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1. Myth: The clitoris is a magic arousal button.

Truth: While the clitoris IS crucial to most women's arousal and orgasm,
every woman has different preferences regarding its stimulation. It's not
a doorbell, and you can't just push it to be let inside! (Fun clitoral
fact: The clitoris is not just that little organ you can find at the top
of a woman's vulva -- it extends into her body like a wishbone, with
legs at least 2 inches long, and all of it can be erotically sensitive
because it becomes engorged and erect when aroused).


2. Myth: There's no such thing as a G-spot.

Truth: The Grafenberg Spot (named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg) does
exist, and it is comparable to a man's prostate. It's glandular
tissue that surrounds the urethra and in some percentage of women
it is indeed sexually sensitive, especially to pressure.


3. Myth: Every woman has a G-spot and should find it, or she won't have optimal sex.

Truth: The truth is while every woman does indeed have a G-spot, not
every woman loves G-spot stimulation. For some, it's “Wow!;” for others,
“Ehh;” and for still others it can actively feel irritating -- not a
sensation to pursue for long, much less add to your repertoire. Plus,
if she's not turned on when you get started, it's not likely to feel sexy.


4. Myth: Nipple stimulation is a must for getting a woman aroused

Truth: Some women LOVE nipple stroking, licking and sucking, and some can
even orgasm this way. But other women really don't care for it at all,
especially when you twist them like radio dials. You're not trying to get
a signal from outer space, you know!


5. Myth: Women who don't reach orgasm during sex just have partners who don't last long enough

Truth: More than half of women (some studies say way more than half)
don't orgasm during intercourse. In fact, more important than duration
of intercourse for many women may be how aroused she was when it began
-- which means all the sexy stuff that comes before intercourse may be
the most important element. If you're going to worry about time,
remember that minutes (or hours) spent on that kind of pleasuring is time
well-spent.


6. Myth: There are secrets you can learn that will let you please ANY woman

Truth: While sexual secrets may well be worth learning, the only
secrets that really matter tonight are the ones that matter to
the woman you're with right now. Learn those preferences and
responses and she'll consider you a great lover -- the tricks
that worked on your ex (or that you spent money to learn in a
Get More Girls seminar) may not be the things that float her boat,
since women are individuals erotically as well as in other ways!


7. Myth: Pheromones are the key to her arousal

Truth: The nose knows, eh? While appreciating a partner's pheromonal
signature (which you can't just sniff like cologne) may be
a key element of attraction, that doesn't mean you can slap
on some of that special after shave you got because you were
reading the spam e-mails promising you success in bed. Those
are often made of pig pheromones anyway, and you'd HATE it if
she left you for Porky.


8. Myth: You’d be able to tell if she faked it for sure.

Truth: A recent study revealed that men thought their female partners
orgasmed about 20 percent more often than they actually did. Apparently
it’s common for a woman to fake her orgasm, and the very best way to
know if it's happening is to talk to her intimately to make sure you
know what truly works for her -- and then do those things! She won't
even think about faking orgasm if she's having an orgasm.




Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/health/2010/12/22/myths-womens-bodies-debunked/#ixzz18x2gAnhy

Category:Aliya Leigh Live - Podcast -- posted at: 10:24am EDT
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