concord, N.H., contributed to this report.
Queen Elizabeth I was the greatest CEO in history. Alan Axelrod wrote a book about how you can be a powerful leader like Queen Elizabeth I. You can also be a leader in your life.
Why is the government messing with our freedom of Religon to how I feel about Tori Spelling's mother. Now, I can't stand Tori and want her to just go away, but mother should never a child this.
SAN FRANCISCO (AP) — A coalition of gay rights groups said Wednesday that a federal same-sex marriage lawsuit brought by two high-profile lawyers is premature and they'd rather work through state legislatures and voters to win wedding rights.
A day after the California Supreme Court upheld a voter-approved ban on gay marriage, the American Civil Liberties Union, Lambda Legal and other national organizations issued a statement saying they think the U.S. Supreme Court is not ready to rule in their favor on the issue.
"In our view, the best way to win marriage equality nationally is to continue working state by state, not to bring premature federal challenges that pose a very high risk of setting a negative U.S. Supreme Court precedent," said Shannon Minter, legal director of National Center for Lesbian Rights.
On Tuesday, lawyers Theodore B. Olson and David Boies, who represented opposing sides in the 2000 Bush v. Gore election challenge, announced they had filed a lawsuit in federal court on behalf of two gay men and two gay women.
Their case argues that California's voter-enacted ban on same-sex marriage, known as Proposition 8, violates the U.S. Constitution's guarantee of equal protection and due process.
Olson said he hopes the suit, which seeks a preliminary injunction against the California measure until the case is resolved, will wind up before the U.S. Supreme Court.
A favorable ruling there would allow gays and lesbians to get married in every state, just as the court's 1967 ruling in a Virginia case outlawed prohibitions on interracial marriage.
"There will be many people who will think this is not the time to go to federal," Olson said Wednesday at a news conference in Los Angeles. "Both David and I have studied the court for more years than probably either one of us would like to admit. We think we know what we are doing."
Boies agreed: "Reasonable minds can differ, but when you have people being denied civil rights today, I think it is impossible as lawyers and as an American to say 'No, you have to wait, now is not the right time.' I think if we had done that in prior civil rights battles, we would not be where we are."
Chad Griffin, a gay political consultant and former aide to President Bill Clinton, said he approached Olson about taking on the case several months ago while the California Supreme Court was considering several legal challenges to Proposition 8.
On Tuesday, the court rejected those challenges and upheld the state's gay marriage ban. The court said same-sex couples still have the right to civil unions and the law does not "entirely repeal or abrogate" the right to a protected relationship.
"For even one couple to live through even one more day in state-sanctioned second-class citizenship is too long," Griffin said.
The California court last year ruled that denying same-sex couples the right to wed violated the state constitution. An estimated 18,000 gay couples married in the months preceding the passage in November of Proposition 8, which changed the constitution to say marriage can only be between a man and a woman.
While upholding the ban Tuesday, the justices said the marriages conducted while such unions were allowed could stand.
April 13, 2008 - Conflict can be a very constructive thing - bringing about change, new ideas and jumpstarting progress. Getting to that point, though, is much easier said than done. Most people would rather scrub the circa 1991 office coffee maker with their very own toothbrush than confront someone at work with whom they're having an interpersonal issue. So whether you have a colleague routinely stepping on your toes, you feel like your boss has been treating you unfairly or you suspect that Bob the office admin is surreptitiously stealing the US Weekly magazine you have sent to your work address, here are a few pointers that can help bring you closer to workplace nirvana. (On a serious note, harassment and threatening behavior is never ok in the workplace. Should a conflict arise with these characteristics, don't try to resolve it yourself - you need to report the incident to HR immediately.)
Is it worth the fight? We're all faced with conflict everyday. Are they all annoying? Yes. Do they all affect our job performance? No. You need to make this distinction. For example, I once had a boss who, on a quasi-regular basis, would have accessories for his Jeep shipped to work. Inevitably, they would be plopped down in front of my cube and remain there for the rest of the day. One time it was 4 ginormous tires that stunk to high heaven. While working in the aromatic equivalent of a petro-chemical plant was incredibly annoying, I decided that it wasn't really affecting my job, so I let it go. However, if you're faced with a situation that affects your ability to do your job successfully or impacts your happiness at work - you owe it to yourself to have a conversation about it. Particularly if it's with a person with whom you have a high level of interdependency.
Set the stage. Before you have a conversation to address the issue at hand, it's helpful to have a pre-conversation. No one likes being ambushed so you want to give the other person an opportunity to be prepared. Also, your tone here can really grease the wheels for a productive conversation later. While your first instinct might lead you to say, "Jane, the fact that you do absolutely no work on Project X and then try to take all the credit when we meet with our boss, really ticks me off. Can we discuss that?" You might try saying something like, "Jane, I'd like to talk about Project X and discuss what we can do to ensure we're working together as effectively as possible. Is there a time we can meet?" It isn't quite as satisfying, but I promise you, it'll go a lot further toward facilitating an agreeable resolution. After all, you're still going to have to work together.
The main event. At this point, you've set the stage, booked a conference room in neutral territory, taken a few deep breaths and you're ready to get down to it.
Recognize there are two contenders in the ring Obviously you have an issue concerning this person, otherwise you wouldn't be here. The purpose though, is to come to a resolution that works for you both, otherwise this is just a case of "I'm right and you're wrong." So understanding their point of view is an important step in this process. Try this: state your desired outcome (working more effectively together on Project X), focus on the behaviors that have been problematic, describe the impact that's had on you and then ask for their reactions/perspective.
Staying open won't get you clobbered Now's the time to employ those active listening skills! Take the time to really hear what the other person has to say and ask questions to ensure you understand the points they're trying to communicate. Staying true to the message you need to get across is essential, but by maintaining an open environment you may be surprised by what you learn and it could bring you to a resolution you didn't expect. In addition, learning to have constructive conversations with your colleagues in an open, non-accusatory manner is a tremendously valuable skill that will earn you respect at work.
Closing the gap You've heard each other's perspectives, everything's out on the table, now what are you going to do about it? The two of you should come to some agreement on how you'll interact with each other going forward. You might even decide to check in with each other from time to time to ensure you've embarked on the right path.
Piece of cake, right? Well, not really. Conflict is always uncomfortable and these conversations don't always go smoothly, even for people who are really good at it. By dealing with it though, you're taking responsibility for your own success. Also, the more you do it, the easier it gets and we could certainly all stand to make our lives at work easier - it's a jungle out there!
Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. Personally, I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.
Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.
Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.
Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:
1.Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.
Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.
2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."
Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.
3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.
Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.
4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.
Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.
5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.
Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.
6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.
Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.
7.Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.
Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.
Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.
All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.
Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?
Ending
a six-month legal battle and instantly igniting the next political
fight, the California Supreme Court on Tueday upheld Proposition 8's
ban on same-sex marriage, but left intact the unions of gay and lesbian
couples who wed last year.
In a definitive 6-1 decision that
cheered opponents of gay marriage, the justices said they would be
overstepping their authority if they were to overturn the
constitutional ban voters enacted Nov. 4. In the same ruling, the court
established a two-tiered system of marriage for same-sex couples that
seemed bound to satisfy no one.
Gay marriage advocates vowed
Tuesday to take the fight to "win marriage back" to California voters
in 2010. With same-sex marriage now legal in Iowa, Maine, Vermont,
Massachusetts and Connecticut, supporters say they have momentum after
a "sea change" of public opinion in recent months.
"It is
impossible to square the elation we felt a year ago" — when the same
seven justices struck down state prohibitions on same-sex marriage —
"with the grief we feel today," said Kate Kendall, executive director
of the National Center for Lesbian Rights. "It is clear this is not the
end."
Supporters of Proposition 8, meanwhile, were thrilled with
Tuesday's decisive 6-1 ruling, saying the judiciary had not just backed
the will of the people in the 52-48 percent margin of the November
vote, but had reaffirmed the power of initiative government in
California.
"What the court's
decision clearly states is that if the definition of marriage is going
to change," said Andrew Pugno, general counsel of ProtectMarriage.com, "it's going to have to change at the ballot box."
Sad celebration
Like
thousands of same-sex married people across the state, Lisa Miller took
a nervous break from work at Stanford's Hoover Institution at 10
Tuesday morning, in anticipation of the court decision.
She and
her wife, Paula Jabloner, were married in San Jose a few days before
voters passed the gay marriage ban. But when the radio intoned the news
of two seemingly conflicting things — the court had affirmed her union,
but also the vote banning gay marriage — Miller and many other same-sex
couples felt guilt and disappointment as strongly as relief. Instead of
celebrating, Miller and Jabloner planned to go to a protest Tuesday
night — one example of how the latest judicial ruling on same-sex
marriage will reverberate through California politics into 2010 and
perhaps beyond.
"It mostly hurts," said the Hoover Institution
archivist, sitting alone in her basement office moments after the
ruling, the murmur of scholars outside mingling with the radio.
'Hollowest victory'
Despite the ruling, even Pugno of ProtectMarriage.com
predicted the two-tiered system for same-sex couples would inevitably
lead to more litigation, even as the focus turns once again to the
ballot box.
For many of the estimated 18,000 same-sex couples who
legally married in California between June 16 and Election Day the
emotions that followed the court ruling were a sharp and unwelcome
mixture of relief, guilt and sadness.
"It's got to be the hollowest victory around," Miller said. "I'm in a top tier, and everybody else is in another."
She picked up the phone and dialed Jabloner, an archivist at the Computer History Museum in Mountain View.
"So
we're still married," Miller said, her voice quiet and flat, when
Jabloner picked up the phone. "People congratulating you? "... That's
good."
The situation made David Speakman, part of one of the
first two same-sex couples to marry in Santa Clara County in June, feel
as if he were "on an island" with the 36,000 other gay men and lesbians
who wed legally last year.
"It's an odd feeling because Rich and
I are still married, but we are separated from other married people who
are different-sex couples, because we'll be under the obligation to
prove we're married," Speakman said. "We're also separated from the
other gay people who can't get married, because we have something they
can't get."
With that "moral dilemma," he is thinking about boycotting all weddings — except in states that recognize same-sex marriage.
Future battles
In
San Francisco, where gay marriage has swung like a pendulum between
legal and illegal over the past five years, at least 2,000 "marriage
equality" supporters gathered in front of the Supreme Court on Tuesday
morning to await the ruling.
After the court's decision was
released, hundreds of people somberly walked across the plaza to San
Francisco City Hall, where the first gay marriages were performed in
February 2004. Later, a throng of protesters blocked the nearby
intersection of Van Ness Avenue and Grove Street.
But like many
San Francisco protests, this was a juxtaposition of anger with
near-celebration, as each arrest was greeted by applause, a blast of
music from an impromptu brass band and a gay couple making out in front
of the riot officers. About 175 protesters were arrested in a peaceful,
methodical operation by San Francisco police.
Overall, said
Anthony Turney, a 71-year-old Episcopalian archdeacon at Grace
Cathedral who was preparing to be arrested for his first time, "this is
a sad day."
"If I am going to call myself a Christian," he said, "that is incompatible with denying rights to any minority."
Associate
Pastor Chauncey Killens of Salinas, meanwhile, was literally chased
away from the protest when he expressed his support for Proposition 8.
"I'm
here to support the 7 million who voted for Proposition 8," Killens
said. He said he was disappointed he could not get his bull-horned
message heard over the boos.
"And they call us hateful and bigoted," he said.
In
downtown San Jose Tuesday evening, a crowd of about 300 protested and
marched with a mix of anger, disappointment and a resolve to repeal
Proposition 8.
"I'm mad as hell, everyone,'' David Parker said
through a microphone at Plaza de Cesar Chavez Park. Unmarried and 33,
the president of the Silicon Valley Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender
Democratic Club, brought along a petition for a ballot initiative that
would repeal Proposition 8. "We are not done,'' he said, "we are here
to stay and we're not rolling over.''
Damaris Pyle and Connie
Slemmer carried a sign saying they were wed Sept. 22, 2009, just weeks
before voters approved Proposition 8.
It's bittersweet and confusing, Pyle said.
The
court's Solomonic decision, which let some 18,000 gay marriages stand
while outlawing new unions, did not sit well with her wife, either.
"We're in limbo,'' Slemmer said. "We feel like second-class citizens where our marriage is not seen as equal to others.''
Next moves
The
shape of the next political campaign over same-sex marriage was already
taking shape Tuesday with the attitudes of minority voters certain to
be one battleground.
Mindful of their poor performance with
minority voters on Proposition 8, gay-marriage advocates vowed to do a
better job of winning over Latinos, African-Americans and the faithful
this time around. Spanish-speaking organizers will be hired to do
outreach in the Central Valley, and faith leaders will play a key role.
There's already a slogan: "Win Marriage Back: Make it Real!"
Meanwhile,
Proposition 8 supporters were also readying for the next battle. They
promised a public outreach campaign to young people, churches, and
"ethnic communities" on the benefits of the traditional definition of
marriage as one man and one woman.
"This is not over," said the
Rev. Nestor Morales, the pastor of the Generations Foursquare Church in
San Jose. "We're going to be very clear, very coherent and united."
Subject: Log Cabin Republicans Vows to Restore Right to Marry in California
To: Aliya Leigh <aliyaleigh@gmail.com>
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE CONTACT: Charles T. Moran May 26, 2009 (310) 774-1258
LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS, REPUBLICANS AGAINST PROP 8 VOW TO RESTORE RIGHT TO MARRY
(LOS ANGELES) Log Cabin Republicans and Republicans Against Prop
8 issue the following statements:
Statement of Scott Schmidt, Campaign Manager, Republicans Against 8
"It is a sad day for California when the Supreme Court gives up its role as the ultimate protector of Constitutional Rights for all Californians. By endorsing the legal theory that basic Constitutional Rights are subject to a plurality of the electorate, the Court has marginalized the Constitution and has created a climate of chaos of fear each time Californians go to the ballot box."
"The people have spoken and now the court has too. As Republicans who believe that the principles of limited government, personal responsibility and fundamental freedoms extend the right to marry to all Californians, our mission is now clear. We must renew our efforts to form a coalition to restore equal access to marriage to all Californians, and move forward to educate the people of California, whatever their race, creed or political party that freedom and fairness dictate undoing the harm caused by Proposition 8 at the ballot box."
Statement by Leonard M. Lanzi - President, California Log Cabin Republicans
"While we were defeated in this ballot initiative, our cause is right and just. We will continue to work with our allies in the Republican Party and across the political spectrum in California to educate voters that marriage equality is truly a conservative value, along the lines of strengthening individual freedoms, limiting the role of government in our daily lives and preserving personal responsibility."
For further comment, contact Charles Moran, Spokesperson for Log Cabin Republicans, at (310) 774-1258 or Charles@CharlesTMoran.net
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Q&A: California Supreme Court to issue Prop. 8 decision today
Rulings are expected on the legality of the measure barring same-sex marriage and the status of those who married before it was approved by voters.
By Rong-Gong Lin II and Maura Dolan
May 26, 2009
Reporting from San Francisco and Los Angeles — What is being decided by the California Supreme Court?
The state's top court will rule on whether to uphold or strike down Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage. The justices will also decide whether the state will continue to recognize the estimated 18,000 same-sex marriages carried out in 2008.
How did we get to this point?
After San Francisco officials began allowing same-sex couples to wed there in 2004, the courts intervened, invalidating the marriages on grounds that local officials had overstepped their authority.
But in May 2008, the California Supreme Court ruled that the state Constitution protects a fundamental "right to marry" that extends to same-sex couples.
That made California the second state in the union, after Massachusetts, to permit same-sex marriage.
About 18,000 gay and lesbian couples married between June and November, when voters approved Proposition 8, which amended the state Constitution to recognize marriage as only between a man and woman.
Opponents of Proposition 8 appealed to the California Supreme Court to overturn the ballot measure. They contend that the proposition changed the tenets of the state Constitution and therefore amounted to a revision, which can only be placed on the ballot by a two-thirds vote of the Legislature; Proposition 8 reached the ballot after a signature drive.
What do legal experts expect the court to do?
Based on comments the justices made at a hearing earlier this year, most legal experts expect the court to uphold Proposition 8 but continue to recognize the marriages of same-sex couples wed before the November election.
If the court upholds Proposition 8, what happens next?
State officials would continue to prohibit issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Supporters of same-sex marriage, however, are expected to go back to the ballot box as early as 2010 with a constitutional amendment recognizing same-sex marriage.
If Proposition 8 is upheld, would that affect the state's domestic partnership law, which gives same-sex couples the legal rights of marriage?
No. State law surrounding domestic partnerships is separate from the issue of allowing same-sex couples to marry. There is no dispute about the legality of domestic partnerships.
After the California Supreme Court ruled in May 2008 that same-sex couples could marry, the state also began to recognize same-sex couples married out of state.
If Proposition 8 is upheld, would California continue to recognize those couples as married?
That's a question the California Supreme Court will decide.
How have other states handled same-sex marriage?
Most states do not recognize same-sex marriage, either by state law or constitutional amendment. The federal government does not recognize same-sex marriage. Some states, mostly on the West Coast and in the Northeast, offer same-sex couples civil unions or domestic partnerships, giving each partner some of the legal benefits granted to spouses, such as the ability to file joint income tax returns and receive spousal health insurance benefits from government agencies.
Five states now allow same-sex couples to marry: Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont and Maine. In New Hampshire, New York and New Jersey, lawmakers are considering legalizing same-sex marriage. In Iowa and Maine, opponents of same-sex marriage say they plan to use the ballot box to overturn decisions to legalize same-sex marriage.
What are some tips for reading the state Supreme Court's decision?
The majority decision should be revealed in the first or second page of the ruling and reiterated in its last paragraph. Separate concurring and dissenting opinions would follow.
Counting votes may be tricky because the court is dealing with three different legal issues: whether Proposition 8 amounts to an impermissible revision of the state Constitution; the attorney general's challenge contending that marriage is an "inalienable" right that can't be taken away without compelling justification; and the fate of existing same-sex marriages.
The court's vote on the revision issue, for example, will probably differ from its vote on whether existing marriages should continue to be recognized by the state.
Justices who disagree with the majority file dissents. If they agree with only part of the majority decision, they file an opinion called a partial concurrence and dissent.
During oral argument in March, every justice expressed support for upholding existing marriages. Justice Carlos R. Moreno indicated that he believed Proposition 8 was an illegal revision, a sign that he could dissent on that question.
Moreno might be joined by Justice Kathryn Mickle Werdegar, a former civil rights lawyer who stressed that the court was dealing with a novel legal question. Werdegar, however, did not join Moreno in voting to put the measure on hold pending the court's ruling.
National conventions of several Protestant denominations could intensify the long-running debate this summer.
By Duke Helfand
9:08 PM PDT, May 25, 2009
The nation's mainline Protestant denominations have quarreled for years over the role of gay men and lesbians in church life, but those debates promise to grow even more intense and acrimonious this summer.
The conflicts, which come as California and other states wage legal fights over same-sex marriage, could well influence whether some of the religious denominations remain intact or splinter into smaller factions.
California's Supreme Court is expected to rule today on the constitutionality of the state's ban on same-sex marriage. For the faithful in a number of American churches, the hard-fought legal battle over civil marriage for gay and lesbian couples runs parallel to religious struggles that are strikingly similar and often just as heated.
One of the most visible denominational skirmishes will occur in July, when leaders of the 2.2-million-member Episcopal Church consider proposals at their national convention in Anaheim to sanction a religious rite for blessing same-sex unions and ease restrictions on the ordination of gay and lesbian bishops.
If approved, the steps could further alienate theological conservatives, giving them reason to join four Episcopal dioceses and hundreds of parishes that split last year to form a separate church.
The country's largest Lutheran denomination, meanwhile, is scheduled in August to consider a long-anticipated statement on human sexuality that, among various elements, says that Christian tradition recognizes marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman.
Even as they acknowledge deep divisions over homosexuality, members of the 4.7-million member Evangelical Lutheran Church in America will decide at their meeting in Minneapolis whether they should enable local congregations to recognize same-sex unions and allow "practicing homosexuals" in committed relationships to serve in the ministry.
Other Protestant groups are embroiled in similar struggles, including the Presbyterian Church (USA) and the United Methodist Church. Another, the American Baptist Churches USA, is scheduled to hold its biennial convention in Pasadena in June but is not expected to consider any action related to same-sex marriage, a spokeswoman said.
But scholars are watching the Episcopalians and Evangelical Lutherans especially closely, seeing them as a gauge for other denominations. The experts are waiting to see if the intensified debate and turmoil leading up to the national conventions produces any consensus on issues that have long divided U.S. Protestants.
"What has been emerging for the last several years is becoming even clearer now: We're on a trajectory toward the blessing of same-sex unions and the ordination of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people," said the Rev. Jay Johnson, a professor of theology at the Pacific School of Religion in Berkeley and director of academic research at its Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies in Religion and Ministry.
But Johnson added: "It may mean, when there are breakthroughs in these churches, we see more breakaways."
U.S. Christians remain stubbornly split over homosexuality. One recent survey by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life found that 56% of all mainline Protestants believe it should be accepted by society. Just 26% of Evangelical Protestants felt that way.
Few denominations have been as torn by the issue as the Episcopal Church, the U.S. branch of the Anglican Communion, a 77-million-member fellowship. Theological conservatives are a minority in the Episcopal Church but a large majority among Anglicans worldwide. The conflict between church liberals and conservatives escalated in 2003 with the consecration of an openly gay priest, V. Gene Robinson, as bishop of New Hampshire. Amid pressure from traditionalists within the U.S. church and Anglican officials elsewhere, Episcopal leaders agreed at their last General Convention in 2006 to urge local church authorities not to consecrate any bishop "whose manner of life presents a challenge to the wider church." Still, 700 conservative parishes in the United States and Canada defected last year and formed a new church affiliated with overseas Anglicans.
Now, as Episcopalians approach their July convention, dioceses around the country are submitting resolutions to ease restrictions on gay bishops and to authorize same-sex marriage blessings. The issue of blessings is now left up to local Episcopal authorities.
The convention's host, the Episcopal Diocese of Los Angeles, has tried to send a message by approving a policy at its December convention that gives local priests permission to officiate at rites of blessing for same-sex couples.
"I think it's about time we get about the business of having marriage equality in the church," said the Rt. Rev. J. Jon Bruno, bishop of the Los Angeles Diocese. "I am waiting with bated breath to see what happens" at the Anaheim meeting.
Conservative Episcopalians argue that liberalized policies will not only alienate U.S. parishes but will also add further strain to the church's troubled relationship with church leaders in Africa and elsewhere in the global Anglican Communion.
This month, one of the communion's worldwide leadership bodies affirmed its support for moratoriums on consecrating non-celibate gay bishops and on blessings for same-sex couples. The group was led by Archbishop of Canterbury Rowan Williams, the communion's spiritual leader, who is scheduled to attend the Anaheim convention.
Resisting those mandates will "turn up the flame," said the Rt. Rev. Edward S. Little II, bishop of the Diocese of Northern Indiana and a leader in a group of clergy trying to strengthen Episcopal ties to the Anglican Communion. "If we take a step at General Convention that takes us down the road, we will lose more people," he said.
Still, the Episcopal Church's presiding bishop, the Most Rev. Katharine Jefferts Schori, said she believes the U.S. church and its global partners can co-exist even if they disagree on the rights of gay men and lesbians in the church. She also said she did not expect this year's convention, at which bishops, clergy and lay leaders are allowed to vote, to reach a decision on the issue of same-sex blessing rites.
"We're not afraid of people watching over our shoulders," Jefferts Schori said. "We live with diversity on issues that get people charged up."
Evangelical Lutherans are weathering an equally emotional debate as they prepare for their Churchwide Assembly in Minneapolis, a gathering that many predict will expose deep divisions over homosexuality and biblical authority.
Denomination leaders will vote on a lengthy social statement -- "Human Sexuality: Gift and Trust" -- that has been eight years in the making and identifies marriage as a union between a man and a woman. Such statements are intended to guide church members in setting policy and forming judgments about social issues, officials have said.
Lutheran leaders also will consider a new policy that asks whether the church "should commit itself" to finding ways to allow local congregations, if they choose, to recognize "life-long, monogamous, same-gender relationships."
Another policy asks whether the church should find a way to allow gay people to serve in ordained positions. Current Lutheran policy bars "practicing homosexuals" from ministry.
Consensus has been elusive, a point readily acknowledged by those who developed the sexuality statement and ministry proposals.
Lutherans Concerned/North America, a gay rights group, praised the sexuality paper for extolling the importance of committed relationships but criticized it for failing to include a marriage blessing for same-sex couples.
"We have . . . a blessing of liturgical furnishings, including chairs and kneelers. Surely we can find our way clear to have a rite of blessing for two people, good Christians, who wish to commit themselves to each other until death do they part," said Phil Soucy, a spokesman for the group.
Conservatives, meanwhile, argue that the any such shift in policy will alter fundamental biblical teachings about homosexuality.
A coalition of Evangelical Lutheran members and congregations issued a letter last week to voting members of the upcoming Churchwide Assembly meeting, urging them to defeat proposals they believe would put the denomination at odds with fellow Lutherans in Asia and Africa.
"There are going to be some congregations that leave," said the Rev. Mark Chavez of the Lutheran Coalition for Reform, a group that supports traditional Lutheran positions on marriage and other issues.
The church's presiding bishop, Mark S. Hanson, said he believes the Evangelical Lutheran tent can accommodate a spectrum of views, even as he laments that the debate has obscured the other works of the church and the common faith shared by Lutherans.
"I'm not naive about the possibilities that those who do not support the decisions will find it difficult to stay in this church body, but I'm committed that we will engage one another," Hanson said.
"I don't think the diversity we're experiencing is a problem to be solved. Diversity is a gift of God, just as unity is a gift of God."
SAN FRANCISCO -- The California Supreme Court will rule Tuesday on the validity of a voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage, a decision that will end months of speculation over whether gay couples can resume marrying in the state.
The high court announced the pending opinion on its Web site Friday morning.
Justices are considering a series of lawsuits seeking to overturn a constitutional amendment approved by voters in November that overruled a 4-3 court decision that briefly legalized same-sex unions. The suits claim Proposition 8 was put on the ballot improperly.
The court also will decide whether to uphold the marriages of an estimated 18,000 gay couples who wed before Proposition 8 passed. The election came after a contentious $83 million campaign that made it the most expensive ballot measure on a social issue in the nation's history.
Gay rights advocates have scheduled marches throughout California and in several other states for Tuesday evening. Organizers say the gatherings will be celebratory if the court rules in their favor and angry if Proposition 8 is upheld.
Waiting for the decision "has been an absolutely gut-wrenching experience," said Molly McKay, spokeswoman for Marriage Equality USA.
"As Californians, we are all under tremendous strain worrying about the economy, our jobs and our families," McKay said. "On top of that, gay families have been living for months with the fear that the court will allow a bare majority of voters to strip gay and lesbian families of their constitutional protections and eliminate our marriages -- or just as bad, eliminate new couples' ability to get married."
Same-sex couples, local governments and civil rights organizations have asked the court to throw out Proposition 8 on procedural grounds. They argued that the initiative revised the state constitution's equal protection clause to such a dramatic degree that its sponsors needed the Legislature's approval to submit it to voters.
Several justices gave that argument a skeptical reception during a March hearing, and court observers have doubted the Supreme Court would abrogate California's vigorous citizen initiative process by invalidating the ban.
Since then, three other states -- Iowa, Maine and Vermont -- have joined Massachusetts and Connecticut in making same-sex marriage legal, and efforts are under way to pass gay marriage bills in New Hampshire and New York.
If the justices uphold Proposition 8, gay rights supporters plan to return to the ballot box in an effort to repeal it next year or in 2012. The state's largest gay rights groups already have started raising money, airing television advertisements and recruiting volunteers.
If the justices strike down Proposition 8 as an illegal revision, its backers could try asking state lawmakers to place another initiative limiting marriage to a man and a woman on next year's ballot. The prospects for such a bill are uncertain. The Democratic-controlled California Legislature has twice passed measures to legalize same-sex marriage, but they were vetoed by Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger.
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Gay Marriage Momentum in New England Stalls in Rhode Island
Despite the recent success of gay marriage bills in most of New England, Rhode Island is showing resistance.
Gay marriage could soon become the law of the land across New England -- except in the heavily Roman Catholic state of
Rhode Island.
A
string of sudden successes for gay marriage advocates has left Rhode
Island a political outlier. Maine became the fourth state in New
England to legalize same-sex unions on Wednesday, while New Hampshire
Gov. John Lynch is now deciding whether to sign similar legislation.
Vermont lawmakers established gay marriage last month, following a path
already set by courts in Massachusetts and Connecticut.
Yet
the movement has stalled in Rhode Island, perhaps even lost ground,
after a stalemate at the Statehouse, a loss in the state's top court
and continued opposition from religious leaders.
"I
do not hear voices raised, voices stating absolutely that this just
cannot do," said Cassandra Ormiston, 62, a lesbian who could not get
divorced in Rhode Island after she and her partner married in
Massachusetts. "It is not enough to be patient."
Religion
remains among the biggest hurdles. A recent survey by Trinity College in Connecticut showed 46 percent of Rhode Islanders
identify themselves as Roman Catholic, a larger percentage than any other state.
Given
its size, the church carries political clout. On the last Inauguration
Day, every statewide elected official began the morning with a special
Mass at the Cathedral of Sts. Peter and Paul, celebrated by Bishop
Thomas Tobin.
Tobin
does not hesitate to tussle with politicians, especially on gay
marriage. He calls gay unions a perversion of natural law and a
violation of an institution that Catholics believe was created by God.
Two years ago, he harshly criticized Attorney General Patrick Lynch, a Catholic, for advising
state agencies to recognize the marriages of gay couples wed outside Rhode Island.
"We don't see it as a civil rights
issue," Tobin said in a recent interview, "because there's never a right to do something that's morally wrong."
Bills
legalizing gay marriage have been introduced in the Statehouse every
year since 1997. None has ever been approved by a legislative
committee, required before those bills could be aired on the full floor.
House Speaker William Murphy and Senate President
M. Teresa Paiva-Weed, both Democrats and Catholics, oppose gay marriage.
The
bill's sponsor, Sen. Rhoda Perry, a Democrat from Providence, does not
expect to get a vote this year. She believes legislative leaders are
trying to shield fellow lawmakers from a fractious debate.
"You know your numbers," Perry said. "So why make anyone even have to vote on something that
at least some of their constituents will be upset about if you already know the votes aren't there."
Even if a simple
majority of lawmakers backed Perry's bill, Republican Gov. Don Carcieri -- another Catholic -- would almost certainly veto
it. Overriding a veto requires the support of 60 percent of lawmakers in each chamber.
Courts legalized gay marriage
in Massachusetts and Connecticut, but that avenue seems unlikely in Rhode Island.
In
2007, Rhode Island's Supreme Court refused to let Ormiston divorce her
wife, Margaret Chambers. The couple lived in Rhode Island but married
across the border in Massachusetts.
In its ruling, the court said it could not grant a divorce because Rhode Island lawmakers have never
recognized marriage as anything but a union between a man and a woman.
Frustrated with the slow pace in Rhode Island,
Ormiston is parting ways with Marriage Equality Rhode Island, which has locally advocated for gay marriage, and starting a
new organization, called Equality Rising, to push harder.
"It is not enough to wait until we no longer have opposition,"
she said.
It
might become slightly easier for those looking to legalize gay marriage
in Rhode Island when Carcieri finishes his second and final term as
governor in January 2011. Potential candidates including former Sen.
Lincoln Chafee, an independent, and Lt. Gov. Elizabeth Roberts and
Attorney General Patrick Lynch, both Democrats, support gay marriage.
General Treasurer
Frank Caprio, also a Democrat, said he would not veto a gay marriage bill if he were elected governor.
Rep: Kiefer Sutherland head-butt broke designer Jack McCollough's nose
DAILY NEWS STAFF
Friday, May 8th 2009, 2:48 PM
Reps for fashion designer Jack McCollough say his nose was broken in a head-butt allegedly delivered by actor Kiefer Sutherland.
The fashion designer allegedly head-butted by actor Kiefer Sutherland is sporting a new accessory: nose bandages.
Reps for Jack McCollough told PEOPLE the designer required surgery for his injuries after the alleged incident.
"Mr.
McCollough suffered a broken nose in three places as a result of the
assault," his rep told the magazine. "He received medical treatment
last night after consulting with physicians."
Initial
reports said the designer suffered only scratches on his nose, but a
source close to the designer told PEOPLE he "had to have his nose
reset," and is irritated that the ordeal has delayed work on his
upcoming collection.
He "has no time to deal with this," the source said. Sutherland arrived at a Manhattan
court Thursday to surrender to charges in the alleged head-butting. He
was charged with misdemeanor assault in the Monday night attack.
He was issued a desk appearance ticket and released. Los Angeles prosecutors are investigating whether the arrest violates Sutherland's probation on a 2007 drunken driving arrest.
The actor did 48 days in jail after his second DWI bust in three years.
Friends insisted Sutherland whacked the designer at a celebrity-laden SoHo club to defend the honor of actress Brooke Shields. McCollough's camp called it "a vicious, violent, unprovoked assault."
The actor surrendered about 72 hours after the incident that left the designer with a gash on the bridge of his nose.
The men were attending an after-party for the Metropolitan Museum of Art's annual Costume Institute festivities.
U.S. Government Funds $400,000 Study on Gay Sex in Argentina Bars
The National Institutes of Health are paying researchers to cruise bars in Buenos Aires to find out why gay men engage in risky sexual behavior while drunk -- and what can be done about it.
Government researchers are spending more than $400,000 in taxpayer money to hit the bars in Argentina.
The National Institutes of Health are paying researchers to cruise six bars in Buenos Aires to find out why gay men engage in risky sexual behavior while drunk -- and just what can be done about it.
Doctors and specialists from the New York Psychiatric Institute are using the generous grant from NIH's National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism to help tailor HIV prevention programs to work at bars and clubs.
Though public health officials say that HIV/AIDS rates are higher in Washington, D.C., than in some parts of West Africa, U.S. government funds are going to help curb dangerous liaisons in Argentina's capital.
The study began in September 2008, according to an online abstract, and has already cost taxpayers $198,776, NIH documents show.
"Targeting public venues in Buenos Aires where men meet, alcohol is consumed and sexual behavior occurs," the project's overview explains, "the goal of this 2-year exploratory study is to understand the various factors that contribute to the creation of a high risk sexual space."
NIH researchers say they will require as many as 730 nights on the town for careful observation and interaction.
"To that end, the study seeks to describe the relative contribution of physical characteristics of the place" -- social scientists call this the "vibe" -- and other factors like "patron characteristics" and "social dynamics" that can lead to risky behavior when mixed with a few parts alcohol.
NIH officials say the study is doing valuable work to address high HIV infection rates among homosexual men in Argentina, and that plans developed there could be translated for use in the United States and elsewhere.
Researchers plan to interview dozens of bar patrons and proprietors to help develop the on-site intervention programs -- and they mean to be exact.
"Venue patrons will also undergo a brief quantitative assessment to gather descriptive data on sexual behavior and substance use among this sample," the study's abstract reads.
In layman's terms, that means they're asking drinkers to keep tabs on their quaffs and their quarry; fortunately for their more modest subjects, it's not a qualitative test too.
Because the study is promoting venue-based prevention programs, researchers will have to be exact about the bars they visit in the city of 13 million, taking special care to describe the them "in terms of their physical characteristics, alcohol availability, patron characteristics and sexual behavior that occurs in the venue."
An NIH official said that funds approved for the project include $275,000 for direct costs and an additional $125,000 in indirect costs, but would not elaborate. Though FOXNews.com could not confirm the median price of cervecas in Buenos Aires, that should leave a lot of money for tips.
Maine becomes 5th state to allow same-sex marriage
By GLENN ADAMS - 50 minutes ago
AUGUSTA, Maine (AP) — Maine's governor signed a freshly passed bill Wednesday approving gay marriage, making it the fifth state to approve the practice and moving New England closer to allowing it throughout the region.
New Hampshire legislators were also poised to send a gay marriage bill to their governor, who hasn't indicated whether he'll sign it. If he does, Rhode Island would be the region's sole holdout.
Maine Gov. John Baldacci, a Democrat who hadn't indicated how he would handle his state's bill, quickly signed it.
"In the past, I opposed gay marriage while supporting the idea of civil unions," Baldacci said in a statement read in his office. "I have come to believe that this is a question of fairness and of equal protection under the law, and that a civil union is not equal to civil marriage."
The vote by the Maine Senate was 21-13, with one lawmaker absent. The bill authorizes marriage between any two people rather than between one man and one woman, as state law currently allows. The House had passed the bill Tuesday.
The law is to take effect in mid-September but could be sidetracked before then. Opponents promise to challenge it through a public veto process that could suspend it while a statewide vote takes shape.
Sue Estler, of Orono, said she and her partner of 20 years, Paula Johnson, plan to get married. But she also thinks opponents might collect enough signatures to force the referendum.
A professor at the University of Maine, the 64-year-old Estler said she sent an e-mail to out-of-state friends and family members Wednesday saying "Oh, my god. The governor just signed the bill."
"But I said, 'Don't make your travel plans for the wedding yet. There's still probably a referendum to go,'" she said.
Legislative debate was brief. Senate President Elizabeth Mitchell, D-Vassalboro, turned the gavel over to an openly gay member, Sen. Lawrence Bliss, D-South Portland, to preside over the final vote.
Republican Sen. Debra Plowman of Hampden argued that the bill was being passed "at the expense of the people of faith."
"You are making a decision that is not well-founded," warned Plowman.
But Senate Majority Leader Philip Bartlett II said the bill does not compel religious institutions to recognize gay marriage.
"We respect religious liberties. ... This is long overdue," said Bartlett, D-Gorham.
The activist group Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders has targeted all six New England states for passage of a gay marriage law by 2012.
Maine is now the fourth state in the region to allow same-sex marriages. Connecticut enacted a bill after being ordered to allow gay marriages by the courts, and Vermont passed a bill over the governor's veto.
Massachusetts' high court has ordered the state to recognize gay marriages. In Rhode Island, a bill to legalize same-sex marriage has been introduced but is not expected to pass this year.
New Hampshire's House was also expected to vote on a bill Wednesday and send it to Gov. John Lynch, a Democrat. He could sign it, veto it or let it become law without his signature.
New England states have acted quickly since gay marriages became law in Massachusetts in 2004 because it's a small region with porous borders, shared media markets and a largely shared culture, said Carisa Cunningham of the gay defenders group.
"People can see the sky hasn't fallen on Massachusetts. There hasn't been a destruction of Western civilization, and life has gone on," Cunningham said.
Outside New England, Iowa is recognizing gay marriages on court orders. The practice was briefly legal in California before voters banned it.
If it comes to a statewide vote in Maine, Estler is confident gay marriage will prevail.
"I think Maine people will support it," she said. "Part of the reason I say that is Maine is a state where people, regardless of party affiliation, really believe in live and let live."
Associated Press writers Clarke Canfield in Portland, Maine, and Holly Ramer in Concord, N.H., contributed to this report.
Another key vote is expected Wednesday in the New Hampshire Legislature on a bill that would allow same-sex couples to marry, while a similar bill continues making its way through the Maine Legislature.
The New Hampshire House is expected to take up the bill at 1 p.m. Wednesday after an 11-6 vote today by the House Judiciary Committee on a bill that was amended by the Senate last week.
Will Democratic Governor John Lynch sign the bill if it passes? That's a question that has both supporters and opponents of the bill closely watching Lynch.
Meanwhile, the Maine House today approved a same-sex marriage bill. The bill faces one more vote each in the House and Senate. It's also unclear whether Democratic Governor John Baldacci will sign the bill.
After Vermont legalized same-sex civil unions in 2000, Massachusetts followed with a 2003 Supreme Judicial Court decision that paved the way for same-sex marriage. Similar legal decisions followed in Connecticut and Iowa. Last month, Vermont became the first state to guarantee same-sex marriage through a legislative act.
Material from The Associated Press was used in this report.
DES MOINES, Iowa (AP) — A same-sex Iowa couple will be allowed to
wed as soon as Monday after a judge allowed them to bypass the state's
three-day waiting period.
Melisa Keeton and Shelley Wolfe of Des Moines received their waiver by 9 a.m.
Same-sex
couples in Iowa began applying for marriage license Monday after a
state Supreme Court ruling legalizing gay unions took effect.
The high court issued an order early in the day confirming that the appeals process in the case has officially concluded.
The
Iowa Supreme Court's unanimous and emphatic decision on April 3 made
Iowa the third state to allow same-sex marriage, joining Massachusetts
and Connecticut. Vermont has passed a law that will take effect in
September.
THIS IS A BREAKING NEWS UPDATE. Check back soon for further information. AP's earlier story is below.
DES
MOINES, Iowa (AP) — Same-sex couples in Iowa began applying for
marriage license on Monday after a state Supreme Court ruling
legalizing gay unions took effect.
The court issued an order early in the day confirming that the appeals process in the case has officially concluded.
The
first same-sex weddings could happen as soon as Monday if couples can
secure waivers that will let them bypass Iowa's three-day waiting
period.
In Des Moines, about a dozen gay and lesbian couples waited in the rain for the Polk County administrative building to open.
Grant
Lan, 35, and his partner Andrew Mahoney-Lan, 32, were first in line.
The Windsor Heights couple planned to seek a waiver that would let them
marry Monday.
"It's huge to be here first," Mahoney-Lan said.
Alicia
Zacher, 24, and her 22-year-old fiance Jessica Roach, both of Des
Moines, said they have a 4 p.m. appointment to get married if they can
get a waiver. They want to get married immediately after seeing how
California voters reinstated a ban on same-sex marriage.
"You just never know when they'll try to take it away," Roach said.
The
Iowa Supreme Court's unanimous and emphatic decision on April 3 made
Iowa the third state to allow same-sex marriage, joining Massachusetts
and Connecticut. For six months last year, California's high court
allowed gay marriage before voters banned it in November. Vermont has
passed a law that will take effect in September.
In its decision,
the Iowa Supreme Court upheld an August 2007 decision by a Polk County
District Court judge who found that a state law limiting marriage to a
man and a woman violates the constitutional rights of equal protection.
One couple was married in 2007 before the Polk County judge ordered a
stay on his decision.
Gay marriage opponents have no other legal
options to appeal the case to the state or federal level because they
were not parties to the lawsuit and there were no federal issues raised
in the case.
Their only recourse appears to be a constitutional
amendment, which couldn't get on the ballot until 2012 at the earliest.
A constitutional convention could be called earlier, but that is
unlikely.
Iowa's same-sex marriage case began in 2005 when Lambda
Legal, a New York-based gay rights organization, sued on behalf of six
gay and lesbian Iowa couples.
Iowa has a history of being at the
forefront on social issues. It was among the first states to legalize
interracial marriage and to allow married women to own property. It was
also the first state to admit a woman to the bar to practice law and
was a leader in school desegregation.
Associated Press writers Nigel Duara and Melanie S. Welte in Des Moines contributed to this report.
When
people see or hear the name of even the smallest business, a set of
beliefs — the result of marketing, word of mouth and personal
experience — pops up in their minds. Those beliefs represent your brand
and influence customers' purchasing decisions.
If
people believe you fill a need or niche with unwavering quality and a
great price, you have a strong brand. If they think your offerings miss
the mark, their beliefs weaken your brand and lessen your chances of a
sale.
Now
more than ever, brands are under siege and customers shun risk by
seeking brands they value and trust. In an effort to better gauge your
brand"s value and relevance, answer these three short questions:
"Does your name and logo still reflect the nature of your offerings?”
“Do customers understand the value you promise and does your promise still address their wants and needs?”
“When customers deal with your business, is their experience consistent with your brand promise?”
If you answered yes to these questions, your brand is probably in good shape. If not, read on.
There are two kinds of brand fixes: Rebranding and brand revitalization
Rebranding
involves starting over with a new name, logo and brand promise.
Rebranding is necessary if you’ve changed the very essence of your
business. For example, when British Petroleum changed its focus to
“Beyond Petroleum,” it rebranded itself BP.
Revitalizing
is the solution that fits most business brands. It involves fine-tuning
to make your brand more contemporary, competitive and compelling.
Follow these steps:
1. Pinpoint how your brand is faltering.
Does it lack marketplace awareness? Are customers unclear about or
unmotivated by your brand promise? Do people have an outdated image of
your brand? Does it lack credibility?
Once
you know the problem, plan product or service improvements,
advertising, product sampling, a stronger marketing message,
guarantees, or other actions to overcome the obstacles your brand faces.
2. Make your brand promise relevant.
Your brand promise is the backbone of your brand. For example, FedEx
promises the most reliable overnight delivery, Walmart the lowest
prices.
Put your promise into words
Use this format to develop the words that best describe your company:
Our
business is the [describe your distinction, such as “best,” “most
reliable,” “highest value”] [describe your type of business, such as
“café,” “staffing service,” “medical clinic”] to serve [describe your
target customer, such as “budget-conscious vacationers,” “Southwest
high-tech firms,” “preschool parents”] who count on our business to deliver [describe the value you promise customers].
Be
sure your promise is one that matters to customers. For example,
second-to-none prestige and luxury probably seem irrelevant to a market
seeking security and low risk. Likewise, today’s market may find a
promise to save money more compelling than a promise to save time.
3. Convey your promise consistently.
Do this whether it’s communicated through ads, presentations, displays,
packaging, billing, service, even your return or complaint desk.
Inconsistency kills brands.
4. See that customers experience your promise. To test your brand experience, pretend you’re a customer and see if your brand promise is reinforced at every encounter.
First,
review your ads, online presence, publicity, signage, sales
presentations, displays and other marketing contacts to see how people
get introduced to your brand. Then arrive at your business (whether in
person, online or by phone) to see how you’re greeted, where you pause,
what you see, how you buy and how you receive service. Be sure your
promise holds up at each point, right through to billing, delivery and
product usage.
To fix your business, fix your brand.
You
might be tempted to start by redesigning your logo or marketing
materials to change your brand image, but those investments change only
the face of your brand. When you fix your brand promise and brand
experience, you fix your brand.
Barbara
Findlay Schenck is a small-business strategist, the author of “Small
Business Marketing for Dummies” and the co-author of “Branding for
Dummies,” “Selling Your Business for Dummies” and “Business Plans Kit
for Dummies.”
Some people believe, their love life should be the same as in the films, TV and books. I believe a person should watch films about love, TV and books, but do these types of media portray real life. You choose?
Today's Siena NY poll
is a mixed bag for Gov. David Paterson, showing New Yorkers continue to
be down on him personally, but support his new signature issue:
Same-sex marriage.
While voters said they want to see the state Senate approval
Paterson's gay -marriage program bill, (53-39), his popularity and job
approval numbers have maintained their downward spiral.
His favorable/unfavorable ratings are 27-63, compared to 29-58 last
month. A mere 18 percent of New Yorkers rate the job he's doing as
"excellent" (1 percent) or "good" (17 percent, while 81 percent gave
him a "fair" or "poor" rating.
Paterson was particularly hurt by the lack of transparency
surrounding the negotiation of the state budget (63 percent), his
approval of pay raises for his top staffers (61 percent) and the manner
in which he has addressed New York's fiscal woes (54 percent).
That last one is a particular blow, since the governor has been touting how he sounded the alarm early on the fiscal crisis.
Only 12 percent of those polled said they're prepared to vote for
Paterson in 2010 compared to 71 percent who would prefer "someone
else." Also in trouble is Paterson's hand-picked US senator, Kirsten
Gillibrand - 47 percent of voters said they'd prefer someone else over
her in 2010, while 20 percent would vote for her and 33 percent had no
opinion.
In hypoethetical head-to-head match-ups, AG Andrew Cuomo leads
Paterson 64-11 (it was 67-17 last month), while eight percent said
they'd vote for Nassau County Executive Tom Suozzi (a new edition for
this poll) and 17 percent were unsure.
Rudy Giuliani trounces Paterson 56-29, but loses to Cuomo 39-53.
Adding insult to injury, New Yorkers said they'd prefer to see any
of Paterson's three predecessors - even Eliot Spitzer - back at the
Capitol over having him in charge.
On the gay marriage bill, support is strongest among women and
voters under the age of 34. Republicans are strongly opposed, with
older voters, African Americans and Protestants also in the "no"
column.
Overall, however, every region in the state supports the idea of
having the Senate pass the measure, which would virtually guarantee it
becoming law.
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Tonight, I had a meltdown in downtown Phoenix with cops. Not ALL COPS are bad, but since the Mayor of Phoenix wants to remove Sheriff Joe from his position, the Mayor of Phoenix needs to check out his cops. I HATE THEM. Can't stand them and curse their families in their faces. Cops are suppose to protect and serve, not to meet a quota. If you had a problem with a Phoenix cop, call 602-262-2580. This is the number to internal affairs. Just treat a Phoenix cop like a Mexican cop. There is NO Difference. They want me to sleep in my car, in a bad neighbor. If they don't care I get hurt, I don't give a shit about them.
Megan McCain wants the GOP to be gay. Why? To get the gay vote for the Republican Party or something else. You decide, I'm not saying anything. Plus, does Glenn Beck like a girl. http://www.aliyaleigh.com. Email at Lesbianlifeaz@gmail.com
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Amazon.com recently delisted from its sales ranking system gay and lesbian book titles that it deemed "adult," raising the ire of some who characterize the move as online censorship.
Author Mark R. Probst wrote on his blog Sunday that he noticed the change a few days ago:
On Amazon.com two days ago, mysteriously, the sales rankings disappeared from two newly-released high profile gay romance books: "Transgressions" by Erastes and "False Colors" by Alex Beecroft. Everybody was perplexed. Was it a glitch of some sort? The very next day HUNDREDS of gay and lesbian books simultaneously lost their sales rankings, including my book "The Filly." There was buzz, What's going on? Does Amazon have some sort of campaign to suppress the visibility of gay books?
Probst, the author of a novel with gay characters in the Old West, said he was perplexed by the move and used his status as a publisher to contact Amazon for an explanation. He said he received the following response from an Amazon Advantage service representative:
In consideration of our entire customer base, we exclude "adult" material from appearing in some searches and best seller lists. Since these lists are generated using sales ranks, adult materials must also be excluded from that feature.
Of course, being delisted from the rankings doesn't mean that the book giant has stopped selling the title; it just means that the title won't show up with a public sales ranking or in the best-seller lists--often a factor in how shoppers make their purchases.
An Amazon representative characterized the move as a mistake but declined to elaborate.
"Essentially, there's a glitch in our system and it's being fixed," Amazon spokesperson Patty Smith told CNET News.
Certainly, one could make an argument that deranking titles with "adult" themes would make a reasonable policy for a site that attracts a wide range of the Internet population. But as demonstrated by an online petition that has already attracted more than 4,000 signatures, the policy appears to be biased against books with gay, lesbian, and transgendered characters.
Here's a sampling of books titles that the petition's backers noted are still ranked in the listing system (all notes and descriptions on the titles are supplied by the petition supporters):
• "Playboy: The Complete Centerfolds" by Chronicle Books (pictures of over 600 naked women) • Rosemary Rogers' "Sweet Savage Love" (explicit heterosexual romance) • Kathleen Woodiwiss' "The Wolf and the Dove" (explicit heterosexual romance) • Bertrice Smal's "Skye o'Malley," (which are all explicit heterosexual romances) • Alan Moore's "Lost Girls" (which is a very explicit sexual graphic novel)
The petition supporters note that the following titles with gay and lesbian themes are no longer ranked on Amazon:
• Radclyffe Hill's classic novel about lesbians in Victorian times, The Well of Loneliness, and which contains not one sentence of sexual description; • Mark R. Probst's YA novel "The Filly" about a young man in the wild West discovering that he's gay (gay romance, no sex); • Charlie Cochrane's "Lessons in Love" (gay romance with no sex) • "The Dictionary of Homophobia: A Global History of Gay & Lesbian Experience," edited by Louis-George Tin (non-fiction, history and social issues) • "Homophobia: A History" by Bryan Fone (nonfiction, focus on history and the forms prejudice against homosexuality has taken over the years)
Somehow, the brain trust of your company has decided to protect the "entire" Amazon customer base by restricting access to content that someone (who?) decided was offensive. In your zeal to protect me from myself, of course, you managed to leave content that I find singularly repulsive online (really, exploring the human condition is bad, but Mein Kampf is just fine?).
As a heterosexual, happily married adult female, I am deeply offended by this decision. As a customer, I am angered enough to take my business elsewhere, and I'd like a refund on my Kindle since, despite reports that your database sweep was not complete, you have decided to limit my ability to purchase books -- from literary classics like Lady Chatterley's Lover to newesque titles like Tipping The Velvet and Running With Scissors.
It's unclear what--if any--impact this backlash will have on Amazon, but certainly many are troubled (and should be) that the bookseller is apparently trying to make certain books harder to find.
Steven Musil is the night news editor at CNET News. Before joining CNET News in 2000, Steven spent 10 years at various Bay Area newspapers. E-mail Steven.
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The fantasy has become a
reality. Between ads, movies, music, books and TV shows, society just
can't get enough bisexuality. As witnessed in the famous
Madonna-Britney-Christina kiss and MTV star Tila Tequila"s adventures,
society is fascinated by those who "bat for both teams.”
Bisexual pursuits have become so seemingly commonplace that one
would think the world has gone “bi.” But the research on bisexual
numbers paints a very different picture:
By all indications, true bisexual orientation is rare.
“Bisexuality refers to activities or inherent interests of an
individual for sexual/genital involvement with both male and female
partners,” according to sex researcher Milton Diamond, and that
encompass people who are bi-curious or who are sorting through their
sexual orientation.
But how many people actually identify as bisexual?
Good data on the number of bisexuals is scarce. Pioneering sex
researcher Alfred Kinsey broke the mold in the 1950s in theorizing that
bisexuality was much more common than believed. His research reported
that almost half of the male population “engages in both heterosexual
and homosexual activities, or reacts to persons of both sexes, in the
course of their adult lives.”
But Kinsey's finding is considered highly controversial. The
investigations conducted since have, like Kinsey’s research, been
muddled by methodological issues. A number of issues -- for example,
varied definitions of “bisexuality” and the problems with the sample --
have made it hard to establish the size of the bisexual population.
The stronger research efforts to date indicate that Kinsey’s numbers may have been off.
A 1991 Dutch study, based on a national random sample of 421 men and
580 women, found that only 13 out of 100 males and 10 out of 100
females admitted to having had a same-sex experience. Other studies out
of Britain, Denmark and the U.S. have had similar results, all of which
indicate that bisexuality may be less common than thought.
In the United States, a 2002 survey by the National Center for
Health Statistics found that only 1.8 percent of men and 2.8 percent of
women, ages 18-44, considered themselves bisexual. The Janus Report on
Sexual Behaviors, published in 1994, found that only 5 percent of men
and 3 percent of women identified as such.
Data collected thus far shows that most people are exclusively or
predominantly heterosexual or homosexual. Most have sex for most of
their lives, only with males or only with females -- but not with both.
Interestingly enough, the animal kingdom paints a similar picture.
One finds that very few species show bisexual tendencies. This has been
seen in female cows mounting each other (if a bull isn’t there to break
up the action). The Bonobo, a chimpanzee-like primate, may dabble in
same-sex play, for example, kissing and genital play, but this has been
interpreted as tension-regulating functions.
Likewise, certain species of gulls have been reported as exhibiting
female-female courting, mounting, and shared nesting. Yet these
appeared to be due to a noteworthy shortage of males.
Getting back to humans ... It is rare for someone in any society to
sustain an equal balance of same-sex and other-sex partners over an
extended period of time, let alone a lifetime.
But that's not to say that people may not identify with bisexuality
when it comes to their desires. It is not uncommon for a person to be
coupled and to have fantasies that don’t match the orientation with
which they identify.
In the 1980s, sex researcher Eli Coleman showed that while
individuals tend to identify consistently as gay or straight, a number
do not. When asked about desire, many rate themselves as bisexual, yet
maintain gay or straight relationships exclusively.
These findings naturally beg the question: Are many bisexuals in the
closet? That would, in some ways, explain society’s current love affair
with bisexuality. Many people may be living vicariously through
bisexuals in the media, since they can’t fess up themselves.
When processing any prevalence data, it’s important to remember that
a number of elements may play into a person’s honest reporting of his
or her sexual orientation. One’s social environment, political ties,
and personal issues are just a handful of the factors that can
influence how we label our sexual orientation and the types of
relationships we have.
While bisexuality has existed in various societies throughout human
existence, the term was coined in the 19th century. Despite the
entertainment industry’s enthrallment with bisexuality, traditionally,
society hasn’t rolled out the red carpet for this orientation. Its
taboo nature is part of what makes it such a buzz today.
Perhaps, with the world now bonkers for bisexuality and the
orientation coming out of the closet, we may get a better handle on how
many bisexuals there actually are.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder ofSexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
Catholics Take Offense to Obama Naming Critic of Pope Benedict to Faith-Based Panel
Harry Knox, appointed by President Obama to a White House advisory council, lambasted the pope and Catholic bishops in a gay
newspaper last month for their opposition to same-sex marriage.
A representative of a national gay rights group who was appointed by President Obama to a White House advisory council
this week once described Pope Benedict XVI and some Catholic bishops as "discredited leaders" because of their opposition
to same-sex marriage.
Harry Knox, director of the religion and faith program at Human Rights Campaign, a Washington-based
gay rights group, lambasted the prelates in a gay newspaper last month for their support of Proposition 8, the successful
November ballot measure that made same-sex marriage unconstitutional in California.
Knox
told the Bay Area Reporter that the Knights of Columbus, the Catholic
fraternal service organization, were "foot soldiers of a discredited
army of oppression" for their role in the campaign, saying the group
"followed discredited leaders," including bishops and Pope Benedict.
"A
pope who literally today said condoms don't help in control of AIDS,"
he said, referring to the pope's statement condemning the use of
condoms in Africa.
William Donahue, president of the Catholic League, said the appointment of Knox further
undermines a faith-based program that has been watered down by Obama.
"People
are right to criticize the Catholic Church for anything," Donahue told
FOXNews.com. "But Harry Knox is not just a critic. He's insulting. He
used disdainful, disparaging terms to talk about the pope and the
Catholic hierarchy. If someone were appointed using that language about
homosexuals, he would be thrown out."
Donahue said he would prefer to see Obama end the faith-based initiative.
Knox did not
return messages seeking comment.
Marianne
Duddy-Burke, executive director of DignityUSA, an organization for gay
Catholics, who has worked closely with Knox, called Knox a strong
supporter of Catholicism who acknowledges the good works of the church.
"But
I think he also represents a valid viewpoint in criticizing the
Catholic bishops' efforts to sustain continual oppression in this
country," she said, adding that they have been the primary funders of
blocking human rights to gay couples. "The bishops have done a lot of
damage to our communities, and [Knox's] presence in that circle brings
a much needed voice."
Knox
is among the 25-member advisory council that is part of the White House
Office of Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships.
Obama
established the office in February with a broader mission than the one
previously overseen by President Bush. Obama said the new office, which
he created by executive order, would reach out to organizations that
provide help, "no matter their religious or political beliefs."
Some have accused Obama of
appointing Knox to deflect criticism from liberal groups after he
invited former Indianapolis Colts coach Tony Dungy to be part of the
council. Dungy, an evangelical Christian, supported efforts in Indiana
to ban same-sex marriage in 2007. He declined Obama's offer, citing
scheduling conflicts.
Donahue
noted that Obama asked the Rev. Gene Robinson, an Episcopal bishop from
New Hampshire and a vocal gay rights leader, to open his inauguration
with a prayer after liberal groups decried the invitation of
evangelical Pastor Rick Warren, who opposes gay marriage, to deliver
the inaugural invocation.
"The counter to Dungy is Harry Knox," Donahue said. "But you don't counter a man with
traditional beliefs with an anti-Catholic bigot. It's not a moral equivalent."
Duddy-Burke rejected that notion, saying
Obama's selections show his respect for diversity of beliefs.
"I, as a person of faith, really applaud the president
for casting a wide net in selecting a panel of religious advisers, because it represents the diversity of religious voices
in the country," she said.
People were yelling "Let us vote" from the Iowa House galleries just after 10 a.m., after a Republican attempt to call up the constitutional amendment against gay marriage was ruled out of order.
Republican Leader Kraig Paulsen had asked at 9:26 a.m. for a call of the House and sought to bring to the House floor the resolution to propose a constitutional amendment.
The call of the House required all representatives at the Capitol to report to their desk and they are not to leave the House chambers. Such moves are often made when controversial votes come before the legislature to help prevent lawmakers from leaving.
After a huddle involving leaders from the House and Senate, House Speaker Pat Murphy ruled Paulsen's motion out of order shortly after 10 a.m.. Shouts erupted from the galleries, which were packed with spectators, as lawmakers filed into closed-door meetings.
Senate Majority Leader Mike Gronstal spoke to the House leaders in the well about the attempt to suspend the joint rules to bring up the proposed marriage amendment resolution.
"One chamber can't do that,” Gronstal said. “I was there to defend the joint rules.”
The only way to suspend the joint rules is for someone to introduce a resolution in rules and administration committee. If it starts in the House, then there"s a vote in House committee and in the full House. If it passes, it goes to Senate committee then a vote of the full House.
About 10 a.m. Murphy ruled out of order the effort to bring up House Joint Resolution 6, the marriage amendment. He also ruled out of order the call of the House. Loud shouts of protest erupted from the gallery as lawmakers moved into closed-door caucus meetings.
“We’re not going to let mob rule rule this state,” Murphy said as people exited the chambers, noting his frustration with the chanting.
Murphy is a long-time supporter of civil rights and believes same-sex couples should have the legal right to marry.
“If you take a look at history, the court’s job has always been to protect the minority. Whether it was women’s right to vote, whether it was an African American doesn’t have to be a slave. An African American has the right to marry a white person. That’s what this is about.”
Chuck Hurley, of the Iowa Family Policy Project, said his group would continue to work to ban gay marriage.
“I’m ashamed of my state’s leaders. I’m ashamed of the people not having the chance to vote,” Hurley said.
Hurley noted that his group is not telling people how to vote.
“The essence of what we do is love and love,” Hurley said. According to history and sacred writings, love always perseveres. It doesn’t give up. If you really love God and your neighbors, you don’t give up. That’s the message.”
Earlier today, roughly 400 opponents of same-sex marriage took part in a prayer at the Capitol.
They're asking lawmakers in the House to allow a bill that would launch a constitutional amendment to move forward.
Security was stepped up considerably at the Statehouse this morning. Troopers are standing guard outside the chamber doors, in the balconies and around the Iowa Capitol.
The prayer was led by members of the Iowa Family Policy Center, a conservative group that opposes same-sex marriage. They said they would work to vote elected officials who support gay marriage out of office.
“You can let them know today that this issue is different. This is not about taxes or spending and regulations. This is about morality and the word of God,” said Family Policy Center Board Chair Danny Carroll, a former Republican representative from Grinnell.
One Iowa, the state’s largest gay-rights advocacy group is also making an appearance. Members of the group were handing out stickers and gathering in support of gay marriage.
Even if the bill were to pass this year, it would also have to pass the Legislature in 2011 and couldn’t be on the ballot until 2012.
Murphy and Gronstal, D-Council Bluffs, have publicly stated support for last week’s Iowa Supreme Court ruling that allows same-sex couples to marry.
About 80 people, predominantly dressed in red shirts, gathered in the rotunda outside the House chambers. Doorkeepers said safety officials declared the House too full to let another person inside.
The Rev. Keith Ratliff arrived decked fully in red - a fire-engine red suit coat and red slacks.
Troopers watched the crowd carefully, but all remained peaceful as of 10 a.m.
Ratliff has led many protests against same-sex marriage. He contrasted the issue with those of civil rights related to race and ethnicity.
“I think this is a choice issue. As an African American, I was born this way. Based, at least the information that has been gathered this far, homosexuality is a choice. So I see that as two different situations.”
Brad Clark of One Iowa urged lawmakers to stay focused on issues of common concern to all Iowa families.
“The Supreme Court, the governor, the attorney general and legislative leadership have clearly articulated that all Iowans should be protected under the Iowa Constitution,” Clark said.
Meanwhile, the chambers of the Iowa Senate were calm and empty of anyone but clerks and lawmakers.
“They have nothing available to them in the Senate,” Gronstal said. “No Republican introduced a marriage amendment in the Senate so there’s nothing for them to take up on our side."
Protesters said they were disappointed at the amendment didn’t take a step forward.
“We didn’t really think it would, but we were hopeful that it would,” said Dave Pierce of Grinnell. “I see it more of a spiritual matter than a political matter.”
Pierce said he e-mailed about a dozen representatives last night who he heard were “on the fence” about bringing up the amendment. And he telephoned his representative, Eric Palmer D-Oskaloosa.
His nephew, Ethan Pierce, 9, managed to get a seat in the House balcony to watch events unfold. Ethan lives in rural Grinnell, and his representative, Betty DeBoef, R-What Cheer, was firmly on the family’s side, they said.
Texas Christian University to Offer Separate Housing for Gay Students
Wednesday, April 08, 2009
FORT WORTH, Texas —
Eight students have signed up for Texas Christian University's designated on-campus housing for gay students and their supporters, in what may be the only such college housing in North Texas.
The DiversCity Q community will open in the fall in a section of the Tom Brown-Pete Wright apartments. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender students and allies — heterosexual classmates who support them — will have the chance to live together, the Fort Worth Star-Telegram reported in a story posted Tuesday on its Web site.
"It's a chance for students to be part of a unique experience," said David Cooper, TCU associate director for residential life.
TCU sophomore Shelly Newkirk, who is gay, applied to create the program. She said eight students have committed to live in the apartments.
"Well I've been trying to create a safe space on campus for the queer community," Newkirk said Tuesday in an interview with Dallas-Fort Worth television station KDFW. "We're not creating just like a bubble for ourselves, but creating a space where we can have open dialogue and students can be comfortable."
TCU will also open two Christian-based living groups, another for fine arts and three other themed housing arrangements. It's all part of the university's living-learning communities, designed for students who want to live with others who are like-minded.
Living-learning communities are common at universities in Denton and Tarrant counties, but none has an on-campus living program for gay students. A fraternity for gay and straight students opened in 1998 at the University of North Texas but had closed by 2001, University of North Texas spokeswoman Sarah Bahari said.
Neither Cooper nor Newkirk had received any criticism, they said.
"Surprisingly, I found nothing but support," said Newkirk. She said she was prepared for criticism.
"Sometimes those things can bring a community together," she said. "It doesn't have to tear us apart."
April 7th, 2009 @ 4:07pm
By MARCUS FRANKLIN
Associated Press Writer
NEW YORK (AP) - New York City officials are turning to gays and lesbians to help reduce a projected $4 billion budget deficit.
The nation's largest city unveiled a marketing campaign Tuesday to
attract more gay and lesbian tourists from around the country and the
world as other U.S. cities compete to strip New York of its title of
No. 1 vacation destination for gays and lesbians.
The Rainbow Pilgrimage campaign comes as state and city officials
grapple with diminishing revenue resulting from the global economic
meltdown, which is forcing many people to forgo leisure travel plans or
take so-called staycations near home.
The campaign kickoff also comes months in advance of the June 40th
anniversary of the Stonewall riots in Manhattan, considered the start
of the modern gay liberation movement.
"This is a tough time for New York City's budget," said openly gay
City Council Speaker Christine Quinn, who made the announcement with
Council Member Rosie Mendez and city tourism officials. Quinn noted
that 20 percent to 25 percent of the city's revenue comes from Wall
Street, which remains in turmoil.
An estimated 47 million people visited the city last year, a record
high that generated $30 billion in spending, also a record over 2007's
$28.9 billion, according to the mayor's office. Gays and lesbians
accounted for about 10 percent of those figures.
But state officials are predicting a decline this year in the city's tourism industry.
The new campaign will highlight New York's reputation as a
gay-friendly travel destination and tout a visit to the city as a "rite
of passage." The campaign will include advertising on niche Web sites
and in magazines, as well as bus stop shelters, utility poles, street
furniture, telephone kiosks and railroad stations.
The NYC & Company nonprofit that handles marketing and tourism
for the city is working with Travelocity.com and numerous hotels,
restaurants and Broadway theaters to offer discounts. George Fertitta,
the organization's chief executive, said the announcement was made
months before the Stonewall anniversary in late June to give potential
tourists time to make plans.
NYC & Company spent $190,000 in city taxpayer money on the
campaign but estimates that, through partnerships with advertising
agencies, its value reaches nearly $2 million.
Overall, New York City remains the top leisure and business travel
destination for gays and lesbians followed closely by Las Vegas and San
Francisco, said David Paisley, a senior projects manager at Community
Marketing Inc., a tourism research company that specializes in gay and
lesbian consumers.
"There's increasing competition from cities who are reaching out to
gays and lesbians," Paisley said. "New York needs to respond or it'll
lose the No. 1 position."
The annual economic impact of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender
travelers is about $70.3 billion in the United States, according to
Community Marketing.
"It clearly is a market that has the flexibility to travel," Fertitta said.
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AP Scraping Prohibition
Vermont Legislature gives final OK to gay marriage
Lawmakers
override the governor's veto of a bill allowing same-sex marriage.
Vermont is now one of four states allowing gay marriage -- and the
first to do it by legislative, rather than court, action
By Jessica Garrison
1:38 PM PDT, April 7, 2009
The Vermont Legislature voted today to permit same-sex couples to
marry--making it the first state in the union to legalize gay marriage
through a vote of lawmakers rather than a court action.
The vote comes just four days after the Iowa Supreme Court ruled to
permit gay marriage, and brings to four the number of states that allow
gay marriage.
"The emotion that is going around this building right now -- how good
people feel -- it's palpable," said Vermont state Senate Majority
Leader John Campbell, who led his colleagues this morning in overriding
Gov. Jim Douglas' veto. "It's not often that you get in your career to
be able to fight for someone's civil rights."
Opponents of gay marriage, meanwhile, condemned the decision.
"Today is a truly sad day for Vermont and this nation," said Brian
Brown, executive director of the National Organization for Marriage, in
a statement.
Brown added that, in response to the actions in Vermont and Iowa, his
organization plans to launch a new, national ad campaign that
"highlights how same-sex marriage undermines the core civil rights of
those who believe in the simple truth that marriage is the union of one
man and one woman." The ads will begin Wednesday, he said.
The action by one of the nation's smallest states -- Vermont's
population is around 600,000 -- was hailed by gay rights activists in
California who are fighting for same-sex marriage here. Following a
ruling last May by the California Supreme Court, gay couples had the
right to marry in California for about five months before Proposition 8
amended the state Constitution to disallow such unions.
"Today's vote should send another strong message to the California
Supreme Court that discrimination has no place in our laws and should
not be enshrined in the California Constitution," said Marc Solomon,
the newly hired director of marriage for the gay rights group Equality
California.
Gay marriages can be performed in Vermont starting in September.
Same-sex marriage is now legal in four states: Iowa, Connecticut, Massachusetts and Vermont.
FOXSexpert: Sexting 1-2-3: The Seven Rules of Text Messaging
Monday , April 06, 2009
By Yvonne K. Fulbright
Think “sexting” is only about sending nude pictures via cell phone? Think again. It can be so much more.
Sexting is also the explicit sexual dialogue people have via text, which is meant to sexually excite one another.
Referred more generally as “flirtexting,” two people sending text
messages can lead to a hot date, a sexual partner, and/or sexual
relationship. It can add more fuel to fires already ablaze.
So what is it about this form of communication that is quickly
making it the first step in hooking up for old and new lovers alike?
“Text me” has become the latest of mating calls. This digital,
wireless communication is enabling potential partners to make first
impressions like never before. It’s helping couples rekindle the
passion. It’s bowling over flirts who are literallyl looking to charm
the pants off one another.
According to Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of
“Flirtexting,” text messaging is the most widely used mobile data
service on the planet. In 2007, 363 billion text messages (TMs) were
sent in the United States alone. These master flirtexters maintain that
your short message service (SMS) is ideal because:
— Messages are short, sweet, and to the point;
— The witty banter can reflect just how brilliant (thus attractive) you are;
— You’re totally in control of the conversation, and not subject to awkward phone moments;
— They allow people to explore their sexual feelings and mutual attraction for one another;
— You’re more approachable and can be more open with your feelings in a low-risk way;
— This mode of communication increases your confidence, helping you to overcome shyness;
— For singles, it’s a non-committal; no-strings attached way of saying “I like you;”
— You can flirt with many potential partners at once.
Established and would-be lovers alike are having a blast spicing up
their sex lives with naughty texts. Whether shooting off “XOXO” (hugs
and kisses), “French” (French kiss), “IWSN” (I want sex now), “<3”
(heart), or “LOML” (love of my life), flirters feel connected
throughout the day.
This form of flirting suits today’s fast-paced society, which is
oh-so-tight on time. Flirts can easily and quickly let the other know
they’ve got sex on the brain, planting the seed for good times to come
– if they practice proper textiquette, that is.
Like anything in life, there are rules to this messaging madness, and players should adhere to them:
1. Timing is everything. While it can be
tempting to respond right away, being overly eager can be a turn off.
This is especially true for those just getting to know each other. Rein
in your enthusiasm from time to time, using time as a tease in
responding to certain TMs. This makes you appear laid back and
easy-going. This increases the perception that you’re fun to hang out
with, and more...
2. Texting has a curfew. Unless you’ve got
a 24-7 passion policy for booty calls, most people are not going to be
keen on TMs after a certain hour. Know that if you TM somebody after 10
p.m., it’s considered a late-night booty call.
3. Don’t beat around the bush. TMs can be
easily misunderstood. People like them for the fact they’re succinct
and direct. You want to flirt, and with that hint. Just don’t be
cryptic. These are supposed to be time-saving titillations.
4. Don't drink and text. Getting drunk equals getting stupid. And while it can be funny, it’s not so sexy. So stick with sober messages.
5. Avoid breaking major news via text.
Texting should not involve first professions of love, marriage
proposals or the breaking of bad news. For example, would you want to
receive the message “Have herpes. Sux. U should get checked 2” on your cell phone?
And while new love interests may handle rejection better via text,
do not dump somebody you’ve been involved with for weeks, months, or
years via SMS. That’s just cold.
6. Discretion is the best option. If
you’re sexting more than one person, do not leave your phone out while
on a date. Do not check your phone in front of a date. Turn off your
phone if you find yourself having a “sleepover.”
7. Proofread. Any TMs involving sexual
encounters, especially those complemented by racy pictures, need to be
double-checked. Is it being sent to the intended receiver?
Perhaps most importantly, don’t become reliant on texting. The
convenience of TMs is a double-edged sword. There is a point where
reachability can lend itself to “addictive” tendencies. You also don’t
want to come across as making little effort.
Lazy is not lust-inducing. While they involve minimal effort, TMs
are meant to maximize the action you get during face time. You need to
make every effort to ensure that you continue your carnal conversation
as effectively in person.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder ofSexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
The move sets up what's bound to be a close vote in the House on Tuesday as supporters try to muster the two-thirds majority
needed for an override.
MONTPELIER, Vt. -- Gov. Jim Douglas on Monday issued his promised veto of a gay marriage bill, setting up what's bound
to be a close vote in the House on Tuesday as supporters try to muster the two-thirds majority needed for an override.
"This
legislation does not address the inequalities espoused by proponents,"
the Republican governor said in a prepared veto message.
"Regardless
of whether the term marriage is applied, federal benefits will still be
denied to same sex couples in Vermont," the governor said. "And states
that do not recognize same sex marriage or civil unions will also deny
state rights and responsibilities" to same-sex couples.
Lawmakers said they would attempt
veto override votes on Tuesday in both the Senate and House, both
controlled by Democrats. The Senate, which approved the bill 26-4 last
month, is expected to go first and to vote easily to override.
The House voted 95-52 to approve the bill on
Thursday, just short of the two-thirds of the 150-member body needed
for an override. Supporters worked through the weekend in hopes of
getting a few opponents to switch their votes.
"I'm
still talking to members and we're hoping for a number that is
two-thirds," said House Speaker Shap Smith, D-Morristown. The
first-term speaker said he did not believe the vote would be a test of
his leadership, arguing that lawmakers' views on the issue often are
the result of deeply held personal beliefs.
But the speaker said he was trying to appeal to members'
loyalty to the Legislature and its prerogatives.
"The House voted 95-52 to support civil marriage and the Senate
voted overwhelmingly to support it," Smith said. "I really think it's about saying the majority of the Legislature made a
decision and should one person stand in the way of the majority of the Legislature's decision."
The bodies of two gay men have been found in Baghdad's Shiite slum of Sadr City after a leading cleric repeatedly condemned homosexuality, an Iraqi police official said Saturday.
The killings come after Shiite cleric Sattar al-Battat repeatedly condemned homosexuality during recent Friday prayers, saying Islam prohibits homosexuality. Homosexual acts are punishable by up to seven years in prison in Iraq.
The two men were believed killed Thursday by relatives who were shamed by their behavior, said the official. Police said they suspected the killings were at the hands of family members because no one has claimed the bodies or called for an investigation.
The killings come weeks after Iraqi police found four bodies in late March buried near Sadr City with the words "pervert" and "puppies" written on their chests, said the official, who spoke on condition of anonymity because he was not authorized to release the information.
Puppy is a derogatory word used by residents in Sadr City to refer to homosexuals, the official said.
Sadr City, a slum of about two million people, is home to a large majority of radical Shiite cleric Muqtada al-Sadr's Mahdi Army militia. Al-Sadr's forces launched several uprisings against American forces since the U.S.-led invasion in 2003, but fighting ended in Sadr City in May 2008.
"When the Mahdi army was in control, such practices were banned, and homosexuals were afraid of declaring their tendencies," the official said. But that's changed since the Mahdi Army militia cease fire took hold, the official said. The official said some people claim a coffee shop in Sadr City has become a hangout for gay men.
Sheik Ammar al-Saadi, a cleric at al-Sadr's office, denied any involvement by the Mahdi army in the killings. He said the Mahdi Army was only urging people to stop practicing homosexuality.
"Such people have brought shame on Sadr city people," he told The Associated Press. "The blame falls on the security forces who do little to combat this phenomenon or to stop the flow of pornography materials into Iraq."
Also Saturday, a tourism and antiquities ministry official said Iraq plans to open a museum filled with belongings of ousted Iraqi dictator Saddam Hussein.
Abdul-Zahra al-Talqani, the media director of Iraq's office of tourism and archaeology affairs, told The AP that the items, which include art, furniture and weapons, were being handed back to the Iraqi government by the American military.
The U.S. military had been storing weapons belonging to the late Iraqi dictator in Taji, north of Baghdad.
Al-Talqani said no site for the museum has been selected, though it could be housed in one of Saddam's palaces.
Some of the former dictator's belonging are currently stored — but not on display — in Baghdad's National Museum, which reopened in February after having been closed following looting in the aftermath of the 2003 invasion.
Iowa Court Says Gay Marriage Ban Is Unconstitutional
By MONICA DAVEY and LIZ ROBBINS
DES MOINES — Iowa became the first state in the Midwest to approve same-sex marriage
on Friday, after the Iowa Supreme Court unanimously decided that a 1998
law limiting marriage to a man and a woman was unconstitutional.
The decision was the culmination of a four-year legal battle that
began in the lower courts. The Supreme Court said same-sex marriages
could begin in Iowa in as soon as 21 days.
The case here was being closely followed by advocates on both sides
of the issue. While the same-sex marriage debate has played out on both
coasts, the Midwest — where no states had permitted same-sex marriage —
was seen as entirely different. In the past, at least six states in the
Midwest were among those around the country that adopted amendments to
their state constitutions banning same-sex marriage.
"The Iowa statute limiting civil marriage to a union between a man
and a woman violates the equal protection clause of the Iowa
Constitution,” the justices said in a summary of their decision.
And later in the ruling, they said: “Equal protection under the Iowa
Constitution is essentially a direction that all persons similarly
situated should be treated alike. Since territorial times, Iowa has
given meaning to this constitutional provision, striking blows to
slavery and segregation, and recognizing women's rights. The court
found the issue of same-sex marriage comes to it with the same
importance as the landmark cases of the past.”
In a hotel in Des Moines, several of the same-sex couples who were
involved in the suit wept, teared up and embraced as they learned about
the decision from their lawyers. “I"d like to introduce you to my
fiancee,” said Kate Varnum, 34, reaching over to Trish Varnum. “Today I
am proud to be a lifelong Iowan.”
“We are blessed to live in Iowa,” she added.
Opponents of same-sex marriage criticized the ruling.
“The decision made by the Iowa Supreme Court today to allow gay
marriage in Iowa is disappointing on many levels," State Senator Paul
McKinley, the Republican leader, said in a statement on The Des Moines
Register’s Web site. "I believe marriage should only be between one man
and one woman and I am confident the majority of Iowans want
traditional marriage to be legally recognized in this state."
He added: "Though the court has made their decision, I believe every
Iowan should have a voice on this matter and that is why the Iowa
Legislature should immediately act to pass a Constitutional Amendment
that protects traditional marriage, keeps it as a sacred bond only
between one man and one woman and gives every Iowan a chance to have
their say through a vote of the people."
Advocates of same-sex marriage said they did not believe opponents
had any immediate way to overturn the decision. A constitutional
amendment would require the state legislature to approve a ban on
same-sex marriage in two consecutive sessions after which voters would
have a chance to weigh in.
Iowa has no residency requirement for getting a marriage license,
which some suggest may mean a flurry of people from other states.
Two states — Connecticut and Massachusetts — currently allow
same-sex marriages. Several other states on the East coast allow civil
unions, lawmakers in Vermont are considering gay marriage, and
California allowed it until November’s election, when residents
rejected the idea in a voter initiative.
A change in Iowa’s take on marriage, advocates for gay marriage said
before Friday’s ruling, would signal a broader shift in public
thinking, even in the nation’s more conservative middle. Opponents of
same-sex marriage, meanwhile, had said any legal decision in support of
same-sex marriage in Iowa would certainly trigger a prompt and sharp
response among residents and, surely, state lawmakers.
The legal case here began in 2005, when six same-sex couples filed
suit against the county recorder here in Polk County because he would
not accept their marriage license applications.
Two years later, a local judge here, Robert B. Hanson, ruled in that
case that a state law defining marriage as only between a man and woman
was unconstitutional. The ruling, in 2007, set off a flurry of same-sex
couples from all over the state, racing for the courthouse in Polk
County.
The rush lasted less than a day in August of 2007. Although Judge
Hanson had ruled against the state law, he quickly decided to delay any
additional granting of licenses, saying that the Iowa Supreme Court
should have an opportunity to weigh in first. In the end, about 20
couples applied before the stay was issued. Just one couple, Timothy
McQuillan, then 21, and Sean Fritz, 24, managed to obtain their license
and also to marry.
DES MOINES, Iowa (AP) — Iowa's Supreme Court legalized gay marriage Friday in a unanimous and emphatic decision that makes Iowa the third state — and the first in the nation's heartland — to allow same-sex couples to wed.
In its decision, the high court upheld a lower court's ruling that found a state law restricting marriage to between a man and woman violated Iowa's constitution.
"We are firmly convinced the exclusion of gay and lesbian people from the institution of civil marriage does not substantially further any important governmental objective," the Supreme Court wrote in its decision. "The Legislature has excluded a historically disfavored class of persons from a supremely important civil institution without a constitutionally sufficient justification."
The ruling set off celebration among the state's gay-marriage proponents.
"Iowa is about justice, and that's what happened here today," said Laura Fefchak, who was hosting a verdict party in the Des Moines suburb of Urbandale with partner of 13 years, Nancy Robinson.
Robinson added: "To tell the truth, I didn't think I'd see this day."
Richard Socarides, an attorney and former senior adviser on gay rights to President Clinton, said the ruling carries extra significance coming from Iowa.
"It's a big win because, coming from Iowa, it represents the mainstreaming of gay marriage. And it shows that despite attempts stop gay marriage through right-wing ballot initiatives, like in California, the courts will continue to support the case for equal rights for gays," he said.
Its opponents were equally dismayed.
"I would say the mood is one of mourning right now in a lot of ways, and yet the first thing we did after internalizing the decision was to walk across the street and begin the process of lobbying our legislators to let the people of Iowa vote," said Bryan English, spokesman for the conservative group the Iowa Family Policy Center.
"This is an issue that will define (lawmakers') leadership. This is not a side issue."
The Rev. Keith Ratliff Sr., pastor at the Maple Street Baptist Church in Des Moines, went to the Supreme Court building to hear of the decision.
"It's a perversion and it opens the door to more perversions," Ratliff said. "What's next?"
Technically, the decision will take about 21 days to be considered final and a request for a rehearing could be filed within that period.
But Polk County Attorney John Sarcone said his office will not ask for a rehearing, meaning the court's decision should take effect after that three-week period.
"Our Supreme Court has decided it, and they make the decision as to what the law is and we follow Supreme Court decisions," Sarcone said. "This is not a personal thing. We have an obligation to the law to defend the recorder, and that's what we do."
That means it will be at least several weeks before gay and lesbian couples can seek marriage licenses.
Sarcone said gay marriage opponents can't appeal the case at the state or federal level because they were not party to the lawsuit and no federal issue was raised in the case.
Opponents can try and persuade Iowa lawmakers to address the issue, but state Senate Majority Leader Mike Gronstal, D-Council Bluffs, said it's "exceedingly unlikely" gay marriage legislation will be brought up this session, expected to end within weeks. He also said he's "not inclined to call up a constitutional amendment," during next year's session.
The case had been working its way through Iowa's court system since 2005 when Lambda Legal, a New York-based gay rights organization, filed a lawsuit on behalf of six gay and lesbian Iowa couples who were denied marriage licenses. Some of their children are also listed as plaintiffs.
The suit named then-Polk County recorder and registrar Timothy Brien.
The state Supreme Court's ruling upheld an August 2007 decision by Polk County District Court Judge Robert Hanson, who found that a state law allowing marriage only between a man and a woman violates the state's constitutional rights of equal protection.
The Polk County attorney's office, arguing on behalf of Brien, claimed that Hanson's ruling violates the separation of powers and said the issue should be left to the Legislature.
Lambda Legal planned to comment on the ruling later Friday. A request for comment from the Polk County attorney's office wasn't immediately returned.
Gov. Chet Culver, a Democrat, said the decision addresses a complicated and emotional issue.
"The next responsible step is to thoroughly review this decision, which I am doing with my legal counsel and the attorney general, before reacting to what it means for Iowa," Culver said in a statement.
Around the nation, only Massachusetts and Connecticut permit same-sex marriage. California, which briefly allowed gay marriage before a voter initiative in November repealed it, allows domestic partnerships.
New Jersey, New Hampshire and Vermont also offer civil unions, which provide many of the same rights that come with marriage. New York recognizes same-sex marriages performed elsewhere, and legislators there and in New Jersey are weighing whether to offer marriage. A bill that would legalize same-sex marriage in Vermont has cleared the Legislature but may be vetoed by the governor.
MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - A Vermont Senate committee has unamimously approved advancing a bill that would legalize same-sex marriage in the state. The senate Judiciary Committee voted 5-0 on Friday to advance the measure that was the topic of an emotional public hearing on Wednesday that drew hundreds to the Statehouse. The full Senate is expected to take up the bill next week. Gov. Jim Douglas has said he opposes the measure, but has not indicated whether he would veto it. If approved, Vermont would join Massachusetts and Connecticut as the only U.S. states that allow gay marriage.
We need to support GLBT businesses in our neighbors. They are our family and friends. Of course, you have to shop around for the best price and the best service, but we need to do this. Why? Because we might make new friends, new lovers and improve our sense of family in the community.
In ION, ECHO and other magazines place ads for our community. We have to help out our family and then other people, you know, those straight ones.
Which brings me to write this:
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We need to support our family because it's our way of life.
I was on the phone talking to a friend about cheating. I always wanted to know why people cheat on the one they claim to love.
I had family members, who cheated on their spouses and I wondered, "Why? What is the point?"
My ex-girlfriend was a mistress for a while and I could not understand why, she would want share her girlfriend with someone else?
I was cheated on with a girl, found out after a month, I was the mistress. Since, I was the mistress, I ended it.
Cheating is disrespectful on so many levels. You're disrespecting yourself as a person and you're disrespecting someone you don't know about.
In a cheating relationship, there's NO TRUST. Cheating is lying. With lying, there's no trust. With no trust, no true relationship.
Yes, sometimes the cheater has a good life. Look at Brad Pitt. He cheated on his wife with Angie. It's seems, he and Angie were meant to be together, but cause hurt and pain for the hurt for the other party.
So, if you are in a relationship and you can't stand the person, dump them instead of cheating on them.
Be honest. It's better to honest then to be labeled a cheater.
In Phoenix, almost everyone knows your business. Believe me, I'm the HOE of Valley. But here, you can't be labeled a cheater or you dating life is over.
I'm not being a downer or anything like that, but my friend and I were talking about it. I wanted to mention it because sometimes the world thinks, we are gays sleep around like rabbits, but in truth, most of us are not sleeping around, but doing ourselves. One reason, why the sex toy business in still ALIVE!!!!!
Gay marriage effort shifts back to New England March 27, 2009
By JOHN CURRAN Associated Press Writer
MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - Vermont was the first state to outlaw slavery. Neighboring New Hampshire declared its independence from England before any other colony. Maine led the way with Prohibition.
These days, Yankee activism has another cause _ gay rights.
Two states in New England already allow same-sex marriage, and lawmakers in three more are considering it, although passage is far from certain.
To some, the push is emblematic of a live-and-let-live ethic and burnished by gradual acceptance of gay relationships after Vermont's groundbreaking civil unions law took effect in 2000. Others see it as a targeted effort by a vocal minority that has turned to the Northeast because its message can't get traction elsewhere.
Only Massachusetts and Connecticut permit same-sex marriage. California, which briefly allowed it before a voter initiative in November repealed it, allows domestic partnerships, as do a handful of other states.
New Jersey and New Hampshire also offer civil unions, which provide many of the same rights that come with marriage. New York recognizes same-sex marriages performed elsewhere, and legislators there and in New Jersey are weighing whether to offer marriage. The Iowa Supreme Court has heard arguments on a marriage equality suit.
But for now, the focus on legal recognition of gay relationships has returned to northern New England.
"There is not an easy way to get the issue on the ballot and before the voters so that it can be decided directly by the people," said Maggie Gallagher, president of the National Organization for Marriage, which opposes gay marriage and is underwriting a radio campaign against it.
"Therefore, it is more a creature of special interest politics and legislative dealmaking. These are small states which can be influenced by fairly large amounts of outside money coming in. And it's very hard for regular people to feel that they can have a voice on this issue in these states."
The voices _ on both sides _ are growing louder:
_ New Hampshire, which enacted a civil unions law last year, moved a step closer to legalizing gay marriage Thursday when the state House of Representatives voted in favor. The state Senate still must vote, though, and the governor _ who signed a civil unions bills last year _ opposes it.
_ The Vermont Senate has approved a similar measure, but the House has yet to vote. Gov. Jim Douglas vowed Wednesday to veto the bill if it reaches him, spurring a protest that drew about 300 people to the Statehouse on Friday. Protesters say they'll push to get enough votes in the Legislature for a veto override.
_ In Maine, a bill to legalize gay marriage has nearly 60 co-sponsors in the Legislature. Gov. John Baldacci, who opposes gay marriage, says he hasn't taken a position on the measure.
Beth Robinson, who leads the Vermont Freedom to Marry Task Force, says the close proximity of the New England states has allowed people to see for themselves that civil unions work and gay marriage should be allowed to. Massachusetts got same-sex marriage in 2004.
"It's a lot harder for someone who lives near Massachusetts to say that the sky's going to fall if we share the same sky. Someone halfway across the country might not see that," Robinson said.
Another supporter is Stan Baker, 64, of Shelburne, Vt., whose marriage equality lawsuit led to Vermont's first-in-the-nation civil unions law nine years ago.
"Many of our states have really championed civil rights, social justice and freedom issues and understand that when one person's rights are denied, it affects all of us," Baker said.
New Hampshire state Rep. Ed Butler, a 59-year-old Democrat who obtained a civil union last year with his partner of 30 years, said the bill there has big hurdles ahead. But many people want it, he said.
"At least in New Hampshire, there's a strong libertarian streak _ respect of individual rights and respect for your neighbor. If you are a good and contributing member of your community, then people see no reason to deny you what seems reasonable," Butler said.
Opponents contend that the measures don't have popular support, saying that gay rights measures are nearly always defeated at the polls. Amendments to ban gay marriage were approved in November in Arizona and Florida. Now, 30 states have gay marriage bans in their constitutions.
Michael Heath, executive director of the Maine Family Policy Council, which opposes same-sex marriage, said lawmakers out of touch with real people are the ones pushing same-sex marriage.
"I think it's because the politicians up here have become more left-leaning. I have experienced a significant disconnect between the public in Maine and the politicians on the issue of gay rights," Heath said.
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An openly gay eighth grade student in Peoria claims his principal made him turn his rainbow colored wristband inside out or stop wearing it to school.
The American Civil Liberties Union sent a letter to the Peoria Unified School District demanding action.
"This kind of censorship is what I think is even more offensive because what it does, is that it lets politics and bias dictate what should be expressed in the classroom and in the hallways. That was the school's rationale, that it was offensive to certain teachers," said ACLU Arizona Executive Director Alessandra Soler Meetze.
The teen's mother contacted the ACLU last month after she says Parkridge Elementary's principal wouldn't allow him to wear his cloth wristband with the words "rainbows are gay" to school anymore.
"My son is honest and happy about who he is, and I love him and support his right to be himself," she said. "There are a lot of things teachers should be more concerned about than one little wristband - like educating our children."
Meetze said they are giving the school district 10 days to respond.
"If the schools don't make an effort, don't change their policy, or don't agree to allow the student to wear it, we will typically litigate," she said.
Vermont begins hearings on same-sex marriage bill March 16, 2009
By JOHN CURRAN Associated Press Writer MONTPELIER, Vt. (AP) - Nine years after it played host to a bitter fight over civil unions, Vermont's Statehouse is again a gay rights battleground.More than 200 same-sex marriage opponents, cheering and wearing buttons that read "Marriage _ A Mother & Father for Every Child," converged Monday on Montpelier as lawmakers began a week's worth of hearings on a bill that would allow gay and lesbian couples to marry.If approved, Vermont would join Massachusetts and Connecticut as the only U.S. states that allow gay marriage.The measure would replace Vermont's first-in-the-nation civil unions law with one that allows marriage of same-sex partners beginning Sept. 1. Civil unions, which confer some rights similar to marriage, would still be recognized but no longer granted after Sept. 1.Supporters cast the debate as a civil rights issue, saying a civil unions law enacted by the state in 2000 has fallen short of the equality it promised same-sex couples. Its appeal has declined, too: In 2001, the state granted 1,876 civil unions, compared with only 262 last year.Passing a gay marriage bill "is one of the most important civil rights issues of our time," said Greg Johnson, a Vermont Law School professor who testified before the state Senate Judiciary Committee on Monday.While the bill won't guarantee federal benefits, supporters say it would provide societal recognition, improve access to health benefits and eliminate one of two obstacles to federal protections such as Social Security survivor benefits.Opponents say gay marriage would undermine traditional male-female marriage, rendering men and women interchangeable and destroying the connection between children and marriage. They want the question put to voters in a referendum.Legislative leaders announced two weeks ago that they intended to pass the bill _ titled "An act relating to civil marriage" _ before adjourning in May, and they have scheduled hearings to get testimony on the legal, social and practical implications of it.A public hearing is scheduled for Wednesday night at the Capitol, which was the epicenter of the fight in 2000, when the issue divided Vermont and partisans endured hate mail, threatening telephone messages and tense public meetings.More than a dozen lawmakers who voted for civil unions lost their seats in the ensuing election.On Monday, opponents organized by churches and a pair of anti-gay marriage groups flooded the hallways of the Capitol and packed into a committee room for a strategy session with Stephen Cable, president of Vermont Renewal.Supporters wearing lime-green buttons that read "From Legal Rights to Equal Rights" numbered about 50. Beth Robinson, chairwoman of the Vermont Freedom to Marry Task Force, said her side was focused on showing its strength in numbers on Wednesday for the public hearing.Robinson, a lawyer who worked on the court case that led to the creation of civil unions, told the Senate Judiciary Committee that civil unions were a "painful compromise" that left gay couples feeling like second-class citizens."It's the fact of that separation itself that does the harm. And that really does affect every member of the community," she said.Statehouse security was beefed up for the day, but there were no arrests or problems _ other than a scramble for seats in a 60-seat committee room, which forced some people to listen to the hearing from a hallway.Some were upset they wouldn't get to vote, saying gay marriage is too important to be decided only by lawmakers."We didn't vote them in to re-engineer society, we elected them in to manage our finances," said Deborah Billado, a 55-year-old entrepreneur from Essex Junction. "Such a huge issue should go to the people," said Billado. She wouldn't say whether she favors gay marriage or not.Also Monday, a national group launched a radio campaign aimed at marshaling opposition to gay marriage in northern New England.The "Don't Mess with Marriage" ads, which will be aired in Maine, New Hampshire and Vermont, are sponsored by the National Organization for Marriage, a Princeton, N.J., group that has been active in fighting same-sex marriage initiatives in California and elsewhere. (Copyright 2009 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.)
Season 1 was first aired in the United States on January 18, 2004, on Showtime and featured 13 episodes presenting several entwined storylines. Set in West Hollywood, the series first introduces Bette Porter and Tina Kennard, a couple with a seven-year relationship who want to have a child. Tina eventually becomes pregnant through artificial insemination but has a miscarriage during episode 1.09: Luck, next time. Later in the series, Bette develops an affair with Candace Jewell, which Tina learns of during the season finale.
The pilot introduced a coming out/love triangle storyline involving Tina and Bette’s neighbor, Tim Haspel, his new-in-town girlfriend, Jenny Schecter, and Marina Ferrer. Marina is part of Tina and Bette’s circle of friends, and owns the neighborhood café, The Planet, which serves as the group's hang-out and focal point for the show. The season also introduces Shane McCutcheon, an androgynous, highly-sexual hairstylist and serial heart-breaker; Alice Pieszecki, a girly, bisexual journalist looking for love in any way she can, and Dana Fairbanks, a professional tennis player who is still in the closet and torn between pursuing her career and finding love. In the first season, Dana falls for a sous-chef named Lara Perkins whose sexuality is questioned by the group until Lara has an unexpected meeting with Dana in the locker room.
Season 2
Season 2 began airing on Showtime on February 20, 2005. It starts by unveiling to the viewers a secret Tina is keeping from everyone: she successfully became impregnated after a second insemination. Tina begins seeing Helena, while Bette’s life is portrayed as a wreck, with alcohol abuse, problems with her job, the death of her father in episode 2.12:L'Chaim, and being fired during the season finale. Tina and Bette reconcile during the final episode. The character of Marina was written out of the show, and the Planet was bought by Kit Porter.
Introduced in the second season are Carmen de la Pica Morales, a confident DJ who becomes part of a love triangle with Shane and Jenny; Helena Peabody, the daughter of a wealthy supporter of the arts who later becomes Tina's temporary love interest; and Mark Wayland, a documentary filmmaker who moves in with Shane and Jenny. Mark makes them part of his latest documentary by setting up hidden cameras in the house to videotape them. During episode 2.09: Late, Later, Latent, Jenny discovers Mark’s tapes and also discovers the truth about Carmen’s true love.
Season 2 introduces a developing affair between Alice and Dana, which becomes public in episode 2.07: Luminous. It also presents insights into Jenny’s past as an abused child in episode 2.11: Loud and Proud, and reveals episodes of self-mutilation that reach their climax in the season finale.
Season 3
Season 3 first aired on January 8, 2006. It begins six months after the birth of Tina and Bette's daughter, Angelica. Tina's and Bette's relationship as a couple is decaying. and finally ends when Tina begins a heterosexual relationship on episode 3.10:Losing the light The estrangement between the two leads to a climactic showdown over Angelica's custody.
New characters in this season include Moira Sweeney (a working class butch who is Jenny’s girlfriend for most of the season) and Angus Partridge, Angelica’s male nanny who later becomes Kit’s lover. [10] Sweeney starts the process of transitioning from female to male, switching his name to Max. Shane and Carmen's relationship (begun in season 2) leads Carmen to face her family and reveal her homosexuality to them in episode 3.09: Lead, follow or get out of the way. [11]
At the beginning of the season, Dana and Alice's relationship has ended and Alice is having a hard time dealing with it. Dana is back with Lara, but is diagnosed with cancer and dies in episode 3.10: Losing the light of heart failure. [9] Dana's death inspires Shane to ask Carmen to marry her; Carmen agrees, but in the season finale, Shane does not show up to the ceremony.
Helena's character storyline is switched from being Bette's rival into a new member of the circle of friends, paired mostly with Alice. During episode 3.01:Labia Majora she buys a film studio, [8] and later Tina begins to work for her. [12] Further in the season, Helena meets a documentary producer, Dylan Moreland, portrayed by Alexandra Hedison, with whom she has an affair. A sexual harassment lawsuit filed by Dylan during episode 3.09:Lead, follow or get out of the way[11], along with Helena’s prodigal behavior (Helena has given $10,000 to Shane's father Gabriel for the purpose of buying Shane a wedding present) puts her family business in jeopardy. During the season finale, Helena's mother Peggy (portrayed by Holland Taylor), cuts Helena off financially when she realizes that Helena cannot discriminate between people who are friends with her because of her money and people who are legitimately friends. Gabriel skips out with the money and a woman he has met at a bar inside the hotel where the group was staying for the wedding, triggering Shane to question whether she can commit to a relationship with Carmen.
Throughout this season, each episode begins with a short pre-credits vignette of two individuals meeting romantically or sexually. As the season progresses, lines from Alice's chart (see below) connect one member of each vignette with a new individual in the next. Beginning in the early 1970s with a housewife named Marilyn, these connections eventually wind through several of the series' main characters, showing scenes of their earlier lives until it ends with Lara, alone in Paris. A much older Marilyn is introduced in the season finale, showing once again the interconnectedness of all of their lives.
Season 4
Showtime announced renewal of the series, in a February 2, 2006, press release[13].
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On the heels of a year highlighted by industry recognition and critical acclaim for its award-winning original programming including Weeds, Huff and Sleeper Cell, Showtime has ordered a fourth season of its hit drama series The L Word, it was announced by Robert Greenblatt, President of Entertainment, Showtime Networks Inc.
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The season premiere of the fourth season, Legend in the Making, first aired on January 7, 2007.[14] The filming of the season's twelve episodes began in Vancouver, on May 29, 2006.[14].
Showtime picked up a fifth season of The L Word for 12 episodes, touting the show as "a signature franchise among our viewers". Production began in Vancouver the summer of 2007 and ended in Los Angeles early November 2007. The fifth season premiered on January 6, 2008, with episode "501 - LGB Tease"[19].
The 5th season led to the mysterious disappearance of Eva "Papi" Torres (Janina Gavankar), as well as the departures of Angus Patridge (who was dumped by Kit), and season four recurring guest stars Paige Sobel (portrayed by Kristanna Loken) and Kate Arden portrayed by Annabella Sciorra. An explanation on Papi’s disappearance has yet to be discussed on the show or by the writers/producers of “The L Word”.
Elizabeth Keener joined the show as entrepreneur Dawn Denbo, who started a rival lesbian bar with her lover Cindi.
Malaya Rivera Drew and Kate French were cast as guest characters for this season.[21] Malaya played Adele, a young fan of Jenny's work who gets hired as her personal assistant. Kate played Niki Stevens, an ambitious young actress who lands the lead role of Jenny's character, Jesse, in the movie production 'Lez Girls'.
Season 6
Showtime confirmed a sixth and final season for The L Word. Unlike the show's previous seasons, it only lasted 8 episodes to conclude with 70 episodes in total. Studio executives commented on the impressive longevity of the show, with the Showtime president of entertainment Robert Greenblatt saying that The L Word has "surpassed its niche as a gay show". The sixth season premiered on January 18th, 2009 and ended its original run on March 8th of the same year.[22]
Before airing the show, Creator Ilene Chaiken denied reports of socialite Paris Hilton guest starring on an interview on gaydarnation.com.[23] In July 2008, it was confirmed that Elizabeth Berkley would star in a multi-episode arc of the final season. She played Kelly Wentworth (neé Freemont), the straight girl that got away from Bette in college. Berkley and Beals are best friends in real life, having previously worked on the 2002 independent movieRoger Dodger.[24]
Producers and writers of The L Word took viewers' opinions regarding the final season’s episodes. The main story of the season is related to the death of Jennifer Schecter and the rest of the season is a flashback from that point. Other major storylines included a romantic relationship between Jenny and Shane beginning in the second episode, the disappearance of the 'Lez Girls' negative, and Max's pregnancy. Several former cast members and regular guest stars made appearances. The whereabouts of Eva 'Papi' Torres were revealed, to the satisfaction of many viewers. Besides the addition of Elizabeth Berkley to the guest cast, Mei Melançon also made guest appearances for the last season as Jamie Chen, a counselor from the L.A. Gay and Lesbian Youth Center who befriends Alice and Tasha and becomes their third-wheel crush.
Series creator Ilene Chaiken recently wrote and produced a 20 minutes presentation for a possible spin-off centering around women's prison in which Leisha Hailey's character Alice Pieszecki is detained. The project was shot in December 2008, while the sixth and final season of the L word premiered in January 2009. Famke Janssen, Melissa Leo and Laurie Metcalf were part of the cast.
Showtime's CEO Matthew Blank first announced plans for the new show at the Television Critics Association press tour in July 2008. "We're doing this interesting thing: The storyline at the end of The L Word, the final episode in the final season, there will be an open-ended component to it," Blank confirmed. "And Ilene is going to carry that story along on the Internet, which we think is an interesting way to keep The L Word experience going. Then if we decide to go ahead with the spin-off that storyline will segue into the new series".
Making time for a little romance could be good for your health, according to Dr. Michael Roizen with the Cleveland Clinic.
And, don't skip the sex!
"Humans maybe are the most sexual species of all," said Roizen.
He added, "Men who have sex three times a week have a 50 percent reduction in heart attacks and strokes, compared to their peers."
Women can benefit too, he said.
"For women, it's quality. So if you have high-quality sex, the amount of time you want it, it's two to eight years younger in both feeling, looking," said Roizen.
A good sex life also is healthy for the mind -- Roizen said for most people, boosting their romantic encounters from once a month to once a week is the happiness equivalent of getting a $50,000-a-year raise.
Iron Chef Cat Cora and Her Lesbian Partner Both Pregnant
Tuesday , March 10, 2009
The Iron Chef and her wife both have buns in their ovens.
Cat Cora, star of Food Network's "Iron Chef America," announced Tuesday that she was 4-1/2 months pregnant with a boy.
But this is where it gets interesting.
Cora's partner Jennifer, with whom she already has two sons, is also pregnant, and due in April, three months before Cora.
"Jennifer and I are thrilled to go through the wonderful experience of pregnancy together. We started the in-vitro process 5 years ago," said Cora, who is due in July. "This has been a miracle for us and we'll now have 4 beautiful children."
But we're not done. It gets even more interesting.
Cora is carrying Jennifer's biological child. And their second child, now 23 months old, was conceived using Cora's egg, but carried by Jennifer.
In Jennifer's current pregnancy, both women's embryos were implanted, so they don't know who the biological mother is, and they say they don't plan on doing DNA testing to find out.
The same anonymous sperm donor was used for all four pregnancies, making all four kids biologically related.
It takes two to tango. But lately, only one of you would like to dance. Either your sexual advances are getting rejected, or you're the one who is doing the rejecting.
Low or no desire is one of the most common sexual disorders around, and it can happen to anyone — male or female — at any point in life.
Given the shopping list of reasons for diminished or inhibited sexual desire, it’s practically guaranteed that you will experience it at some point. So what are these culprits sabotaging your carnal pursuits? And what can you do to dance around them?
Consider this column your quick guide to low libido. Whether you're looking to prevent or reverse this disorder, I’m here to help.
First off, you need to recognize the reasons that your love-light has stopped burning. Determine if your situation is long-term or short-term. Figure out if you need outside help.
Besides “no honey, not tonight,” one major sign that you’ve lost your mojo is that people, situations, or things you’d normally find erotic are no longer arousing. Sex starts to feel more like an obligation. And if you’re not in the know about this matter, you may find yourself feeling unhappy, distressed or “abnormal.”
It’s important to take a holistic look not just at your sex life, but at your whole life when trying to get to the heart of this matter. Some situations can involve more than one factor, especially those where both partners are experiencing low or no desire. So we’re going to examine the physical, psychological, and relational issues that can affect your game.
Physical Reasons
Examine your overall health. Are you in poor health or suffering from physical problems? Even convalescence — that time of gradual recovery after sickness — can leave you too worn out to woo. Other reasons related to the physical include:
— Feeling stressed, overworked, or exhausted.
— Nutritional deficits, like low zinc.
— A poor diet, like consuming too few calories or having a diet high in fat.
— Being overweight.
— Having a hormone deficiency, such as low testosterone.
— Alcohol, drug, and/or nicotine use.
— Medications, such as antidepressants or the contraceptive pill.
— Being pregnant or having recently given birth.
— Mother Nature, such as aging or genetics.
— Struggling with infertility issues.
Psychological Reasons
Consider your state of being when it comes to your mental health. Are you experiencing emotional distress of some kind? These may include:
— Depression.
— Stress and/or anxiety.
— Feeling emotionally shut down in general.
— Mourning the passing of a loved one, including pets.
— Unhappiness with yourself, your partner, and/or your relationship.
— The effects of having been sexually traumatized or abused.
Here is where you also want to ponder over issues that may be related to the above and your willingness to get busy in the bedroom. Ask yourself:
— Am I grappling with low self-esteem or poor sexual self-esteem?
— Am I feeling inadequate in bed, or feeling like prior poor sexual performance is coming back to haunt me?
— Do I feel unable to please my partner?
— Are body image issues making me feel undesirable or not sexual as a human being?
— Do I have adverse feelings about sex?
Relational Reasons
Intimacy stressors can also come from the relationship itself. Lovers, like those coming off of the high of their honeymoon, may feel reality settling in when it comes to sex. Their unrealistic fantasies about their partner and/or the relationship are coming to an end and they’re realizing that maintaining passion involves work. Other relationship issues include:
— Boredom in the bedroom or sexual apathy.
— Having or being an unskilled lover.
— A lack of communication or poor communication
— Relationship dynamics, such as a fear of revealing your vulnerabilities.
— Being no longer sexually attracted to your partner or vice versa.
— Persistent hassles and conflicts with your partner — related to sex or not — that are causing feelings of anger or resentment.
— Being in a physically and/or emotionally abusive relationship.
Is it Long-Term vs. Short-Term?
Before you do anything else, stop, take a breath, and listen to your body. Is something out of balance? What needs attention? What do you want to have happen? What is going on in the outside world that can be affecting what goes on in your sexual world? When considering that last question, think about the following:
— Is this issue temporary? Your sex drive can rebound once a difficult or exciting time is over. Stress and fatigue can occur around events like starting a new job or overwork and are two of the most common reasons for low or no sexual desire.
— Think about which issues can be “easily” remedied and made temporary. Some may be resolved by making sex a priority. Try hiring a babysitter for a regular date night. Others involve taking care of yourself — try walking 20 minutes a day or starting a yoga routine to lower your stress levels. Still others are best resolved in educating yourself about better sex and pleasuring.
Seeking Professional Help
Even when an issue is temporary, you need to determine which ones are within your control and which ones will require professional help. Getting to the bottom of chronic low or no sexual desire involves, as you just learned, sorting through a number of issues. That in itself can require professional help.
Start with a physician to rule out any physical causes, tackle physical ailments or needs, or manage the effects of natural life experiences like menopause.
A certified sex therapist or counselor can provide further assistance on psychological or relational issues that affecting your sex life.
The French use the term “élan vital,” for “life force” or “joy in living,” to coin sexual desire. Your sexual desire is linked to your sense of self, the quality of your relationships, and your quality of life. Hopefully, you’re on your way to taking care of all of it.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
First, let me start off with gay marriage. Planning a lesbian wedding, who should make up the guest list? The butch or the femme? That was the important question that pondered the poor sad inner circle lesbians last night.
There is going to be a wedding in April. A big fancy wedding, but it seems that not all the inner circle is invited. Strange. In order, to get in, you need a special invite; which is normal for all the parties the "Groom" has at her house.
But, this party is special. Yes, yes, WE CAN'T GET MARRIED, but it's still important.
Will the inner circle get dissed and not be invite to the wedding? If they are not invited, will they still be the "Groom's" friend?
I don't care if I get invited or not. But, if I did get invite, should I do a strip show as usual?
All these questions with no answers. I hate this.
There was a fight at the Cash. But, I have another character to the list. Crazy Black Girl.
Remember, I am black and native, so I'm not being racist, she is a CRAZY BLACK GIRL.
If you want more info, listen to Happy Valentine's Day. I will give you a follow up of want happy when CRAZY BLACK GIRL strikes again with her mouth.
She will remain a virgin lesbian if she doesn't shut up or she should just pay for the sex.
I went out a date tonight with the girl Black Red. That will be her name. She is pale white and acts so black. She even puts me to shame, meaning she is more black than me. I like that because that's a good because it is a good balance. I like her a lot.
Today, we went to dinner and movie at one time. It was cool. We saw Benjamin Button, the Brad Pitt movie.
We love it. At the movie, I was thinking about hold her hand. Yes, thinking about it to show her so much I like her, but I didn't. I suck with making the first move with someone I like.
It's so funny to me. I don't care about going up to a woman and making my sexual moves on a woman. I sleep with a woman within a month and then she leaves or I let her go.
This girl is different. First, she is not a woman that I would date. She doesn't have the latin favor, the long hair or wants to go to bed on the first or second date.
I like her alot. She makes me stable and she's a good friend. I can easily talk to her about anything and love to hear her stories.
I don't know what have gotten into me, but I really like her.
What is being gay? What is gay? Gay is a old term for happy. Now, gay means a person loves the same sex. I am gay. I am happy. I am not straight.
It's amazing how people look at themselves in the mirror and they know what they are. See, I am black and native american. I know this because of my family history, body features and skin color. From my friends standpoint, I was raised "white"; which is true. The girl that I am dating is more black than I am and she is pale white with red hair.
But, what makes a person gay? Some say, you are born with it or you become it because the world said so.
Honestly, I don't know. I know this, I was born this way. I have one biological aunt and three cousins who are gay. I'm the only cute one.
Am I proud that I'm gay? When I'm with my friends and at the clubs, I'm happy that I'm gay. But, when gay reality sets in, I wish I was not or dead.
Being a Lesbian, is Not like "The L Word". I was raised with the mindset, "Homosexuality is sinful and God hates homosexuals". When I came to realizes my aunt was gay, I could not speak to her again.
In our world, gays and lesbians can't get married legally. Why? Because it's not proper. Years ago, blacks couldn't get married to each together and, whites and blacks couldn't get married because it was not proper.
Being gay is not a lifestyle or something to do, it's life. Kissing another woman or men having sex with one another is normal to me. I don't think anything bad about it.
For my family sake, I wish I was normal meaning straight, but I can't.
I have a best friend named Andre. I asked him, do you think, I can become straight? He told me, "No, it can't happen".
I'm not gay because I hate men or abuse. I am gay because I am me.
I have gone out with men before. I was even promised to a my mother's bestfriend's son. The men I dated, had connections and were successful. I just couldn't see myself being married to them. I even thought, "If I had sex with a man, how do I have sex with a man?I do it". It was so foreign to me, but I knew in order to please people, I have to marry a man, even if I couldn't deal with it.
I did have a best friend who is a man named Brian Lee. I still love him down to this day. I don't know where he is, but he told me to be who God wanted me to be. I thank God for him everyday. Without him, I would be here is a sane state today.
Recently, my family wanted me to see a psychiatrist to make me straight. I have to see a Christan psychiatrist. So, that way I asking myself, what makes a person gay or straight? What makes a person accept themselves for them?
I was raised in a good upper middle class area, I was raised white with black and native parents. I was not raised in the hood. So, what makes me black?
In this world, we focus to much on stereotypes, instead of the person.
For example, I have a very very good friend who is older than I am. I would never NEVER sleep with her because she is not my type and we will kill each other. I told a family member about her and they think, that she made me gay because older woman prey on straight younger women.
The old story about Sodom and Gomorrah comes all the time against our world. Gay people are these sex driven crazy people who spread STDs. I know some straight people who are sex driven just like everyone else. So what is the different between gay or straight person.
I have been thinking about this. I am going to find out what it means to be straight. I am going straight, just to see why society does not like gay people or doesn't feel that they should have to right to get married.
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These are my picks, not necessarily
in this order, of the best lesbian movies of all time. These films,
videos and DVDs all have central lesbian or bisexual themes.
This
is one of the first lesbian movies released to mainstream audiences.
Set in Reno in the 1950s, a beautiful casino worker falls in love with
an older professor.
But
I'm A Cheerleader has to be the funniest lesbian love story of all
time. Natasha Lyonne and Clea Duvall star with Ru Paul (not in drag) as
two young women who meet at a homosexual rehabilitation camp.
A
sweet story of two high school girls from opposite sides of the tracks
who fall in love. Randy works at the gas station and lives with her
lesbian aunt and her lover. Evie drives a Range Rover and is one of the
most popular girls in school. When they fall in love, all hell breaks
loose.
Political,
sexy, funny and a great sound track. This movie has it all. Maggie's
mom shows up unexpectedly right as she's about to make her move on a
new love interest. Maybe this would be a good time to come out?
Sick
of dating guys, Jessica answers a woman-seeking-woman ad. She meets
sexy Helen, who is also bi-curious. They hit it off. Now if they can
only overcome Jessica's neurotic nervousness about being with a woman.
The
girl is out there. When Max meets nerdy Ely, it's hardly
love-at-first-sight. But maybe first impressions aren't everything! A
low-budget movie made by women, Go Fish offers a peek into the lives of
a group of women looking for love and community.
Released
in 1987 to rave reviews, this film introduces quirky Polly as a Girl
Friday whose life is changed when she gets a job at an art museum and
is intrigued by the curator.
Originally
an HBO special, If These Walls Could Talk 2 is one of the best
representations of lesbians in movies thus far. Staring Sharon Stone,
Ellen DeGeneres, Chloe Sevigny and Vanessa Redgrave ITWCT2 offers a
glimpse into the lives of lesbians in the 60s, 70s and 2000.
D.E.B.S., Crime Fighting Hotties with Killer Bodies
Amen. Can you imagine if the FBI or CIA was described in this way?
How many people would join? Or feign needing help? It's every girl's
fantasy. Save me! Save me!
Whether you're thinking of moving, or just want a
lesbian-friendly city to visit, these cities and and towns are our top
lesbian cities in the United States.
1. Northampton, Massachusetts
Dubbed as "Lesbianville U.S.A." by the The National Enquirer
in 1992, Northampton, MA is the best city in America for lesbians. The
Northampton area has always been a great place to live, and because
gays and lesbians can get legally married in Massachusetts, it tops our
list. Northampton is a small town, but because of the numerous
universities, including Smith College, Northampton has all the cultural
offerings of a big city.
If
Northampton is Lesbianville of the East, Portland is Lesbianville of
the West. Lesbians flock to Portland for the same reasons straights do,
it's a great place to live. Among other distinctions, Portland was
rated the Best Walking City and Best Bicycling City in America.
Although voters passed an anti-gay marriage law last year, Portland
residents lean more to the left than the rest of the state. Add a great
music scene and plenty of lesbian hangouts to the mix.
San
Francisco must be the gayest city on earth. And it's not just the boys
who find home here. Whether you're a young, politcal dyke or gender
queer or a six-figure power lesbian, San Francisco can't be beat. Take
a stroll in Golden Gate Park or shop for wedding bands in the Castro.
With one of the nation's best domestic partnership rulings and child
protection laws, San Francisco is also a great place to raise a family.
The
largest city in the world is a mecca for lesbians. Brooklyn's Park
Slope neighborhood is where the sapphic sisters of New York tend to
congregate, but the city that never sleeps has something for lesbians
of every age, political persuasion and background in all of its
borroughs. From the classic Rubyfruit bar to esoteric performance art
in Soho. Whether you want to visit the home of gay rights Stonewall
Riots or if Riot GRRL is more your scene, New York City is the place
for you.
Atlanta
is the queer capital of the South. And one of the nation's most
diverse. Whether you want to dance your feet off at My Sister's Room
lesbian bar or spend a leisurly afternoon at Outwrite gay and lesbian
bookstore. With one of the nation's largest gay pride parades, gay film
festival and numerous other cultural events, you'll understand why they
call this "Hot-lanta."
I
will be talking about the divisions in the lesbian community. Instead
of black or white, it's butch or femme. I will tell you how Arizona
deals with it. I also going to talk something I did; which I should
never did.
How I view the straight world as a Lesbian. I talk about the life in
Lesbian World and how I see it. I am a Republican lesbian that talks
about politics, the media, the news and my life. We live a colorful
life and I talk about it.
How I view the straight world as a Lesbian. I talk about the life in
Lesbian World and how I see it. I am a Republican lesbian that talks
about politics, the media, the news and my life. We live a colorful
life and I talk about it.
Hello my clubbers. I went to the club tonight. I didn't want to go, but my friend was having a birthday party, so I went and crazy things happen. On the Happy Valentines Day podcast, I talked about this girl, who I was interest in. Well, she was on a date with my friend; which it cool. But, this is the thing, she's a Republican like me. I was so shocked because it's hard to find a Lesbian Republican. Plus, she is Conservative, love Sarah Palin and Glen Beck. OMG. We talked for a long time, while my friend (who was her date) just listened in confusion. We decided to be friends and leave it as that.
Two of my booty calls where there. One was with a date; which it should be and the other was making sure was by her side, the hold time. I hate that. You know, when you are in a relationship and you didn't know it. I just sleep with her twice, that was it. I told her that I can be her girl toy for a day when we are together, but it's clear, we don't have anything in common. only sharing body fluids.
I spoke to one of the Lesbian Virgins a friend wanted me to break in. She's not the crazy one from the Happy Valentines Day podcast. I like her as a friend and I told her to careful. I know, I just score some points with God tonight. I told her about my friend and I little game and she was happy that I told her. I definitely built a trust with her and she's now part of the inner circle. Yes, I did get the phone number.
So, the AZ Shane was there. Yes, she was. Oh, this is so funny. Tonight, I was wearing one of my sexy dresses for my friend's birthday party and plus my high high stripper heels. AZ Shane saw me and she knew me. I thought that was funny because half of the time, she doesn't want to know me or I'm a new person to her. See, I have been knowing the AZ Shane for seven months and know some of her secrets. But, tonight was funny. Why? She was hitting on me and I didn't care. SHE WAS NOT THAT SPECIAL!!!!!!! She tried to dance with me and I was dancing with someone else. And no, I didn't go home with her. She's garbage thinking she's diamond. NOPE. NOPE. How can you lead someone on, just to sleep with them. See, I tell my booty calls up front, this is how it's going to be, now if you don't like the arrangement, you can leave.
Tonight, I just wanted to stay home, but I have to tell you this. I was happy to go out.
I stood near the dance and watched the women dance. It was amazing. People don't like us or don't understand us and our lifestyle. But, when you go to a Lesbian or Gay bar you see peace. Yes, you'll have the drama, but that's what keeps life alive. In a club, you see peace, connections, relationships and marriages. People just having a good time, like at the moment they are on a drug and the problems of life just floated away. It's a high to be with your own people. Being with your own people helps you deal with the challenges, pain and happiness. It's just so beautiful and loving.
As, I looked at the women in the club, I felt I was in heaven because of the family Drama I just went through. These people around me, understand me. This is want acceptance is all about. Accepting who you are. It just make you free.
FOXSexpert: Is Having a Sugar Daddy Kind of Like Being a Prostitute?
Thursday , February 19, 2009
By Yvonne K. Fulbright
Is it prostitution?
That is the reaction many people have when they hear about the increase in women signing up for “sugar daddy” Web sites, such as sugardaddyforme.com.
The reason: In exchange for maintaining a sexual relationship with wealthy men, girls receive airline tickets, expensive Manhattan apartments and monthly allowances. What’s this all about? And do these set-ups boil down to prostitution?
Assessing the situation involves looking at three major components at play:
1. The economy — Given the global financial crisis, people are looking for more economic security. Being “kept” is a more attractive option than ever.
2. Pop culture — TV shows like “The Real Housewives of Orange County” have made these arrangements more visible. They’ve given the illusion that these lifestyles are mainstreamed, so women feel they have been given permission to act like these “characters.” The women featured on TV are not only glamorized, but “normalize” such a relationship on a national scale.
3. Tradition — These arrangements have always been around. It’s not unheard of for European men in high-powered positions to have mistresses – something that has been going on worldwide for centuries. "Sugary" Web sites just cut to the chase in a quicker manner.
One also needs to consider who can afford to be a sugar daddy these days. Before the economic crisis, history had never seen so many millionaires. More men had bigger wallets, so a sugar daddy could be any well-to-do man. But lately, such relationships are no longer reserved for the Hugh Hefners of the world. Their inaccessible fantasy realm has become every wealthy man’s reality.
Despite being married with kids, successful men want to have cake and eat it too. They want sex. They want to feel young. They want dating without the drama. So they turn to these Web sites.
While people wonder if the sugar babies have been coerced into such relationships, given the power dynamics, they’re willing participants in all of this. These women are basically willing to “sell” themselves for material goods, designer labels and a lifestyle they think everyone envies.
It’s easy to regard these mistresses as prostitutes or escorts ... until you consider that every sexual relationship has an economic component. Every couple barters to a certain extent in their give and take, gains and losses.
To determine if these women are sex workers, we need to consider their motives. Do they go into the relationship ready to swap sex immediately for money and lavish goods? Does the relationship end, or even begin, if there is no sex? How long have the two been seeing each other before the gift-giving begins? After all, some affairs evolve into mistress situations over time.
Regardless of what they can be called, most women in these situations are setting themselves up for disappointment. The movie “Pretty Woman” is just that — a movie. And even if that scenario does happen in real life, it’s a rare exception to the rule. These situations have to end at some point.
These days, even sugar daddies are feeling the pinch of the economic downturn, and they are tightening their expenditures. In hard times, people are trying to find meaning in their lives, and figure out what matters most as they plan their next steps.
For those thinking about a sugar-anything situation (yes, there are rich sugar mamas who lavish male sugar babies), follow suit with such self-reflection. In other words, be careful what you wish for.
And at the end of the day, most people wouldn’t want to be in your Jimmy Choo shoes. If you talk to people who are minimalists, those who value real relationship qualities instead of money, and who could care less about having a high-end lifestyle, the joke is on you. You have nothing to be desired, especially when you consider the lack of self-sufficiency.
A sad, but true reality in this world is that you never have anyone but yourself to rely on. All of us need to be self-sufficient, no matter what kind of intimate relationship we’re in.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder ofSexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
Actor, a Chris Brown supporter, was once nabbed for beating wife
FEBRUARY 17--After Chris Brown's arrest for assaulting his girlfriend
Rihanna, the actor Terrence Howard chose to salute the alleged
batterer. "It's just life, man. Chris is a great guy. He'll be
alright," said Howard. "And Rihanna knows he loves her, you know?
They'll be alright." Though Howard would later apologize for his
remarks, the star's own rap sheet offers an explanation as to why he
would jump to the side of an accused domestic abuser. Police and court
records reveal that Howard, 39, was once arrested for a similar crime,
the details of which have not been previously reported. The actor, who
co-starred in "Iron Man" and was nominated in 2006 for an Academy Award
for his role in "Hustle & Flow," was arrested by Pennsylvania cops
in September 2001 for assaulting his estranged wife. According to a Whitemarsh Police Department report,
after Howard and Lori McCommas argued on the phone, the actor warned,
"Don't disrespect me by hanging up on me or I'll come over and hurt
you." McCommas then "hung up and contacted 911 fearing Howard was
serious." While McCommas was speaking with a police dispatcher, Howard
"showed up at the victim's residence and began breaking the door down."
McCommas ran to the rear of the house and into the backyard. Howard
then "broke the front door down and ran through the screen door in the
kitchen. Howard then grabbed the victim's left arm and punched her
twice with a closed fist in the left side of the face." The attack was
broken up by Howard's brother, who responded to McCommas's house after
he "saw Howard storm out of their house to go to the victim's house."
When a Whitemarsh cop responded to the scene, Howard admitted, "I broke
the door down and hit my wife." A second officer noted there was "fresh
damage to the front door and marks on the victim's face and arm from
being struck." Police evidence photos show the damage Howard did to the doors in McCommas's residence. After being charged with a variety of crimes
(simple assault, terroristic threats, harassment and stalking), Howard
subsequently pleaded guilty in 2002 to disorderly conduct. The actor is
pictured below in a Whitemarsh Police Department mug shot. (7 pages)
I when out on a date tonight. I just got home. I will be talking about on a podcast, tomorrow. Stay tune. It's amazing as always.
By the way, I'll also be talking about my mother. DRAMA. DRAMA.....
I want to know about your family drama. Please share with the rest of us because you never know, you may help someone in our family. Leave a comment, please.
Plus tomorrow is a separate podcast, I will be talking about divisions in the GLBT life.
Thank you for all of your support and love. I love all of you. You know it.
Dating is a crazy business. I have dated alot of women, old and young. The problem with dating is, it gets old. You have to go through the ritual of looking pretty, laughing and trying to be yourself. Sometimes the ritual last for one month to six months or longer.
After the first month, you get comfortable and sometimes s--- happens. In the Lesbian World, we have what you call the Uhaul. After one date and one romp in the bed, two lovely women start to live together as wives in this straight world.
Sometimes this practice leads to marriage or someone gets locked out of the house. It happens. Two of my friends did the Uhaul ritual and they are perfectly happy and at peace.
For me, I almost did the Uhaul with a girl, but thank God I didn't. But, I am trying to find the perfect wife for me. Yeah, I'm the female and I want my Fem Butch by my side. But, it is hard for me and I don't know what to do.
Some of my friends call me the Once - A - Month girl because I have a new girl once a month. I do like the attention, but I want to steady relationship with a girl that will accept me for me. I don't want someone to insult me and think I am completely helpless without her. I just want a helper and a best friend that I can rely on through the good and the bad times. I don't need a mother.
In Church, the pastor was talking about addictions. Yes, I am an addict. My addiction is sex and bad relationships. I hate my addictions, believe me, I do. They have gotten me into bad deals.
Like a booty with a lesbian virgin who wish, I could drop dead. Insulting the ex-girlfriend and feeling bad for it. Paying a game with my friends, by looking out for the lesbian virgins. And other things.
Now, don't get me wrong, for the time being, it's fun, but at the end you feel alone.
I went on a date yesterday. The woman was cool. I enjoyed her company, but I am afraid. I know, this may sound crazy, but I am. I don't know what to do. I want to do everything right, but what is right or wrong? The last real relationship, I had hurt me to the bone and I didn't have my own life anymore. I was just a shell of a person being controlled by a woman, I didn't what to piss off. With her, I was not myself. My joy was gone, but I thought this was what a real relationship was all about.
I had to go to a Life Coach for help.
Some of my friends and even my close friend, had told me, I will never be with a woman for more then six months, the max. I want to prove them wrong, but how?
I want to be with someone that knows the real me and what I can bring into the relationship.
The once a month thing works, but it does it old and boring, like insulting my ex for pleasure. It was fun for a while, but it got so wrong.
I still love her, but she is so wrong for me. Maybe that's why, I like the once a month thing. You don't have to be attach to anyone, only yourself.
I trying to learn about attachments, but it's hard when you have to trust someone. I can't even trust my own mother, so trust is a big thing for me.
This may sound sick, but some people wanted to have sex with me because of the color of my skin. They want to be down with the President or black people. But, there is so much more to me then the color of my skin.
Sometimes, I make myself into an one dimensional human instead of the 3-D version. I am more interesting being this person then my 3-D self. It's like, I don't know my true self anymore. Who am I? I am just shell of a person that needs a woman, who can make me real again.
Today, Obama is in town. He's staying at a hotel in Scottsdale. He's planning to speak at a Mesa High School.
You know, life is so surreal. Could anyone believe that we could have a Black President.
We are living in exciting and insane times, today. I was talking to a friend about the future.
When our parents were young, they knew about the future. It a job and work there for 30 years, get married, have children and retire with a pension, social security and health care. Our grandparents and parents lives were map out for them with no worries about the future. The only worries, I think they thought was race, women rights and having an open mind.
Today, this generation doesn't even know if we can retire. I probably will be working a job at 70 or 80 years old for the health care and money. My social security will be a 1.00 a month and eating cat food because that is all I can afford.
What is happening to America? The land of the free and mighty.
Now, banks are getting bailed out and we don't have a clue about the future; which makes people scared and confused, with no hope.
It seems that we need to create hope in our own mind for the sake of peace and well being.
In church, we talked about loving ourselves and loving who were are. I don't care if you are straight or not. You need to love yourself first before you can love another person.
If we can't love ourselves, we will try to find that person, so we can have love. We will try to control that person and force that person to love us, until they leave us without a goodbye.
I am learning love myself and what my parents call a disease. I love my disease because it is me.
So, go into a private place, think and create a peace place in your mind. Feel the love in your heart and soul. Accept yourself for who YOU ARE, not what society want you to be. If society knew what was best for us, we would not have problems we have know.
Hello everyone. I downloaded American Idol and I am watching the Hollywood group songs. So much drama, but I have drama of my own. Yes, I do.
I told my ex that I was so sorry to treat her mean. Yes, I did do it. I did it over txting. I love txting because you can tell someone off without hearing there voice.
The ex from the longest relationship, yes, she still have a place in my heart for her, but I can't her.
I finally told her, that I don't care about her new house or anything she does. But, I just don't care. Seriously. I am so done with her.
I went to my psychic today, yes, I have one. The funny thing is, my psychic told my about my ex. My psychic warned my about her temper and other things about her.
I did a podcast called "Bitch Please" and it was about her. Because whenever, she gets something new or a has a new girlfriend, she would txt message me to rub it in my face. I just don't care, anymore. You know.
I did find out about someone. She is no longer with the inner group anymore. I don't know why, but I will find out. The woman is question, she is looking bad lately.
Tomorrow, is the Love Day; which Hallmark made. I don't have no love or booty call for tomorrow. I hope you guys will have some type of love.
I will be at the clubs. First, I will be at Hot Flash because my friend's birthday will be tomorrow and then I will be wearing my red bra for the Vibe.
States, Low-Income Americans to Feel Impact of Stimulus First
The $790 billion stimulus plan would quickly send money to people with low income and help prop up cash-strapped state budgets, economists say, and dole out money over the long term to infrastructure projects.
By Judson Berger
FOXNews.com
Friday, February 13, 2009
Republicans cried foul over early versions of the bill after budget estimates showed hundreds of billions of dollars would be spent over the next several years.
But while some spending will likely take place well after President Obama's first term, estimates show the bulk of the stimulus will be injected into the economy over the next 18 months.
And economists say cash-strapped states and low-income Americans will feel the benefit almost immediately.
"The stuff that's going to go out real quickly is stuff like unemployment benefits," said James Horney, director of federal fiscal policy at the Center on Budget and Policy Priorities. "It's just a matter of how quickly they can reprogram computers to add that benefit."
The $787 billion compromise package includes:
$40 billion to provide extended unemployment benefits through Dec. 31 and increase them by $25 a week.
$20 billion to increase food stamp benefits by 14 percent.
$14 billion for one-time $250 payments to Social Security recipients and veterans receiving disability and pensions.
These kinds of cash injections are considered high "bang for the buck" payments, since the recipients are unlikely to put the money in savings.
"People who are incredibly cash-strapped are going to be spending what they get right away," said Josh Bivens, an economist at the Economic Policy Institute. "These are people who go paycheck-to-paycheck, so it goes right back into the economy."
Economists say the impact could be felt in a matter of a few months. And the same is true for states that will be receiving billions of dollars in federal aid.
Bivens said that while the states might not be appropriating money immediately, the very fact that local governments know the money is coming means they can forego layoffs that would have been necessary to balance their budgets.
In doing so, the states save jobs and prevent more people from filing for unemployment benefits. They also can prevent other budget cuts from being as deep as they would have been.
The next tier of benefits would likely be the signature income tax reduction. Under the plan individuals would see a $400 tax credit and couples would see an $800 tax credit starting around June. The savings would amount to about $13 a week, so the money is not expected to surge through the economy immediately.
The same holds true for infrastructure spending. Though lawmakers like to tout the impact of so-called "shovel-ready" projects, few construction sites are prepared to spend the money immediately.
"The infrastructure really is going to be spread more over the next two and a half years," Horney said.
The recovery package contains $46 billion for transportation projects, including $27 billion for highway and bridge construction and repair.
But many of those projects will involve clearing bureaucratic hurdles, as well as opening bids for contractors.
That longer timeline is not necessarily a bad thing, economists say. Even when recessions end, unemployment usually lags behind, so infrastructure spending could help prop up the job market before and during that recovery period.
Jeffrey Kling, a senior fellow and economist at the Brookings Institution, said some construction projects are in fact through the planning stages and just waiting on the money to build. He said the longest-term impact could be seen in certain education and energy spending, where departments will likely be overwhelmed with funding and need time to manage its distribution.
Both stimulus supporters and economists are trying to manage expectations for the economic recovery package.
"It's a plan that will ignite spending by businesses and consumers, make the investments necessary for lasting economic growth and prosperity and save or create more than 3.5 million jobs over the next two years," Obama told The Business Council Friday (though there is some debate over the jobs creation estimate).
But he added: "This work will not be easy. Our recovery will likely be measured in years and not months."
"Nobody should think the economy's going to turn around on a dime as a result of this," Horney said. "They need to be reasonable about their expectations."
Octuplets doctor has another patient expecting quadruplets
The patient, who is in her late 40s, wanted one baby. Dr. Michael Kamrava transferred at least seven embryos to her. She is now hospitalized without insurance.
By Kimi Yoshino, Jessica Garrison and Alan Zarembo
February 13, 2009
A few months after Dr. Michael Kamrava helped Nadya Suleman become pregnant with octuplets, he transferred at least seven embryos to another patient.
She was in her late 40s and wanted just one baby.
Now she's five months pregnant with quadruplets and hospitalized at Los Angeles County-USC Medical Center, according to several sources familiar with the situation.
The new case could add to concerns about Kamrava's practice and about whether the fertility industry needs more regulation.
In fertility medicine, any pregnancy greater than twins is considered a poor outcome because of the danger it poses to the mother and the babies. Quadruplet births are rare, with an average of 14 sets born in California each year, according to state records.
"Historically, we have been very hesitant to regulate anything close to procreation from parents making judgments about how many children they will have and when," said Kirk O. Hanson, ethics professor and executive director of the Markkula Center for Applied Ethics at Santa Clara University.
"However, that worked under a natural process of fertilization and incubation. There are serious questions about whether it works in an era of scientifically enhanced procreation."
The woman in the latest case arrived recently at Good Samaritan Hospital in Los Angeles for unspecified treatment but was transferred last week to County-USC Medical Center because she lacks insurance. Doctors placed her on bed rest until the birth of the babies, which could be two or three months from now.
The California Medical Board has said it is looking into the octuplets' case to determine whether a doctor may have violated any standards of care.
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine, which has guidelines limiting the number of embryos that can be transferred depending on the woman's age and other circumstances, said it is also examining the doctor's practice. No laws govern this issue.
The guidelines allow for the transfer of more embryos in older women. But in this case, the woman was using embryos made from eggs donated by a woman in her late 20s -- which fertility specialists said increased the possibility of a multiple birth.
"I do think it is concerning, and dangerous, especially to the mother. She is close to 50. When women get to be that age, our fear is the cardiovascular complications, such as stroke or heart attack. That's how serious this is," said Dr. John Jain, a fertility specialist with knowledge of the case.
Reached by telephone, the woman did not confirm that Kamrava is her doctor. However, The Times has verified the information through several independent sources.
She said her doctors urged her not to talk to the media because she is already dealing with a high-risk pregnancy and doesn't need more stress.
"Please respect my privacy," she said, adding that her circumstances are much different from Suleman's.
The woman has three grown children from a previous marriage but wanted another child with her second husband, who is in his early 30s and doesn't have any children, sources said. She works as an apartment manager; her husband is a contractor.
She started fertility treatments seeking one baby, but after becoming pregnant with quadruplets, declined medical advice to reduce the number of fetuses, the sources said.
Kamrava could not be reached for comment and has declined previous interview requests. A woman who answered the phone at his West Coast IVF Clinic said: "If [a] mother wants to bring four kids, so what?"
Doctors at County-USC and Good Samaritan Hospital also declined to comment, citing patient confidentiality.
Suleman said in an interview with NBC that her doctor transferred six embryos. She gave birth Jan. 26, and although the births were initially celebrated as a medical miracle, public opinion quickly turned when it was discovered that Suleman had six other children, was a single mother and was relying on some public assistance, including food stamps and Social Security benefits.
Los Angeles police said Thursday that they are investigating death threats made against Suleman and her publicist.
Join us at Boycott this
Saturday night for the Cupid Shuffle Valentine's Day party! Wear a RED
bra to signify that you are single and looking for love and wear a
BLACK bra if you are off the market, but still looking to party like a
rock star! Either way, red or black, get in for free before 11:00.
So, bring as many people as you can find and play all night long with
the gorgeous ladies of Boycott. As always, our go-go dancers will be
out in FULL FORCE showing everyone what lust is ALL about. Drink
specials will be going on all night long...don't forget about $1 Hot
Lips Shots all night! COME EARLY SO THAT YOU CAN GET IN FOR FREE!!
It's going to be CRAZY this weekend at Boycott!
Don't forget that Friday night, as always, we have
two-for-one drinks until MIDNIGHT! And, shot specials allllll night
long. Come out Friday night to warm up for Saturday night! Looking
forward to seeing you there ;-)
Hello everyone. I'm under the weather today, but I have been reading the news. The entertainment world really raised awareness of domestic violence.
I was reading stories about the Chris Brown and Rihanna fight that happened on Sunday.
On thing is strange, but not unusual as Kim Gandy the President of NOW said. On the MTV website, "Blaming the victim has gone on as long as I can remember, both in
sexual assault and domestic violence. When I started working on domestic-violence
issues in the 1970s, women would not come forward because they knew
they would be blamed, no matter how blameless they knew they were.
Maybe they hadn't ironed his shirt right, or burned the toast, or 'done
something' to justify being beaten."
I believe this statement is true, but it should not be. Violence is violence. Today, I was watching Jerry Springer, people go on there to fight. We, (the public), enjoy watching the white and black trash of America fighting on stage. Now, I don't know if the fighting on the show is stage real or fake, but it is still entertaining. The problem is, when does violence become less entertaining?
Sad. What type of world are we living in? I have to admit, I do like hockey (I'm a black girl), a little bit of boxing and brunch of other things.
In real life, people should not hit other people, period.
I was looking up some information on domestic violence and other women rights.
For information on Women's rights go to: http://www.womenslaw.org/
Thursday (Feb. 12) we will celebrate the 200th birthdays of both Abraham Lincoln and Charles Darwin. The parallels in their lives provide valuable insight for the Presbyterian Church USA, which embarks this week on a major process of inquiry into the place of gay marriage and civil unions in the church and in the country.
The parallels in Lincoln's and Darwin's lives are also useful for the rest of a nation, which remains as bitterly divided over issues of homosexuality as we are about creation and evolution, and as we once were over human slavery. Lincoln and Darwin were two great men whose visions and life work ultimately served humanity but polarized people enormously.
Lincoln was right, both about the need to come together as a single nation and not just a collection of states, and about the need to end slavery. But he took America, perhaps needlessly, into the bloodiest war we ever fought and only arrived at his views about the evils of slavery late in the game.
Darwin was right, too. At the very least, he developed an approach about how life grows and differentiates that inspired generations of cutting-edge scientific inquiries. But, like Lincoln, his views created a bloody cultural war in which we remain fully engaged.
Both Lincoln and Darwin were much more complex than the sides that celebrate them and their legacies often admit. The truth is Lincoln was more concerned with preserving the Union than with freeing the slaves, and Darwin was a religious man who saw his science as bringing glory to the God in whom he believed. That kind of complexity bordering on contradiction would serve us well as we continue to thrash out the place of gay marriage and civil unions in this country.
While it would be wrong to ask those with strongly held views about gay marriage and/or civil unions to simply give up on their ideas, I do wonder if they think the kind of ugliness the battles we engage when it comes to these issues will be seen as any less ugly than the battles in other wars, military or cultural, which we have fought in the past.
Of course, there is no moral equivalence between creationists and supporters of human slavery, but it is worth noting that in each case, people used/use religion and scriptural passages to justify their beliefs. I hope that both those in the PCUSA and anyone else who uses sacred teachings to justify their position, whatever it may be, remembers that having a verse to lean on never guarantees that God is leaning your way.
It would be helpful in addressing today's culture wars if both creationists and those who oppose any recognition of the potential sacredness of a committed, monogamous, same sex relationship, without betraying their beliefs, approached these issues with greater humility. It's worth remembering that like those who used the bible to support slavery, they might one day look back, if not with shame, at least with regret over their understanding of God's word....and so might those who support such marriages and unions. If we treated each other with that awareness, whichever we go, will get there together and be the better for it as a nation.
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06:08 PM Mountain Standard Time on Monday, February 9, 2009
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Several couples sign up at city hall
PHOENIX – Several Phoenix couples still made their way down to City
Hall Monday morning to register as domestic partners.
Vice Mayor Tom Simplot and his partner were among the first to sign up and pay a $50 registration fee.
The registry grants partner visitation rights to unmarried gay or
straight couples at hospitals, nursing homes and other medical
facilities in Phoenix.
One woman who just moved to the
Valley from Washington says she is taking advantage of the program to
get health insurance benefits.
Shiela McClane explains,
“We just moved here about a year ago and when this came on board I
decided to have this signed up and it was just timely because for my
partner benefits I need proof that I'm a domestic partner.”
Phoenix is now the second city in Arizona to adopt the measure. Tucson was the first.
Yes, this coming Friday is Valentine's Eve so I expect all of you love
birds to come out & get your fill of love songs! You just never know
who might show up....even Cupid "herself" might make an appearance!
9pm to midnite (I know it's late but remember, you get to sleep in on
Saturday morning!)
Rick and I will also be at Retro Bar on Friday - Feb 27th
For those of you into baseball I will be singing the National Anthem at the
San Francisco Giants Cactus League game at Scottsdale Stadium @ 1:05 pm on
Sunday - March 8th. I think they play against the Rockies...should be a
beautiful sunny day (unlike today's winter weather!) so come on out and enjoy a
hot dog and beer!
Hello everyone. I am watching the L word as I am typing the blog. Ok. Since I have the poison pen, I can write about the gay scene in Phoenix, Arizona.
When people think about Arizona, they think about the weather. Yes, it is hot as hell here. I came here when I was young. I needed to get away from my family in New York City. I come from a religious well-to-do family. The word Lesbian was never mention in my home, even though I have two Lesbian aunts and three Lesbian first cousins.
I picked Arizona because my best friend was planning on moving here, but she got married to a man and moved to Jersey.
I knew I was gay when I was 5 years old. I met a girl in my class. I tried to pick her up, but she didn't get the hint. I did kiss a girl at 12 years old. I enjoyed it.
That is just a little summary about me.
Here are the players:
* Paula was going out with Honey * Queen B went out with Sherry, Sherry went out with Nina * Julie * Shane (the older woman hoe) *Queen B is eyeing Maxi and friends with Kelly. * Jamie
As you know, Lesbian are always around women.
This is the cast for now. As you know Lesbians as always in large groups.
Ok. This is the deal.
Paula had a wonderful relationship with Honey. But the Shane got to her.
It was a warm starry night. Queen B was realizing on her GPS system to get to this house party. She just met the host last weekend at club through her a friend. Queen B needed to attend this party to reclaim her party girl throne.
Queen B was the life of every party. If she is not at the party, the party is completely dull and boring. She drove up to the house and got out of you red BMW. Queen B was cheap, but loved the finer things in life. She was dress hot, hot, hot. Wearing a tight blue and white strapless dress with no bra and panties; she read out of her G strings. She was also wearing her black leather boots. Her outfit was callout, "I am good for a one night stand." Queen B was thin and curvy with a big butt. When she stepped into a room, everyone looked at her.
Queen B walked to the front and opened door, since the note on the door stated, "Come in". She was walked into the house and saw people having the time of their lives. They were playing Rock Band, drinking and talking, but when she walked in, the group were looking at her. With the look of the crowd, it was an acknowledgment that she reclaimed her throne.
Queen B walked through the house greeting everyone in house as if she was celebrity. She gave the host a gift and then in the back yard to the fire pit. She knew her close friends were there and she was right. Kelly, Paula, Honey, Julie and Nina was there, gathering around the fire.
Paula and Honey were couple and seemed to be in love, even though they did break up two week ago. Queen B just looked at the couple and didn't say a thing, there was nothing to say, only smile.
Paula was always smiling and laughing as if she was high 24/7. It was amazing. Queen B could never see Paula having a bad day. Honey was so much in love. You could see it in her eyes, but she was eyeing Queen B.
With this group, sex was always on the table for discussion. The Queen B always had stories to tell, but when Paula open her mouth Queen B took a seat to be schooled. Paula mention the dildo; which Queen B never used and never put on. See, Queen B was a Gold Star and proud of it. Never touch the dick.
As Paula and Honey was talking about their sex life, Queen B was taking mental notes. She loved to learn different techniques in the bedroom, so she could improve her skill level and regain her hoe status.
Queen B was a hoe, but not the biggest hoe. That title belonged to Shane. Shane was a older woman, who was accomplished and well-to-do. She had the money to spend and talked as a big time hoe. But, I will get to that later.
As Queen B was listening to Paula, Nina was staring down at her, but Queen B didn't care. Queen B and Nina only shared one thing in common, Sherry. Queen B went dated Sherry for a year and during that year she was a committed mess of a thing. Sherry had her on lock down with a ball and chain. Queen B was proud that she was able to commit to one person for one year, but it was miserable. The Queen lost her crown and her ability to party, wear sexy clothes and to be a social butterfly.
Queen B and Sherry had a nasty break up and the feud was still going. Nina knew about the feud and always found time to remind Queen B about it every chance she got. It was crazy, but what do you except from Nina, the Drama Queen.
One that night, Queen B wanted to have the same thing Paula and Honey had. They seemed to be perfect together, but you can't judge a book by it's cover. Paula and Honey was having problems, serious problems.
The problem was Shane.
Queen B had the common sense never to sleep with your best friend girl, something Shane never learned.
It's funny that hind sight is 20/20. Shane put the charms on Paula and Paula fell for it. Shane knew in her mind, she could never commit. Paula should have known better, but didn't.
It's sad. Paula later told Queen B that the sex was horrible. The sex was horrible and she lost a girlfriend in the process.
Shane had sex with Julie too and made fun of her. Told people how bad Julie was in bed. How sad and come to find out Shane is not good either.
Life is so funny. People are always looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Usually, it's shit and despair. But, people do it anyway.
Queen B is back on her throne and ready to rule again. Relationships in not her forte anymore. She tried it and now, it's time to move on. Around the fire pit, she looks at her some of her faithful subjects.
Queen B have to watch her back and love her friends. Her phones rang and walked away from the group to answered the phone.
"Hello," Queen B said.
"Hi. What's up?" Samy said.
Queen B rolled her eyes and could never believe she slept with her. A one night stand; which turned into a routine booty call with benefits. Samy was getting closer and closer, trying to enter into the private world of Queen B.
She couldn't lie, it was cool being the girl toy to an older woman, but The Queen needed her space.
There is a lot going down in the AZ. Now, remember, these women are not young. These women are professionals, who have big booming careers and have money. They can be my sugar mamas anytime. But with money, lesbians, power; you have drama.
Would you cheat on your girlfriend with a hoe? Would you dog all the people you slept with? Would you go out with a woman, who used date your friend (I am guilty of that one)? Would you party with the darkside in order to get connected to high class professionals? Is the older hoe (who claims to be the Number One hoe), goodlooking?
I will answer your questions, you little gossip freaks. Now, that I can type, the gossip in the AZ is on.
Domestic Violence is a problem in our society. But, why. It is all about control. Sometimes people need to control or have the urge to control other people even if it means forcing someone to submit to you.
Why do I say this, because a person can always walk away and calm down. Then go back to the problem with a level head. If people did this, we can stop domestic violence.
I have never been is a violence relationship, but I did have girlfriend put her hands on me and I did hurt her in anyway. People need to control themselves instead of control another person. YOU CAN'T MAKE PERSON DO WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO. This is a fact of life. The only thing, we in society can do, is make a suggestion, comment or order and if the person do care about what you told them, you can either fired them, walk away for them, don't repeat the comment or dump them.
If we control more of ourselves, domestic violence will never be an issue.
As some of you may know, if you listen to my podcast, I am sleeping with an older woman. She is 50 years old. She can be my mother and the thought of that makes me sick, but sex is sex.
I am not in love with her and don't care what she does with her life. But, I always feel, you need to respect your booty call. It just makes for a good booty call relationship.
Ok, see, I was went over to her house last night and she was not there. Now, she had asked me to come over to have sex with her already. So, I am girl and I have to freshen up. So I had to take a shower, put in my hair extensions and make up. Plus, I had to drive to her house. That was long drive. When I got to the house, she was not there. So, I called her. She decided to go out with friends. I was so pissed. So, I had to drive home.
Ever since Cher’s daughter Chastity Bono — now Chaz Bono — announced she was beginning the process of becoming a man – many have wondered what exactly a sex change involves.
In order to get that answer, FOXNews.com talked to Dr. Marci Bowers, an internationally renowned surgeon who performs more than 200 gender-related surgeries a year at her clinic in Trinidad, Colo.
“There’s no one way to transition,” Bowers told FOXNews.com. “But generally a patient receives some type of psychological counseling in the beginning. Once they have therapy, they will then undergo a combination of hormone treatments — usually in conjunction with living in their desired gender role full-time for a year.”
Bono, 40, reportedly began taking hormones and living as a man shortly after his birthday in March, which means he still has a long road filled with many decisions ahead of him.
The fact is – female-to-male transition is not cut and dry. There are many options out there, according to Bowers.
“The one procedure that female-to-males usually do is the chest procedure or mastectomy,” she said. “It’s a surgery where their breasts are removed or modified in a way that gives them a male contour.”
Bowers estimates that the vast majority — around 90 percent — of female-to-male patients opt to get the chest surgery.
“And then some of the other surgeries they may choose may be a hysterectomy, and that might be more along the lines of like 50-to-50,” Bowers said. “And then even less commonly, genital surgery of some form is done.”
One procedure is phalloplasty, which involves the creation of a “sizable but largely non-functional” phallus, Bowers said.
“Some people also choose to have testicles implanted. Some choose to remove a part of the vagina, called a vaginectomy and then close the opening. But we’re seeing some people retain those parts and even use them for sexual gratification.”
The bottom-line, Bowers said, is that it’s all about personal choice.
“Like anything, there’s diversity in choices and in how people choose to express their gender,” she said. “So again, this is a choice. Some people want the vagina gone… they want testicles and they want a penis.”
In addition to phalloplasty, there’s an alternative procedure called a metoidioplasty.
“That’s where the clitoris is released and it grows in response to testosterone,” she said. “In essence, it becomes a small penis.”
Pluses and Minuses of Surgery
“I think the difficulty is in some of the surgical aspects,” Bowers said. “Each surgery has its drawbacks – but the surgery from female to male just isn’t perfect.”
On the other hand, Bowers said, female-to-male candidates are more socially acceptable at an early stage because they blend into society at a much quicker pace.
“Testosterone is enormously powerful,” she said. “Patients get chest hair, they get facial hair, they get male pattern hair recession and even balding in some cases. So socially they fit in immediately as men. Their voice drops… sometimes their feet grow… and they’re very much men in a short amount of time – a shockingly short amount of time.”
One message Bowers wants to get out is that the sex-change process goes far beyond surgery.
“Sometimes what people get hung up on is that it’s all about the surgery. And the fact is it’s really all about their gender role and how society perceives them. In fact, it’s estimated that 80 percent of transgender persons never undergo surgery.”
At her practice in Colorado, Bowers said she only sees the “crème de la crème” of people who can actually afford to go under the knife.
“It’s very expensive surgery that is not generally covered by insurance,” she said. “Some surgeries are very simple and can cost as little as $4,000. But I’ve heard of people spending anywhere from $80,000 to $100,000 for all sorts of surgical procedures. It’s highly variable.”
Bowers said she doesn’t think there is such a thing as a perfect candidate for surgery.
“Who are we to judge who is a perfect candidate?” she said. "I think if you feel it in your heart and soul and you feel it’s something you have to do…. then you have to do it.”
The Story of Dr. Marci Bowers
Bowers is not only a leading expert in the field of genital reassignment surgery -- or gender-confirming surgery, as she likes to call it -- but she was also a patient at one time.
“I had a very typical story,” she said. “I felt differently from a very early age and I largely hid things from my parents. I grew up in a small southern Wisconsin town in a very, very traditional family. My parents weren’t really aware until I was literally on the doorstep of transitioning.”
That was in 1996, when Dr. Mark Bowers was an accomplished obstetrician-gynecologist with a career spanning 20 years. He had been married for 11 years — a union that produced three children.
“Well, it was a bumpy road working through those details because it’s just a very awkward, inherently embarrassing disclosure to make,” she said. “It certainly took a lot of — I guess I’d call it careful negotiation.”
To this day, Bowers is still legally married and spends as much time as possible with her two daughters and son, who live in Seattle, Wash.
“We just have an interesting family and its sort of what I’d call it a 21st century family because it certainly is non-traditional,” she said. “But I think the lesson for any family is if you respect each other, find a way to love each other, you can really transcend things like this.”
Her Life in “The Sex Change Capital of the World”
After an extensive career in Washington, Bowers moved to Trinidad, Colo. — known as the sex change capital of the world — in 2003 to work side-by-side with renowned sexual reassignment surgeon Dr. Stanley Biber. Over a 30-year career, Biber, who died in 2006, performed more than 5,000 sex-change operations.
“I had actually been down there to visit him in 2000 because there were some people in Seattle who had worked for him,” Bowers said. “And they just said they had this amazing practice and I got the chance to meet with him and he said “we’re really looking for a surgeon and we’re hoping to recruit someone or have someone come,” and his idea was that I’d do obstetrics and then gradually take over the surgery division.”
Six months after she started working with Biber, Bowers did her first solo surgery, and she hasn’t looked back since. During her time in Trinidad, Bowers has performed more than 550 male-to-female surgeries and does an average of 220 gender-related surgeries every year.
“It just keeps unfolding and it’s been interesting the entire way,” she said. “I certainly don’t have any complaints. I’ve had an interesting life and it keeps getting more interesting, it seems.”
Although Bowers’ main focus is on gender reassignment surgeries, she is also working on several other projects to improve the health of people from all corners of the globe.
“We are the first center in North America actually that’s going be doing female genital mutilation reversal. We’ve now done two sets of patients from Africa — so that’s kind of the latest and greatest thing we’re up to,” she said.
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Megan McCain really wants the Republican party to accept the GLBT community. I'm a Republican and a lesbian, why? Because I do believe in the freedom of this country, small government and fiscal responsibility.
I also feel, the Democratic party doesn't accept the GLBT community, as well. Think about, if the democratic party cared so much for our rights, we would have them by now.
Maine is Democratic and they are voting against gay marriage, so it takes a person not a party to stand up for rights.
Megan McCain is on a mission to accept the GLBT community into the Republican party. Little does she knows, they are already there.
Investigators in New York City raided circulation offices at some of the nation's largest newspapers Tuesday as part of a union corruption probe, a law enforcement official said.
Police officers working with the Manhattan district attorney's office searched circulation offices of The New York Times in Queens, the New York Post and the Daily News in Manhattan, and El Diario in Brooklyn, the official said, speaking to The Associated Press on the condition of anonymity because the investigation is ongoing.
Investigators were seeking paperwork related to the Newspaper and Mail Deliverers Union, which packages and delivers newspapers across the region.
Calls to the union's headquarters were not answered Tuesday. The news deliverers' parent union, the International Brotherhood of Teamsters, referred inquiries to the local union.
The New York Times issued a statement saying that the office of an employee at its plant in Queens' College Point area had been searched but that its news side was not part of the investigation.
Rosana Rosado, publisher of El Diario-La Prensa, also said that the Spanish-language newspaper is not a subject of the investigation and that the search warrant was seeking information into allegations of corruption at the union.
Bob Leonard of Dan Klores Communications, speaking for the Daily News, declined to comment on the raid. A call to the Post was not returned.
The 1,600-member union wields considerable power over news companies that rely on their drivers to deliver hundreds of thousands of papers each day, and allegations of connections to organized crime are not new.
District Attorney Robert Morgenthau charged that the union was under mob control more than a decade ago, after an investigation that also involved a 1992 search of the Post and Daily News offices.
The probe led to criminal charges against union members including then-President Douglas LaChance, who authorities accused of being an associate of the Luchese crime family. He was acquitted in 1995 of strong-arming the Post into switching delivery companies.
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The
New Face of Psychotic, Twisted, Gory,
Experimental Crafted Horror
Phoenix,
AZ (November 11,
2009)
- Aliya
Leigh,
is a hot sexy lesbian republican scriptwriter,blogger,
podcaster, voice over actress and author; who speaks her mind about
anything. Her
message comes from world events, her heart and life. She will make
you laugh, cry and be in shock. From titles like, “Drink Urine and
Lose Weight”, “We
Need Abortion”, and “Gay McCain”. With
a new film script, she
is the psychotic demented horror writer with a score to settle.
Aliya
Leigh is announcing her first major film script, called “I Love
You”. "I Love You", Brenda Lopez was raised by a mother who sold her to men, but found love when she met Alex. Zack tells his brother Alex his feelings towards Brenda; which starts a psychotic, twisted, graphic, gory experimental game of the mind and physical strength.
Will Brenda and Zack survive?
“People have described the script, as a bad acid trip without the acid,” Aliya Leigh says.
In
addition to writing horror scripts, she is looking to workfor
a film or television production companyor
studio, as a writer or editor, and looking for voice over work.
The
film script, “I Love You”, is ready to be sold to production
companies and studios.
About
Aliya Leigh
Aliya
Leigh is the host of a podcast called, “Lesbian Life”,
(http://aliyaleighlive.libsyn.com).
Since February 2008 to today, her listeners has grown from 500 to
40,000 downloads a day. With the success of “Lesbian Life”, she
started a weekly show based on fairy tales characters with attitude,
teenage problems and
lack of
common
sense called “Wonderland” (http://wonderland.podbean.com).
In “Wonderland”, she perform all the voices for the show, from
simple minded Alice to Deville the Prince of Darkness to Strawberry
Shortcake the Muslim. She is a contributing writer for Carpe Diem
Fashion Magazine. She has written books and treatments for
television. She also produces and workson
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Aliya
Leigh performs community service around her community and a Trustee
on the National Writer’s Union board. She make appearances at
literary award shows, speaks at seminars about copyrighting and other
topics which plagues the writing world, and acts
as a fundraiser for causes.
In
her spare time, she plays video games, hang out with friends, travels
and plays
her violin. She is a member of Log Cabin (Republican group in the
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Some of the most innovative, interesting, and, well, strange tech has nothing to do with computing monoliths like Google or Microsoft. And it's just around the corner.
Here's our list of the tech trends, products, and innovations that are available today — or coming online shortly — and how they'll affect your life next year.
1. You'll attend an online funeral Sites such as Otrib.com and Tributes.com let you leave a memorial to loved ones who have passed on. But some people are holding the funeral itself online, using webcasting services at sites such as Funeralrecording.com and Funeralone.com. This lets anyone attend, from anywhere.
Why the trend is important: Webcasting a funeral might sound morbid, but it means more people can share in the life of someone without the expense of travel.
2. You'll start life-casting
Given the confluence of ubiquitous cell phone use, high-speed 3G service, and a growing desire to connect with people in more tangible ways, life-casting has finally arrived. Services such as Qik.com let you stream a live video from your cell to the world without the usual video hiccups and complex setup.
Why the trend is important: YouTube videos are static. They capture a fleeting moment, but not as it happens in real-time. Life-casting is the true expression of our own self-worth (ahem).
3. Your body will control video games
Microsoft is championing a new Xbox controller: you. The technology, called Project Natal, lets you perform dance movies or kick a ball, while a camera tracks your movements using infrared and shows the results on screen. A microphone can also capture voice commands. Meanwhile, Sony has announced the PlayStation Motion Controller, a wand that helps accomplish the same you-as-the-controller goal.
Why the trend is important: It's about time someone invented a better way to shoot bad guys than the same joysticks and gamepads we've used for the last few decades.
4. You'll leave your tape measure at home
A new service called GeoEstimator uses satellites and aerial photographs to make roof measurements that are just as accurate as making the measurements in person. The service can help contractors, insurance companies, and estimators avoid crawling up on roofs.
Why the trend is important: Virtual measurements save time, sure, but they also pave the way for the further integration of satellite data in our lives, such as determining exact property boundaries.
5. You'll (finally) use a content aggregator
You probably already know about Digg.com and other services that help you find interesting stories and pictures. And plenty of sites — such as YouTube.com — let you share goofy videos. Toobla.com is different: It's an aggregator for videos, photos, documents and Web sites, so you can not only store videos and photos but share them online. It's also more visual than a storage service such as Box.net.
Why the trend is important: We're all inundated with too many digital files, and Toobla does a good job of making the storage more interesting and accessible for your friends and family members.
6. You'll burn your business cards
Salespeople hand them out at trade shows and they might help you win a free lunch. That's right: business cards just won't die. Several iPhone apps – such as Beezcard and SnapDat – allow you to share contact details, but not everyone has an iPhone. A Swiss company has made the PokenZoo, a cute, inexpensive device you touch to another Poken to swap contacts.
Why the trend is important: Saves paper, but also finally alleviates business workers from having to carry these annoying cards around whether they go.
7. You'll chat with faceless minions
One new trend regurgitates an age-old concept: On sites such as Omegle.com, you can chat with complete strangers. AOL has provided this capability for eons (isn't that what chat boards are all about?), but Omegle.com puts a random spin on it, pairing you safely and anonymously with an arbitrary total stranger. You can chat with some dude in Norway or Japan in less than 5 seconds.
Why the trend is important: Other than the fun factor, Omegle indicates the final piece in the globalization puzzle.
8. Your gadgets will have gadgets
Cell-phone boosters have become popular in the past few years, purporting to improve coverage and signal quality. Most have added, oh, one bar at most. The zBoost ONE (www.wi-ex.com) can boost your connection up three bars. The device is so innovative, it won a Consumer Electronics Association (CEA) award recently.
Why the trend is important: People in rural areas and deep within office complexes often can't participate in the mobile revolution. A booster makes high-speed access viable for everyone.
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Gay activists were frustrated that Obama, who insists he staunchly supports their overall civil rights agenda, didn't speak out forcefully in defense of Maine's marriage law before Tuesday's referendum.
SAN FRANCISCO - Stunned and angry, national gay rights leaders Wednesday blamed scare-mongering ads — and President Barack Obama's lack of engagement — for a bitter election setback in Maine that could alter the dynamics for both sides in the gay-marriage debate.
Conservatives, in contrast, celebrated Maine voters' rejection of a law that would have allowed gay couples to wed, depicting it as a warning shot that should deter politicians in other states from pushing for same-sex marriage.
"Every time the citizens have voted on marriage, they have always sided with natural marriage," said Mathew Staver, founder of Liberty Counsel, a Florida-based Christian legal group. "Maine dramatically illustrates the will of the people, and politicians should wake up and listen."
Gay activists were frustrated that Obama, who insists he staunchly supports their overall civil rights agenda, didn't speak out forcefully in defense of Maine's marriage law before Tuesday's referendum. The law was repealed in a vote of 53 percent to 47 percent.
"President Obama missed an opportunity to state his position against these discriminatory attacks with the clarity and moral imperative that would have helped in this close fight," said Evan Wolfson of the national advocacy group Freedom to Marry. "The anti-gay forces are throwing millions of dollars into various unsubtle ads aimed at scaring people, so subtle statements from the White House are not enough."
The White House, asked about the criticism, had no immediate comment.
The marriage debate is simmering in at least a half-dozen states where a same-sex marriage bill is pending or where a court ruling or existing law is being eyed by conservatives for possible challenge.
Had Maine's law been upheld by voters, it would have become the sixth state to legalize gay marriage — and the first to affirm it by popular vote. In Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Iowa, gay marriage resulted from court decisions or legislation.
California is sure to be a major battleground over the next several years. Last year, conservatives succeeded in winning public approval of Proposition 8, which overturned a state court ruling allowing gay marriage. Gay rights groups want to take the issue back to the voters but are divided on a timetable.
In the aftermath of the Maine vote, some California activists appealed to their supporters for money to help them put a measure on the 2010 ballot. Other activist leaders want to wait until 2012.
"It's never too early to go back to right a fundamental wrong," said Chaz Lowe of Yes! on Equality, who favors shooting for 2010. "A lot of people are angry, a lot of people are upset. It at least has the potential to be a mobilization for the grass roots."
Some California activists said the outcome in Maine strengthened their belief that it will fall to the U.S. Supreme Court — not the voters — to make gay marriage legal. A federal lawsuit challenging Prop. 8 is scheduled to go to trial in January, the first step in a legal journey that is expected to reach the high court in a few years.
"The results in Maine underscore exactly why we are challenging California's same-sex marriage ban," said Chad Griffin, president of the American Foundation for Equal Rights, the Los Angeles group spearheading the lawsuit. "The U.S. Constitution guarantees equal rights to every American, and when those rights are violated, it is the role of our courts to protect us, regardless of what the polls say."
The situation elsewhere:
_ In New Jersey, the election Tuesday of Republican Chris Christie as governor puts extra pressure on gay rights supporters to win passage of a pending same-sex marriage bill before the legislative session ends in January. Christie says he would veto such a bill, while lame-duck Gov. Jon Corzine, a Democrat, says he would sign it.
_ In Iowa, where the state Supreme Court legalized gay marriage last April, conservatives have no quick way to overturn the ruling. Their only option would be to amend the state constitution through a ballot measure — in 2014 at the earliest — and that effort would need approval from a legislature whose current Democratic leaders don't even want to debate the issue.
_ In New Hampshire, conservatives have filed legislation to repeal the state's new gay-marriage law and amend the constitution to ban such unions. Kevin Smith, executive director of the conservative Cornerstone Policy Research, said he doubts the measures will pass, but hopes the vote in Maine will give gay-marriage opponents ammunition for the 2010 elections.
"It gives us more fodder to go back to people and say, 'Look, they aren't letting you vote on it,'" Smith said.
_ In Washington, D.C., conservatives are trying to force a popular vote on a bill headed toward City Council approval that would legalize gay marriage. Michael Crawford, one of the leaders of the local pro-gay marriage campaign, said the result in Maine increased his determination to avoid a ballot measure.
"The same cabal of anti-gay groups who stripped away marriage equality from our families in California and Maine now have their sights on D.C.," he said.
Crawford was among numerous gay rights leaders complaining about the campaign tactics of the groups that opposed same-sex marriage in Maine and California.
In both states, California-based political strategist Frank Schubert oversaw an advertising campaign warning that "homosexual marriage" would be taught in public schools.
The campaign to defend gay marriage countered that Maine's state curriculum guidelines contain no reference to marriage, and the state's Democratic attorney general, Janet Mills, issued an opinion backing that up. But the ads continued.
"It is infuriating to see that the same fear-mongering ads that were used to pass Prop. 8 a year ago have triumphed again at the expense of so many," said Joe Solmonese of the Human Rights Campaign, the largest national gay rights group.
Tony Perkins, president of the conservative Family Research Council, came away with a different message.
"Over and over again, the American people have affirmed marriage at the ballot box and turned aside the demands of a movement that remains largely driven by Hollywood, some extreme activists and a few activist judges," he said. "We hope the message sent by Maine's voters will be heard in Washington and state capitals around the nation."
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Despite the collective outings of Ellen DeGeneres, Elton John, Rosie
O'Donnell and Olympic diver Greg Louganis, homophobia is alive and well
-- especially in the small towns of the Deep South. Focusing on the
day-to-day struggles of two Mississippi gay bars and the grateful
patrons who often travel hundreds of miles to find them, filmmaker Malcolm Ingram reveals a surprisingly close community that treats its residents like family members.
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Spirit Journeys: Mystics & Muses
Friday & Saturday: December 11 & 12, 2009, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
Sunday, December 13, 2009, 4:00pm Church of the Epiphany 2222 S. Price Road, Tempe
Join
us as we honor and celebrate the winter holidays of Chanukah,
Christmas, Kwanzaa and Winter Solstice. Our Spirit Journeys, both as a
society and individuals, often contain a dual nature: the more serious
spiritual element circumscribed in mystery and expressed through a
mystical nature, and the lighter side of the holidays, found in the
creative "imp.” Along with a performance of pieces from Benjamin
Brittain's Ceremony of Carols, we will also bring you an
arrangement of Silver Bells and a piece entitled Deck the Halls in 7/8,
which is a rhythmic version of the holiday classic.
**Faith Lutheran does not have accessible bathroom.
Exquisite Journey: Fierce Beauty
Friday & Saturday, March 12 & 13, 2010, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
The
March concert is presented in honor of Women"s History Month and will
examine the journey of fear, chaos and even joy that comes with a life
threatening illness. Our desire is to present the intensity and
fierceness that the human spirit displays during these times. The
centerpiece of the concert will be Diane Benjamin’s Where I Live: A Breast Cancer Oratorio.
This sublime work brings together strings, percussion, choir, soloist
and narrator in a stunning musical/spoken word offering that leads us
through the uncertain journey of illness and recovery. The second half
of the concert offers music that will be a celebration of the
determination and resiliency of the human spirit. Plan now to be part
of this very moving event.
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Passionate Journeys: Passionate Kisses!
Friday & Saturday, June 11 & 12, 2010, 7:30 pm Faith Lutheran Church 801 E. Camelback, Phoenix
We
will close our season with our traditional concert about love and
relationships. With music that covers a multitude of genres, we will
present songs of love and relationships and the often ensuing chaos
each one brings. We
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Empire Talent and Model Agency, I think, is fine for modeling because I do not have the knowledge on how they treat their models.
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My film script "I Love You", will be given to the highest bidder.
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WASHINGTON (AP) - Forget Sarah Palin. The maverick female of the Republican Party is Maine Sen. Olympia Snowe.
The 62-year-old, moderate Maine lawmaker announced Tuesday she will vote for a Democratic health care bill, breaking with her party and giving a major boost to President Barack Obama's goal of expanding coverage.
"When history calls, history calls," Snowe told her colleagues on the Senate Finance Committee, several hours into the debate.
Snowe had kept virtually all of Washington guessing how she would vote. She had not even let Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, D-Nev., in on her secret.
Then she captured all of Washington's attention.
"The status quo approach has produced one glaring common denominator, that is that we have a problem that is growing worse not better," she said in explaining her support for the bill.
While she described the legislation as flawed, she said it bolsters what works in the nation's health care system as well as trying to rein in the rising costs of health care.
Democrats, aware that Snowe could be the only Republican in Congress to vote for their health care overhaul, have spent months addressing her concerns about making it affordable and how to pay for it. Obama has sought her vote in phone calls and meetings.
Snowe made clear to her Democratic colleagues that her support could be a one-shot deal.
"My vote today is my vote today. It does not forecast my vote tomorrow," she said.
With her support, however, Democrats might have the 60th vote required to overcome Republican objections to the bill. Snowe's support would mean that the final version of the bill could _ technically _ be called bipartisan, a key tenet of Obama's agenda.
Snowe has broken with her party on several occasions.
Earlier this year, she was one of three Republicans who crossed party lines to vote for Obama's $787 billion economic stimulus bill. Before that, she defied then-President George W. Bush and voted for legislation he eventually vetoed _ but that later passed under Obama _ providing health care to millions of children.
Snowe also was one of the "Gang of 14" Democratic and Republican senators who resolved a standoff over judicial nominations.
In Maine, former Gov. Angus King, a political independent, compared Snowe's decision to the late Republican Sen. Margaret Chase Smith's "Declaration of Conscience" speech in which she called for the nation _ and her own party _ to reject McCarthyism.
"This is a vote of conscience and a vote of concern for her constituents and concern for the country. And I think it took plenty of courage. I don't think it's possible for any of us to fully appreciate the pressure she's under and has been under to vote with her Republican colleagues," King said. "The fact that she was willing to split with them, I think, is a real testament to her integrity."
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Associated Press writer David Sharp in Portland, Maine contributed to this report.
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PHOENIX - State employees in Arizona can take advantage of domestic-partner benefits for the next 12 months even though the Legislature's last budget took them away.
The Department of Administration says the benefit will be available until October 2010, because cutting it before then might put the state in violation of contract laws.
The benefit was to be cut off when the state's insurance plan began Oct. 1, but the budget won't take effect until nearly two months into the contract period.
An opinion by the Attorney General's Office concluded the benefit's elimination during this fiscal year would conflict with employees' expectations.
The administration of former Gov. Janet Napolitano created the benefit through a policy change and won its approval from a board.
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NEW YORK — New York City police say a 49-year-old gay man leaving a corner deli near his home was beaten by two men in an apparent hate crime.
Jack Price remains in a medically induced coma. He is in serious but stable condition.
Police say the two suspects taunted Price and yelled anti-gay slurs while he was in the store early Friday. They attacked him outside, not far from his home in the middle-class Queens neighborhood of College Point.
Twenty-six-year-old Daniel Aleman was arrested Sunday and charged with assault and aggravated assault as a hate crime. The name of his attorney was not on record.
A second suspect is being sought. The police department's Hate Crimes Task Force is investigating.
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Since 1901, the Nobel Prize has been
honoring men and women from all corners of the globe
for outstanding achievements in physics, chemistry, medicine,
literature, and for work in peace.
The foundations for the prize were laid in 1895 when Alfred Nobel
wrote his last will, leaving much of his wealth to the establishment
of the Nobel Prize. But who was Alfred Nobel? Articles, photographs,
a slide show and poetry written by Nobel himself are presented here
to give a glimpse of a man whose varied interests are reflected in
the prize he established. Meet Alfred Nobel - scientist, inventor,
entrepreneur, author and pacifist.
Qualified Nominators
The right to submit proposals for the
Nobel Peace Prize shall, by statute, be enjoyed by:
1.
Members of national
assemblies and governments of states;
2.
Members of international
courts;
3.
University rectors;
professors of social sciences, history, philosophy, law and
theology; directors of peace research institutes and foreign
policy institutes;
4.
Persons who have been
awarded the Nobel Peace Prize;
5.
Board members of
organizations who have been awarded the Nobel Peace
Prize;
6.
Active and former members
of the Norwegian Nobel Committee; (proposals by members of
the Committee to be submitted no later than at the first
meeting of the Committee after February 1) and
7.
Former advisers appointed
by the Norwegian Nobel Institute.
The Nobel Peace Prize may also be awarded
to institutions and associations.
Source: http://nobelprize.org
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1 and 1o Youth Services is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving and assisting lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (lgbt) youth. We provide youth with a tools to improve self-esteem and acceptance of who they are,
The youth we work with range in age from 14 to 22. We create a safe space, mentally and physically, for youth of all socio-economic and cultural backgrounds. Our weekly discussion groups cover a wide range of social, educational, health, and community issues. Youth with particular needs have the option to speak with peers or volunteers one-on-one, in a supervised setting. We offer resources for healthy living and making healthy choices, as well as social networking opportunities appropriate for developing leadership skills and having fun.
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HCG
is an acronym for the hormone Human Chorio Gonadotropin, which is found
in both men and women, though pregnant women have the highest levels of
HCG in their bodies. HCG injections or supplements are typically given
to women who need help ovulating and to men who want to increase their
sperm count. A daily HCG injection is also one component of the
controversial HCG diet plan.
The HCG hormone can be made synthetically or extracted from a
pregnant woman's urine and then processed for use by other humans. The
HCG diet shots are said to benefit both men and women similarly, though
experts don't recommend that women get the injections if they are
already pregnant or nursing, and thus already have elevated HCG levels.
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Advocates
of the HCG diet believe that, by adhering to the diet plan and taking
daily injections of HCG, participants can successfully reach their
targeted weight. They say that dieters following the HCG diet should
expect to lose somewhere between a half pound and 3 pounds (.23 to 1.36
kilograms) each day on the low-calorie, high-fiber plan [source: HCG Diet Info].
The diet has its fair share of believers. After all, any eating plan
that consists of a mere 500 calories will most likely result in weight
loss. But, at the same time, some people have found that the injections
made no difference [source: Sylvester]. And the drug lacks substantial research, so exposing your body to such a restrictive diet may not be in your best interests.
To know if the HCG diet is right for you, be sure to read about
the specifics of the plan and the possible dangers. Check out the next
page for information on the day-to-day dieting plan.
HCG Diet Plan
Long Time Coming
HCG diet ideas have been around since the early 1950s, which is when
Dr. ATW Simeons presented the diet plan to the public [source: HCG Weight Loss].
Shifting
into the HCG diet is likely to be quite a lifestyle change.
Participants are required to cut their caloric intake to roughly 500
calories and take a daily injection of HCG hormones. More water,
vegetables and fiber in the daily meal plan is said to accelerate the
weight loss [source: HCG Weight Loss].
There is no established exercise regimen, and the duration of the diet
is up to the individual, as the plan dictates that the rules be
followed until the target goal is reached.
The original HCG diet plan is quite restrictive and particular. For
breakfast, you can have only tea or coffee without sugar. The diet puts
a one-tablespoon limit on how much milk you can consume each day, so if
you require milk with your coffee and tea, you'll want to keep this in
mind. For lunch and dinner, you can cook 100 grams (.22 pounds) of lean
meat or seafood and pair it with one vegetable from this list of 13:
asparagus, beet greens, cabbage, celery, chard, chicory, cucumbers,
fennel, green salad, onions, red radishes, spinach and tomatoes. For
lunch and dinner, you can eat one toast cracker and an orange, apple,
half a grapefruit or strawberries [source: Goldsmith].
Advocates of the HCG Diet say that combining the extremely
low-calorie diet with the HCG hormone injections will lead to immediate
weight loss without the common side effects of many restrictive diets,
such as hunger pains, headaches and nausea. They believe that because
the HCG injections burn fat, the hormone provides the body with
necessary energy while reducing hunger and keeping the body out of
starvation mode [source: Derma Health Institute].
Read the next page to explore the other component of this diet, the HGC hormone injections.
HCG Diet Injections
Don't Try to Dodge the HCG Shots
The diet plan that is recommended for those who are entering the HCG
diet is quite strict. It limits you to 500 calories per day, which is
far below the recommended daily value. Proponents of the HCG diet
suggest that this kind of low-calorie diet is not safe unless combined
with the HCG injections. Don't attempt a 500-calorie diet plan without
the injections and certainly not without talking to your doctor first
[source: Brennan].
The HCG diet's success rests on its namesake -- the HCG hormone.
Before starting, it's in your best interest to understand how the
hormone is administered and what it does. Administration is usually
through two methods -- either an oral supplement or a liquid injection.
An injection for weight loss contains somewhere between 125 IU and 200
IU [source: HCG Weight Loss].
The best places for HCG injections are just beneath the skin or
straight into a muscle. For your safety and comfort, you may want to
ask your doctor to demonstrate the correct injection technique before
trying it on yourself [source: Drugs].
You also need to understand what the hypothalamus
is. This gland is responsible for regulating your body's fat storage
and metabolism. The HCG shots are said to command your hypothalamus to
release fat from storage, which triggers your body to combine that fat
and your 500 calories as energy. Then the shots should help your body
get rid of excess fat by burning it daily [source: HCG Diet Info].
After dedicating yourself to the daily 500-calorie diet and the HCG
injections, advocates say you'll have better eating habits for the rest
of your life. Once you've achieved your target weight, it's a good idea
to leave the drastic diet but maintain a sustainable, healthy lifestyle
[source: HCG Diet Info].
After all, you can't count on your body to maintain your goal weight if
you immediately fall back into your old eating habits.
Click to the next page to find out what dangers exist if you decide to go on the HCG diet.
HCG Diet Dangers
Take Caution before Taking HCG
Before using HCG injections for dieting purposes, be sure to check with
your doctor and review your medical history. Certain health conditions,
such as early puberty or any cancer that affects hormone levels, will
likely mean your body isn't fit for HCG. In these cases, professionals
will likely advise you to skip the injections [source: Drugs].
The
FDA has approved HCG injections for use in fertility issues, but not in
dieting. There haven't been enough comprehensive studies to test and
ensure its capabilities. While advocates claim that lower doses of the
hormone are used for dieting, the scientific and medical communities
still lack substantial evidence that the HCG shots are safe over an
extended period of time [source: Goldsmith].
There are a few dangers that come with injecting HCG into your body.
First of all, you want to make sure the medication hasn't gone bad,
either by changing color or accumulating particles. As with any
injected medication, the potential for blood clots exists. Some women
who have injected HCG have experienced a serious condition called ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome
(OHSS). OHSS can be deadly, so you should take note of symptoms like
pelvic pain and stomach, arm or leg swelling. Other less serious side
effects might be headaches and depression. Young boys taking HCG might
experience premature puberty [source: Drugs]. Pregnant or nursing women could cause harm to their babies if the hormone is passed on [source: HCG Diet Info].
And although advocates claim that HCG keeps the body functioning
properly, a diet of 500 calories is below virtually any healthy amount
recommended by most doctors. Weight loss is almost guaranteed when
you're eating so much less than the recommended daily allowance, but
you may risk your health. And although the HCG is supposed to help with
side effects, in one study the HCG injections showed no different
feelings or results than a placebo injection [source: Sylvester].
The HCG diet has the potential for incredible results, but not
without the risk of significant side effects. As with any diet, you
should always talk to your doctor before implementing any significant
change. To learn more, visit the links on the following page.
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I emailed a girl who I cared about, deeply and I will shared that with you. Plus, the drama in the AZ.
OH LORD.
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* Seek first the kingdom in your heart and everything else will follow
* The kingdom is within yourself. Do whatever makes you happy.
* Do whatever lifts your spirts in life.
* You choose if you want to live happy or sad. It's your life, you live it how you want.
* How do you feel about yourself? If you like yourself continue doing what you are doing. If you dislike yourself, then change for the better.
* BE BALANCE
* BE AWARE
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Love yourself
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President Obama will speak to a gathering of gay rights activists this weekend, a day before thousands of people are expected to march on Washington in a demonstration calling for greater legal protections for gays, lesbians and transgendered Americans.
Many gay rights activists have become increasingly vocal about their frustration over what they see as tepid support from Mr. Obama. While the president has professed support for overturning the ban on gays in the military and called the law that precludes federal recognition of same-sex marriages discriminatory, he has not engaged on gay rights issues as actively as some had hoped.
The Justice Department is defending the federal marriage law, known as Defense of Marriage Act, much to the dismay of many gay rights advocates. And Mr. Obama has been noncommittal about when he will move to end the “don’t ask don’t tell” policy. In June, he acknowledged their irritations at the slow pace of change at a gathering of about 250 gay rights leaders who had been invited to the White House.
While it remains to be seen what Mr. Obama’s appearance at the dinner will do to his standing in the eyes of gay rights activists, his speech may mollify some of their concerns.
His appearance will mark only the second time a sitting president has spoken to the Human Rights Campaign. The first time was in 1997 when Bill Clinton spoke to the group. That was the first time a sitting president had ever addressed a gay rights organization.
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Yesterday, I realized, people don't know what respect means and how to apply it to their lives.
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To have a great relationship, both parties need to:
1) RESPECT! 2) NO ABUSE!!! 3) NO CHEATING!
This is important to remember and to understand, but sooo hard to do!
See,
we as humans are not happy all the time, we have emotions. So we can be angry,
sad, depress, happy or sexual. If you follow me on twitter, you have
witness all of my emotions.
To me, when my partner follows
the three rules, I feel safe and secure to be around them. I know there
will be no judging, hitting, abuse and no STDs.
What does respect means (from http://www.m-w.com):
A relation or reference to a particular thing or situation <remarks having respect to an earlier plan> 2 : an act of giving particular attention : consideration 3 a : high or special regard : esteem b : the quality or state of being esteemed c plural : expressions of respect or deference <paid our respects> 4 : particular, detail <a good plan in some respects>
So,
respect is having a high regard for your partner or date. When both
parties have respect for one another, then you have open communcation,
trust, love, honor and security. Everyone from the big hairy guy,
little guy, fairy, drag queen, drag king, butch, femme, straight women,
straight men, trans and bi's want to be respected and secure.
It takes both parties to respect each other; which can build or destroy a relationship.
For
example, the girl who I was speaking to told me, "The best good looking
black girls are in Altana, Georgia." Now, she's try to dating me and
she told me that. How would you feel, if a person YOU were dating or
YOUR partner told you this statement?
You'll feel hurt because now you see they don't see as good looking as the girls in Altana, Georgia.
Another
example, my ex-love Sharon told me, "I love working out at the
Scottsdale gym because I see good looking women." Again, she didn't see
me in high regard.
After Sharon, I told myself, the next time
I fall in love with person, they need to respect me. I won't take
anything less. Another example, my sugra momma, always told me, "Hi,
beautiful. You're so beautiful." See, that's respect and I respect her
the same way, but we saw the future in different eyes, but this is
proof, you can have respect in a relationship, even if, it's a booty
call.
So, please respect yourself and your date or partner because it does wonders in the bedroom.
Also
with respect, if your partner goes to a strip club, you don't have to
worry. If your partner goes on a long trip, you don't have to worry.
If your partner, see a person who looks good, you don't have to worry.
Respect, will always allow you to keep a sound mind and a joyful heart.
Tomorrow, I'll talk about NO ABUSE!!!!!
I
did speak to the girl today, it didn't end good. See, I got two free
passes to see "Fame". "Fame" (the series), impacted a big part of my
life because it went into detail about living life for a dream, so I
wanted to go. I asked the girl to if she wanted to go, but she was
busy. Ok, no problem. So I took my cousin. Her husband is a Army
Officer, who's station in Iraq.
Today, I spoke to the girl
and she was upset with me because she couldn't go. I had to tell her,
it wasn't a big deal and I took someone else and I didn't have time to
tell her, it was my cousin.
The confusing part is, we are NOT
together. I have tried to see her and do activities with her, but she
wants to be with her friends. I don't care, if she wants to hang out
with her friends; I just want to know her more. So, I put in the
effort to arrange dates, but no show. What else, can a girl do?
I did text her because, seriously, I don't think she was mad at me, she was mad at something else.
If she doesn't want to talk me, fine. I just want her to find the right partner for her because no one should ever be alone.
I may go the Mercury game tomorrow night. If you see me, say "Hi".
Love you guys and remember, respect yourself and others.
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Most of our straight friends and family, wished they never heard those words. But, it happens.
I was at the home office today, because I was sick. You know when you walk to your kitchen from your bedroom and you don't know how you got there?
I was watching the Tara Banks show and they're going to have show tomorrow about how to cure gay people. But, do we need to be cured? Why are we gay? And is something wrong with us?
These are good questions and they have great answers. Gay people were born gay. I can prove it. My father's sister and my first cousins are gay, plus my mother admitted she thought about being gay when she was younger. So, there's a gay gene. But, unfortunately, people who are not part of the GLBT community look down on us, if we were freaks of the year; which is not cool.
I knew I was gay for a long time and I didn't want to admitted because of family and religion, but when I came clean to myself, then I became a whole people.
It's funny, when you're in the closet, you feel so confined as if you're in a prison cell. When you except yourself as you are, then you feel a release of mind, body and soul.
One thing, I can't stand is people putting God into hating something or someone. If God talked to us on earth, we will be shocked to hear, "I love everyone." It's Godlike to tell someone, "God Hates YOU!!!", when you're not being Godlike yourself?
The bottom line is, YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT YOURSELF.
Without accepting yourself as whatever you are, you're not doing yourself justice.
When I was at the end of grade and Jr.High, I didn't love myself. I tried to kill myself several times because I knew I was different and God didn't want me to be different. I figure, if I ended my life, I will no longer embarrass my family. But, acceptance helped me to heal and love myself. Unfortunately, society had brain damaged us to think a certain way, instead of thinking for ourselves.
If you are gay and you don't want have relationship with the same sex, that's fine, but accept the fact, you are gay. Some people refuse to have sex or a relationship with the same sex because of religion and/or family. There's a lot of people doing this and they are STILL HAPPY.
For me, you know where I stand. I love being with a person of my own sex.
I wish the world was different, but everyone has opinions. Opinions is what makes this country great, but we need to respect each other for their differences; which makes life great.
People may hate, love and just deal with us, but the main thing is to respect each other with love and understanding. It sounds simple, but it's difficult to do, when our own egos get in the way.
When I first met Nitara, the film director, she was married to a man and had a son. When I first shook her hand, I knew she was gay. She was so deep into the closet, she was like those old clothes you saved, but couldn't wear in years. She looked confined and so confused, like a lost child in a mega mall. I felt sorry for her and her husband. And yes, I did speak to the husband, but never told him, "Your wife is gay."
A year later, I saw her at a gay club. She's out of the closet and so happy. Her creativity is much stronger then ever, she is more open and less stress. Because she accepted herself, she became a whole person.
But, sadly some decides they need to kill themselves to be happy. It's not true. If you believe killing yourself is the answer, please get help.
Remember, "God loves everyone and you are special to him or her because YOU are a gift from God."
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This is the oldest riddle in life. When something is in front of us, we do want it. But, when we can't have it, we want it more.
Why?
I don't know, but it's true. I remember when I first met Kathleen. It was at the Older Lesbian Single party. She was cute and there was something about her. You know when you have a feeling about someone who you can't understand. That's Kathleen, she's a mystery. She has curly long red hair, tan skin and acts like she is high society, but down to earth. Meeting her, you wouldn't think she was a published wealth lesbian author. She's kind and wonderful, but takes control. I love her to death, but remember I said, when we can't have it we want it more.
Kathleen was head over heels in lust (not love) for a woman name W. I knew W very well. W was my ex-love, Sharon good friend. The true was, I hated W for a while. I couldn't stand her. My ex-love told me, she was in love with W and I was her last choice, since W had a girlfriend. Through, I ex-love, W gave her some crazy advice about my relationship with Sharon.
So, think about this, Katleen wants to go out with W and I can't stand W. How can I be around W, since I can't stand her. Looking at her made me sick, but I was hurting too.
Lesbians are known for talking, just like the women on The View. We talk about each other and other people, but we are still family.
W found out how I felt about her. She talked to me and found out, Sharon lied. It just goes to show, you need to go to the source of the information instead of the hear say.
Anyway, Kathleen wanted W in the worst way, but W was dating K. K is a wonderful person with life and crazy mixed in. She reminds me of a person who would go to a Buddhism temple to chant, search for the meaning of life, start a company and go to party. I can see her having business meetings at The Cash, while conducting important business. W is more structured and I can totally understand.
So, Kathleen wanted her, but couldn't have her; which made W more desirable. Me and W, we're good friends. Sharon is history.
Anyway, it's happening to me. All this time, the girl didn't want to see me and bring me anywhere, but since she had to leave for business, I'm on her mind. Crazy.
Why do we torture ourselves this way? I don't get it, but we still do it. Why can't we desire the thing want in the moment, until it's gone. It just proves we need to live in the moment and desire the things we have. I know I have a problem with regret. When I have something, I wonder if there is something better on the other side. I have learned to stop it and just be happy with what you got. Because you will be search for the ne